How Do You Overcome Shyness?

I once read that shyness is way to protect yourself against situations where you could get hurt, and I believe that is true. If shyness holds you back you don't experience rejections, but on the other hand you also miss out on a lot of things. I was very shy when I was younger and I tried to challenge myself by doing some of the things that I was afraid of like making a speech at a party. It was very difficult for me, but I managed to finish the speech and afterwards I felt great. To overcome shyness I think that it is good idea to make a list of the things that you find difficult and rate the situations according to the difficulty. Start with one of the easiest situation and move on to the more difficult situations when you manage the easiest situations. It is also a good idea to look at your thoughts and try to change them into positive thoughts instead of the negative thoughts that you have when you experience shyness ("I am going to make a fool out of myself". "people will think that I am stupid" etc)

I didn't break out of my shell until a good friend convinced me that I wasn't as evil as I thought. He made me see everyone makes mistakes and that I Do have worth. When I Finally realize he was right I became less shy.

I don't know about that, I think many shy people are born that way. It's just part of who they are, like gregarious people are born that way. There's nothing wrong with being a little shy, anyway. I think this world could stand a little reticence! It irritates me no end to have someone just start talking or asking questions, trying to get me to talk when I don't want to.

I'm shy and awkward when there's a lot of people. This is training from the parents and also hereditary. I am shy and I see some of my relatives are shy people too. Some parents control their children a lot and so they ended up shy. I trained some children who are shy and does not talk a lot and looks dull. However, they just need someone who will talk to them a lot and let them laugh a lot and just act naturally without being so conscious. Now, I see these children who are once shy is not shy anymore.

Yes, I am a shy type person before most especially when I was still in grade school. I was being bullied by my guy classmates and so I had built a so low self esteemed. I do not know why they are bullying me.I just remember that I was thin and weak before and just a silent kid. I was always crying at the side. Bu then, when I had reached my high school, I was better because I gained confidence, maybe because I have a lot of friends already and I was an excellent student before. I became very active in reciting and I have a very good grades. That helps in boosting my confidence.

Overcoming shyness is a step by step process. The shy person must try to expose itself to diferent social situantions. At first simple one like saying hello to a stranger. With time the social situations must become more and more comlexed.

Shyness is something that is rather difficult to get rid of. However if one has the will power to overcome this problem, then he/she should do his best to find ways whcih will help him surpass it. If for example one hates to speak in public, it is a good idea to start a little at a time, by addressing some friends, then his class, and then maybe read in front of a religius gathering/mass. Little by little he will get used to having people looking at him and some of the shyness will subside. Therefore it is best to go for it and avoid letting the shyness overcome you and making you lose opportunities.

Both my mom and dad has a very strong personality. So I see them as a disciplinarian. My dad ,being a boss in the office, would sometimes treat his kids as if we were his subordinates. Well, actually I was his "home secretary". So in certain functions that we would go to, he expects me to mingle with people most especially with the kids of his friends. Well, it was hard for me then to come up and talk to people I rarely see. So he would be like bulging his eyes as him it would pop out just to tell me that I should start making friends. Well, I tried the best I can. Still, despite the discipline, I still feel too timid even in school. You would never see me talk to other people that much except for my close friends. But when I got married, (yes, I was already that old then ) I have learned to reach out to people. So working at my brother in law's pharmacy has helped me a lot in improving my skills in talking to people. Some would just be asking what they want to buy and then give them their change. But what I did was I started short conversations among the people most especially the regular customers to gain their trust and somehow, I have become friends with them. I know that it helps to be in this close distance to these people coz they know that they are being treated right and is given a great customer service.

I overcome my shyness by do it time over time.You don't need to care so much cuz nobody is gonna take that so serious.To be confident and you'll found it cool to relax in front of so many people.This can also gain you confidence as well.So good for you and good luck,you'll experience its amazing.

I am naturally a shy person too. But I have tried my best to overcome it. I believe I am no longer that shy person I used to be. It just shows sometimes. But as compared to before, I can talk or say what I want to people now. Before, I used to be so timid that even when I wanna say something I will just choose not to talk. I do believe that yes sometimes shyness is because of the experiences a kid has in their younger years. When they don’t have much friends or when they’re bullied. When their life as a kid is not good can sometimes make a kid grow up a shy individual.

Since birth shyness maybe true but there there are ways to solve it. Start to socialize.. join in any club .. and try to communicated all the time..

To overcome shyness, first of all, I think one should make himself/herself becoming very willing talk,and also continue to communicate with people! Keep learning can let one have confidence and topic with the others.To take part in some public activities also can make a person become lively up,learning as a teacher is another method!

Tell me about it. I was a totally an introvert shy guy. Until I moved away from my state to study in Andhra Pradesh. I was a different place where no one knew me. I felt like a different person and before I knew it my shyness was gone. I am not telling anyone to leave their home, I am just saying that this is how I was able to do it.

Well, all you have to do is being confident from the outside. First, you have to walk straightly with no sign of humpback and face the front. This is the most efficient way(and it is healthy for your bones, too :p). You also have to practice your speech quite a bit so that you can speak more fluently while in public. While being embarrassed, you can either ignore the embarrassment or laugh together with those who make jokes of you. Be outspoken as being shy shows others that you are being evasive which causes you to lack of self esteem.

When I was a young teenager, I was a person that was painfully shy. In fact the thought of getting in front of a group and speaking was something that would make me physically ill. However, I was able to overcome this shyness when I was in eighth grade because my language arts teacher saw something in me that I'd never realized I had and she encouraged me to join the speech team. That one year of my life took me from being a painfully shy person so someone that had the confidence of speaking in front of people and it didn't matter if they were friends or strangers.

There are many reasons for being shy, but to overcome it, in my opinion is simply accepting who you are, appreciating your strength and overcoming your weaknesses. Embrace who you are wholeheartedly to be able to show the world who you are.

When you were talking about shyness I was ticking the boxes cause it's just so me. The feeling of being watched and not wanting to be embarrassed. I had a nice childhood though. I think it's just my nature. So every time I try to describe myself I always say I'm "shy and awkward". But guess what? People don't see me as shy at all. I guess growing up made me unconsciously overcome it. Experiences and being more out in the open and being away from home improved my confidence.

We must be bold and improve our self confidence to come out from the shyness. As you mentioned low self esteem will gave shyness. We must be confident and believe our self to come out from shyness and acheive a lot in our life.

I overcome shyness through achievenents. I overcome shyness by doing things that I can be proud of or that can add to my confidence, like being an honor student or winning contests (most of which are writing competitions). I don't know if it's right or wrong to overcome shyness by achievements, but it has helped me a bit. But right now I'm still shy... very shy.

I was a shy girl. I don't why I am not same girl now. LOL