do you agree????

i shower everyone I meet with kindness and I always try to find in people I'm not afraid to point the good out and compliment a person. I try so hard to be a nice person so people will see past my less than desireable outer shell and look to inside to see that I'm a good person But I alway's meet with rejection.You be the best person person you can possibly be,when some one takes advantage of your niceness,tell them so..I have been nothing but nice to you and you are treating me like crap' Being nice does't mean we have to pushover.It is possible to be nice and strong at same point.

I totally understand this situation. I came to my current company(a state-owned company) since 2011 after I quit from my previous private company. I deeply found out that the palpable differences between them. One of them is a kinda unfairness. ie. if u act kind and nice and have the jobs done efficiently, then all the same work will be urs undoubtly, even more, when others have nothing to do, no matter how hard the work is, how many they r, all the work is for the one who is nice and kind. So now I became a little bit rude to my leader and now he turns to the kinder one and since then, I am be so free at time, I can do my own things no matter how many works will be done.

Because it's just not in me. Don't get me wrong, I agree with you 1 million percent! And for me, it got as bad as being blamed for things I didn't do, just because it's easier. That was when I was living with my mom. It took me a long long time, just to find someone that would get into a relationship, but I eventually did and nwe obught a house together. It took a few years but I started noticing she was doing the same thing to me. And you are so right. It hurts! And maybe that's partly it. I know how it hurts, so I don't want someone else to feel the same way. Now she doesn't do it all the time. But I do find myself wishing for the old days.

Being rude does not get you anywhere at all because people don't like rudeness. I'm a very nice person and rather be that way then mean, rude or nasty to others. People have respect for me and I have for others. So people don't take advantage of me because I'm not at all weak and you can't get over on me. I'm a nice person because I live by the motto " Do onto others as you wish them to do too you."

Yes being nice hurts many times. If you are kind & nice to people then they try to take advantage of you & use you for their greeds. So it's better to be smart enough to guess people & their intentions, then act nicely with the nice & act rudely with the bad.

It's rather being rude to avoid getting hurt that shows weakness. A person must feel very insecure to act that way to everyone just to stay in his/her shell and never ever get hurt. You can't be affraid of being with people. And you can't be with people when you're rude to them. I think it's the ability to open up to other people that makes you a strong person.

I think you´re right. Unless that person is strong enough to take the life being nice and be the weakling but normally we all need the true of ourselfs... And in hard times you need to be "rude" in some way i guess I know some people who always try to be nice but they look more fake than nice for example. ;) you´re just totally right in what you said

you may think it but it is never nice and does not make a person feel bad