LYING, EXCUSES, etc....

I think thats a good idea, everyone needs alittle space. I loved it in the 12 years I was married. Not all the time, but a few times a week i liked being alone.

Why do you have to go and lie like that? I would be hurt if I was your boyfriend. Just be honest with him. He should be able to understand that you are free to hang out with other people you want to be with as long as you still love him and as long as you are faithful to him. No harm done.

So what exactly keeps you from going out with your friends? Having a life of yourself as well? The "fact" you once told yourself that if you would have that bf you would always be together? big chance he is sick and tired of it as well. You better start meeting your friends, set some goals for yourself as well since sooner or later (and it's already that far) it will break you and you will start your hating your bf.

I think that is normal for having a long time relationship. My boyfriend and I are together for almost 10 years... In my early relationship with him, its like.. I am his world.. and He is my world...we stopped going out with friends and lost my interest to meet other people.. But I just woke up one morning and I felt this feeling of unexplainable loneliness and i realized that I missed myself being single, being with my friends, being alone.... So, I talked to him about it.. I explained to him that sometimes I have to go out without him, I have to do things alone, and We have to mind our own business alone and without intervention from each other. Good thing to my boyfriend he supports me all the way as long as I am happy. So, talk to your boyfriend about it, tell him your real feelings.. If he love you he will surely understands you.

hi there... things go wrong if being done excessively. well for me, on my own opinion, you need not to lie. you can talk with your boyfriend about meeting your friends. i guess, he can understand that. we really need socialization in our lives not to get bored and for us to grow also. but we should know how to handle our limits and responsibilities upon the matter. just enjoy with things. but please with no lies for we can talk with them and ask permission... it is hard in a relationship when trust will be stained. so please be aware. :) thanks for sharing this..

Maybe you need to talk it over. Tell him how you feel and what do you think about it. Ask his opinion because who knows, he might have felt the same. You should take your time enjoying each other's company but don't forget that you also have to grow by having a life outside the comfort zone. Be honest with him, I know he'll understand.

Why should you have to lie? In a healthy relationship you should be free to have a social life away from him, and so should he. Not dating other guys, obviously, but going out with a group of friends, an individual friend, family, etc. If you're having to lie, there is either something wrong with you not being able to be honest, or something wrong with him (ie controlling, isolating you, getting angry over things he shouldn't get upset over, etc.).

I can understand where you're coming. I don't think lying or making excuses is the right option here exactly. I would just be open with him and say you miss your friends. It is healthy to have a balance between your companion and your friends. People still need that. It's not a separation, it's more of you still be an independent person. It is easy to loose yourself in another person when you are in a relationship, but friendships are important too.

well, even you have a boyfriend, you still should go out to meet friends and enjoy your life also, don't change to become his shadow... I think you don't need to tell lie or hide to him about meeting your friends.

Same here, my boyfriend and I broke-up because I didn't trust him anymore. All these time I thought he's telling me the truth until I found out that he's lying to me. No third party, but he made an excuses just to be with his friends instead of talking to me on skype. We're in a long distance relationship and all we need is time and trust to work it out.

Hi, friend, always we don't feel as good as we get in the relation at first, three years is not a short time. Maybe your life needs passion and energic, so why not sit down and talk to your lover about your furture and think about some interesting things?? Good luck

you might be needing some space. and it is good to have this once in a while so that you will know yourself more. IT is a breather ... and it is normal. but aren't you falling out of love with your BF? Have you tried different activities together? the ones you have not done for 3 years? and yes sometimes we find comfort from friends.

You should set up your time and meeting friends instead of lying to your partner. Enjoy your life with yourself honestly, this will keep you happy too

yeah lying for excuses and hiding something to you or they don't wanna hurt and remember there are two types of lie which is the other one is white lie

You need to learn to do things with out your boyfriend. It gets tired real fast being together 24/7. It's all great in the beginning of your relationship but after a while it gets to be way to much and then you start to lose your friends because you forgot about them. My hubby and I we hang out together but then he has his time when I say ok go fishing or go do something but I need a break. He feels the same towards me too. It just gets to be to much after awhile. If I were you instead of lying I would sit him down and explain how you truly feel. You might be surprised and find out he feels the same way.

I think its a good idea to meet with friends, but please lying to your bf is non excusable. Just tell him you and your friend will have a little fun get together. I'm sure he'd understand. If you want to get out for yourself then that's great, but lying to him about it is what you have to think about. You also are the one refusing before,it's not like he asked you to refuse your friends right? So why lie to him now?

Hello dianon_ice14 this is checkmail and it all depends whether you are enjoying the company in real or just trying to make it look like you are enjoying it.There are some sudden but short feelings of disguise but later its too late to rework on it.You may try to make changes with routine stuff if ain't working than just its you mind that would guide you in this subject. excuses and lying is another act of childish behaviors try to be bold but up to an certain extent.

Hi dianon, everyone needs space every now and then. Which is why family's argue. There with eachother every day haha. I am sure your boyfriend will understand you want some space just to relax and meet with other friends to see how they are and hang out. I am sorta in your situation I been knowing my girl (friend) for a year now. We hangout almost every day, but I want to just chill at home sometimes it is fun and all, but I am getting a little tired of the same routine. I never told her I want to relax at home for once. I would just lie and say I am going to be busy the whole day. I don't want to make her feel bad and make her not want to invite me anywhere anymore. I want to ask her out but I was already getting a little tired an we aren't even a couple we are just very close. Imagine as a couple o.o I don't know what to do I enjoy her company it's just I need space as you want as well hehe

I think sometimes space is good for a relationship. There is nothing wrong with you both having a life outside of each other. He should do his own thing sometimes and so should you, it should never be one sided though because that is not fair either. He should do things too with other people. That is a good thing, nothing wrong with that. But you should probably have a talk about it and let him know you want to have some time with your friends as well. He might be feeling the same way without saying it. So, it might be a good thing to talk about it. He might take it better than you think!

oh..you should have time to your friend especially to yourself.you should tell the truth to your boyfriend dont be lie.he should understand you..