If a guy strays ...he is a casanova...

It is unfair...and we women also think that way because we are conditioned to..:( At least, we as women should understand...was watching a crime serial out here...the social worker's husband who was influential tried to rape the girl who had taken refuge in their house and then called the girl all sorts of names. The lady knew ...still she threw the girl out...why not her husband?

Yes, society need to respect women who are divorced or separated due to cruel and mean husbands. You could even write an article on this subject and could get it published on any website.

You are presuming that the woman who allows the man to cheat is aware of his marriage...lol. In most cases, they are not, and in many cases, the woman is told that the marriage is on rocks, and soon there would be a divorce...remember "Look Who is Talking". :)

I think cheating ...whether men or women...in terms of love should also be made a monetary offence..that way, neither would.

*I do not agree with stary1 that women can control themselves better, they simply make a sensible decision to be faithful and mean it. It is men who spread the myth that women are made of sterner stuff, when it suits them. When men want their own way who sets the standard then? A good example is wages...

Waiting for the right one can make us old. We as women are forced to take chances...because of our biological clocks, right? So at least, we as women should understand other women.

now you are right there.. the good ones come around just once. As we say in spanish here. Have a great day..

VAndy, it makes me sad "when people will not pick up the pieces, and move on..with life!" They have a choice, stay stuck in a groove, and "woe is me, forever," or look at the good side of the bad experience. Get out of the groove, and one step in front of the other! I am NOT defending the dalliances of the males, here...I simply am saying..just because you found a bad apple in the barrel, doesn't mean the rest are tainted. In the West, we call it "tarring with the same brush." And I am a firm believer, money doesn't pay for sins...so money mixed in, is like buying recompense.

Its true money does not pay for sins...but most people, including Prince Charles hesitated when they were asked hefty sum for divorce or separation, whatever. So men should be scared of saying " I will Marry you " ..this will enable the woman to take a call. When there are no promises, and still she moves ahead, she needs to accept it as risk she took. But if there are promises, because of which she took the risks, then it should be treated differently, isn't it?

I want both punished..lol I mean..not fair...perga...I am old, and i dont find my heart fluttering anytime... You put a young Ashton Kutcher...or old Bruce Willis...the reactions are the same...no weak knees, and no oh my god oh my god stuff..lol So...it happens only in certain age group. We have health then, and looks as well. And if a guy ditches a girl then, she spends a lot of those 25 odd years in distrust...and might even end up dangling to somebody out of no choice... Has it then not been an injustice to her done by the guy who promised to marry her? I have similar sentiments about girls ditching guys. Nobody should be hurt. I know for sure, guys too hurt, and they hurt as bad if not more. Given that...its only fair that this be recognized as a cognizable offence and any promise to marry be monetarily punished. That way, the hurt party at least has some consolation.

Yes...it is and Dearra is right...even if she is a blond. :)

Lelin...people make mistakes. I'd be ok with a girl who had moved with a guy or two and then realized my son is the right one for her. It only means that my son is better than at least two other guys out there. And it would make me feel proud. Young girls and boys do err. However, doing it for fun is wrong...or doing it with ulterior motives is wrong. I know many guys are not sure of themselves. So instead of approaching that hot and sexy girl ...they approach her friend first. Dialogues go like.. your inner beauty and what nots. The object is to impress the girl and catch the attention of the actual target. And one fine day ditch the girl for the target. This is so unfair...leaving somebody heart broken is so unfair...that girl had not approached the guy in the first place. And not only does she get labeled bad she also suffers internal agony. There should be some punishment for this, isn't it? Likewise in the case of guys...the girl aims at a rich guy and then finds somebody richer and more powerful, dumps the previous one. Both are wrong...and both deserve to be treated as offences. But social condemnation is only for the girl...in either situation.

Yes...I did. And he would get away on the pretext of being drunk...because a person has to be of sane mind while committing the crime, and he was drunk so he was not in his senses..right. Talk about justice...men need to change the way they think out here, but there is a lot of resistance in letting such equality percolate.

Thank god for an Honest Indian. :)

Not all girls...mavic..:)

Yeah...I know...girls cant brag. Some girls do. But most importantly, we shouldnt be ok with cheating anymore...isn't it? Either way. It hurts. Because one of the two is truly sincere. Once the person is hurt, he or she wont trust others, and might end up like an infected person...going about cheating and hurting others. Some punishment is due for such a behavior, dont you think?

Sorry couldnt get you...texting is similar to what is happening out here...you know reading the discussion content...short discussion would be texting right? So merely texting would be lose morals? Even if the messages were not exactly.. clean..? I think it is guys who are shy...they test waters...they try to develop confidence by first approaching the girl who think will not refuse them instead of going directly to the girl they really like. Thereafter, they get the introduction and change their trains. The girl then is left high and dry...and thought of as somebody who is of loose morals..right? But she was not the one who was interested in this guy in the first place...it was this guy who approached her, practised and perfected his skills on her may be..before moving out. Be happy the girl who said ...the guy is not her type...is not using anybody as stepping stone..