Is CHEATING really a CHOICE or ACCIDENT?

Its been 5years of married life and i have not yet experienced any type of cheating from hubbys side nor did i cheat on him. I dont know about future but i believe he wont do so. Cheating is a choice rather than a accident. If your faithful in a relationship you wont think of cheating your partner and making life hell.

cheating is an accident, if it face a raid hand caught situation. When someone is caught, he or she has no other option than cheating. Moreover cheating in such situation reflects that he or she dosnt want to live in that situation permanently and she or he is happy with you. But in the same time, if someone cheat without any hard and fast situation, definitely it is his or her choice only. Many a times, people love to cheat others just to show that they are superior than others. They say all big and moral things which in fact they do not practice in their daily life. I guess, if you talk on certain philosophy just because it is good as per society and in the same time you dont practice that philosophy in your life, then you are a cheater only. In most cases, i have seen people love and share their feelings and in the same time advocate others not to love other than life partner. It is also one way of cheating only. Heyyyy, i usually dont write so much in mylot, but just now i came to know that by writing more lines, there is a chance of more earning! woooffff ... so i am practicing writing few more lines here too. Thnx for digesting this lengthy non-detail story.

Hi markIT, For me, cheating is a choice. No relationships can be an accident may it be a forbidden or a normal relationship. People do not accidentally become husbands and wives, or boyfriends and girlfriends. they all have agreed to be in the relationship and there is of course a decision made... and with a decision that is the person's choice to be cheating with someone.

Cheating is a choice; however, there are times in a person's life where it's easier to make a bad choice. When someone cheats, it means there is either something wrong with the relationship, or the person has needs that are not fulfilled within the relationship. You never ACCIDENTALLY sleep with someone else. There's a little effort involved, and usually plenty of time for reflection as to whether or not it is the right choice.

Of course it is a choice. I'd say it is crap when someone says it is an accident. That's just lame. Cheating is never an accident. That's why I believe it should not be forgiven, tolerated and encouraged.

Cheating is really a choice. People are given the options whether to do it or not. Thus, whatever the person choose to do, then it is based on his own decision. Cheating is not an accident because accident only happens when you did not intend to do it that way. In cheating, you do it intentionally and you hurt people as a consequence of what you did.

cheating is cheating and believe mw its not accident, the person wanted to do it and he did. I would never take back a cheater as they can never again be trusted at all ever.I would leave and thats all there is to that as I know from watching others that it does nmt work to take them back.

I would say that cheating is definitely a choice because if you love someone enough you should always be strong enough to say no because in the back of your mind you should be able to think about how much you are going to hurt your partner and you should also be able to think about how they would feel after you did something like that. I think that anyone who blames cheating as being an accident is just a weak person or they are someone who may not be as committed as their partner wants. Even if you say that it's an accident it still comes down to a choice of whether to do it or not.

True, cheating is a choice. It was never an accident. You can avoid cheating if you want to, but if don't want you can cheat because you thought your partner will never know the truth that's why you choose to cheat.

At risk of being the odd one out, I would say it depends. For example, someone could go out with a really good and trustworthy friend for a few drinks and your friend does something or you get a drink you didn't realize was as strong and ended up cheating. If you then go an apologize to your partner when you wake up the next morning or something then I couldn't say it was a choice in cheating. It isn't like the person planned to go out and cheat. Now if they are planning to go cheat or something similar then that is different.

For me, it could be by accident at the beginning but when you continue what you did during that incident and became a habit then that cheating is by choice..

Cheating is a choice.. when you face a situation where you are torn between doing the right thing or doing it whatever the consequence clearly it is a choice..

Well in my thought it is both a choice and it can be an accident by that you never know you could not be looking for any thing and it just happens with no thought at all

in my opinion its a choice, from what i've seen and learnt and even experienced is that most men who cheat are at a certain age group being the younger set, its kinda like they can't set their minds to one particular woman, most men at a young age run around until it becomes a habit which is extremely hard to break, some do some don't, on another note some women are the reason why men tend to stray away(boring), on a womans point of view with cheating, some females just have a style where they cant stay with 1 man, they feel confused seeing the same person everyday, i kinda think its a mind thing lol, at the end of the day when going into a relationship its not only finding someone who you can trust its a gamble.

In my opinion about that matter is a kind of choice not an accident. Because if you don't want to cheat, you don't do it. If cheating is an accident there might be small chance of cheating because an accident might happen just once or just twice...

It's a choice, you know you are in a relationship, then why bother to entertain temptations when you know that you will eventually cheat. People make excuses to say they are just human and it was an accident, seriously? Accidents happen when you don't have control over the situation, cheating can be avoided if the person avoided it in the first place.

Meeting the person might be an accident. But allowing yourself to be involved with each other despite the odds is definitely a choice.

Cheating is a choice. It feels a need, the need to be seen, the need to be heared, the need to feel you are still a great hunter, catch etc.

Cheating is a choice and there's no excuse on this when you committed it. Cheating is the major source of fight and breaking up in a relationship were we need to avoid it to maintain our good relationship to our partner.

It's a choice, it could never be be an accident. A mistake yes, never an accident. It's selfish and cowardly. It can ruin many many lives!