How do you face lovelorn?
By Zoe520
@Zoe520 (61)
China
February 18, 2013 1:59am CST
My boyfriend broke up with me and i still could not forget him.i don't know if he still love me.He said we are not suitable ,but i said i can try my best to change my temper that he doesn't like ,he still not willing to give me the chance and said goodbye to me at last,the day before we broke up ,we still very well and i can feel he love me as usually.but why so quickly,i can't understand it.now we broke up for 15 days and not contact each other anymore,acturally,i miss him very much and want to send message and call him.but i can't.maybe he doesn't love me anymore ,i treat him as my husband all the time and dream can get married one day,but the fact is so cruel,how do you face lovelorn?do you think i should try to retrieve him ?and can i always waiting for him?i'm very unwilling to fact this ending,i still think we can more happiness than before..what should i do?
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@AnnieHouston (208)
• China
19 Feb 13
I prefer that a girl should live bravely even though life treats u. U need to persuade urself that u'll live happy and happier than before when something important to u has left. If u still take pains to retrieve something that abandoned u first, everyone especially the one u let go first will look down upon u. So give a second thought.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
18 Feb 13
Send him a message about what you feel. If he doesn't react, then you should start getting on your life without him. it is hard to force yourself on a person when he has completely given up on the relationship.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
18 Feb 13
Not hearing from him for the past 2 weeks just means that you need to move on. You should no longer expect for hi, to come back.
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
18 Feb 13
I agree with Jenny. There's no point in trying to make something work if both parties are not on board. Relationships must be a two way deal, if someone will have to do all the work then the other will end up being abusive and resentful. Don't be too harsh on yourself and give it time. Moving on is not something that happens overnight. But the sooner you decided to start moving on and letting go, the sooner your will get there.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
If he really loves you he will not just leave you like that without any valid reason., I know how it feels to be hurt specially with the one you taught will be your forever but we can't control other people if they really don't want them to be with you anymore just think that somebody deserves you even more., just heal your wounded heart for now and love your self more.. but if you think he is worth fighting for even he did hurt you it is up to you.,
@mondaylover (183)
• Poland
19 Feb 13
Do not send any messages, don't call him, don't contact him! It will only make you feel worse. It seems like he already made up his mind and since he used that kind of excuse he probably was thinking about break up for some time. I know you still love him but you have to move on. I'll repeat once again: don't contact him! Don't daydream about him comming to you apologizing, don't get your hopes up, don't hurt yourself any more then he hurt you. And try to distract yourself with work or other activities for a few days. Spend some time with friends and avoid sitting alone in your room.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
18 Feb 13
It takes two people to make a relationship work, and if he isn't in a place where he can work on it, he is moving on, you probably should too.
I'm sorry this upsetting event happened. I don't think you should wait for him, I think you should find interesting things to do and meet some new people and have fun without him.
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
18 Feb 13
It is said that if you love some one, then set that person free, if he/she comes back to you, then it was yours and if it doesn't then it never was. Just 15 days have passed. You would have done something which hurted him. Give him some time. I know how it feels. Wait for more time. Let him come to you.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
18 Feb 13
there are lots of things to be done. you can talk to him once more and ask him if things between you and him do still have a chance,wait for his answer before making any decision. or yet, if you can still feel that your ex does love you, wait for the right time for it to heal and patch the lost relationship. but if you can feel its really useless for you to hope, oh nice, do not be martyr, instead-try to move and forget about him. so it is up to you what to do with the situation you are into now. God bless :)
@41CombedaleRoad (5954)
• Greece
18 Feb 13
I'm sorry Zoe but I think you have to move on. He is still being nice to you because he feels bad about breaking up, do not read anything more into it. If he had any second thoughts he would have contacted you by now.
Look after yourself during this hard time, give yourself some treats, spend time with friends and family who love you and be disciplined about the way you think of him. The best way to deal with this situation is to make yourself think of something else every time you think of him. Do something to take your mind off him, something you enjoy. It is impossible to think of two things at once, so as soon as you realise that you are thinking about him immediatly think of something else.
At first it will be hard going and you will have to do this lots of times during the day. After a while you will realise that you are not thinking about him quite so much, that is the beginning of getting over a broken heart. Good luck, things will get better.