Not everything that seems love is love.
By jearl02
@jearl02 (211)
Philippines
March 4, 2013 9:37pm CST
It is alarming to know that almost every person have experienced a broken heart. Some of them even commit suicide to end the pain. This makes me ask myself if there will be a way to escape the painful effects of a broken heart.
The best way, I believe, to get rid of this painful situation is the understanding and analysis of what we feel. This is because not everything that seems love is love. Most of us, upon feeling something special about a certain person, usually conclude that we are in love, that we like that person and that he/she is important for us. We all know that everything happens for a reason; thus, we meet a person for a certain reason. There are people who are meant to cross our path to be there to teach us something about this life. (If you feel sad and lonely, you might meet a person who will teach you feel that you are valuable and must enjoy life. I you have been hurt, you might meet a person who will teach you to trust again and believe that there is something good to happen in the future.) However, we seemed to believe that we are in love when we meet someone who makes us feel better, special, and worthy. Heartbreaks come when we are already convinced that it is love indeed and the time has come for him/her to leave our path after fulfilling his/her real purpose.
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
I totally agree with you. Most of the time, we are deceived by our feelings and we immediately come to the conclusion that we are in love with the person whom we enjoy spending our time with. However, the more painful reality is, many of us don't know how to stand by their promises our vows. In my opinion, when you fell in love and the other person reciprocates that love and you end up in marriage, there should not be any plan of turning back anymore. You may have been deceived that you love the person, but its not the point. When you say you love someone, you should know how to stand by it, not making any reason to get out of the relationship.
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@jearl02 (211)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
I agree. Breaking vows are sources of pain. I also believe that whatever decision you have made, it may be wrong, cannot be corrected by making another mistake. That is, if you are in a relationship and there are no legitimate reasons to put an end to it, just perform your part well avoiding any pain to both of you.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
yeah, because in the first place, no one forced you to go into that relationship. It was your own personal choice so it would be best to stand by it. I just hope this is realized by everybody to avoid more broken families or relationships.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
5 Mar 13
I have never had a broken heart as they say. I was once in love, married him for 12 years and it ended bad. But I cant say he broke my heart.
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
really? how come your heart was not broken when your marriage ended after 12 years? I guess 12 years is a long time already.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
22 Apr 13
Personally, the issue here, is that many times people never take time to get to know everyone better, instead of just trusting everyone. Especially from the first . Quick jumping in with both feet and tread the water first until you have times out there we find ourselves related tool as well. And just because someone says they love you, stall get to know them first. Take off your blinders first.
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
I believe in love and I believe that most people I meet and I know, I love. I also believe that there must be only one The One. And this The One is just in our minds. We have different mentalities when it comes to love. When we are addicted to someone or something, it's all just in the mind. But what we don't know is how to program the mind not to love that someone or something that's why we end up being overcome with the idea that we really love someone and that we think he or she is The One when actually there could be a million other The Ones in the world but we only set our eyes and mind into that one.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
5 Mar 13
Hello
Jearl I hope that you are fine. I think that Love is not an easy task. But I believe in God´s almighty force, God loves us and wants us to be happy. He has offered us some tools such as prayers, confession, communion, to help us achieve the love we need on life.
Jesus is the path, the truth and the life. And Jesus is love, he is the only one who´s always loyal to us.
I was heartbroken 18 years ago, and I agree with your point of view. But after being betrayed, I found God. And now my husband and I have 16 years of marriage and 3 kids, but my center is Jesus. He took me when I was in deep pain, and since then he has never left me alone, with his love I´m able to forgive and to give love.
Blessings Jearl... dainy
Jearl I hope that you are fine. I think that Love is not an easy task. But I believe in God´s almighty force, God loves us and wants us to be happy. He has offered us some tools such as prayers, confession, communion, to help us achieve the love we need on life.
Jesus is the path, the truth and the life. And Jesus is love, he is the only one who´s always loyal to us.
I was heartbroken 18 years ago, and I agree with your point of view. But after being betrayed, I found God. And now my husband and I have 16 years of marriage and 3 kids, but my center is Jesus. He took me when I was in deep pain, and since then he has never left me alone, with his love I´m able to forgive and to give love.
Blessings Jearl... dainy
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
That is the sad truth about the love that we might feel. The strong feeling we have for a certain person may not necessarily mean love. I can attest to that. I had to learn it the hard way before I knew what it really was. But despite the pain I felt, it did make me stronger and wiser.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
5 Mar 13
We cannot judge these people, some of them have different experiences that makes them weak when it's about love. If I have this kind of friend I will be glad to hep them get over withe pain. As for me, I have always believed that there will be someone that's meant for us but if ever the person will leave for what reason then it's part of our journey.
@akhaniemar (122)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Sometimes it's not on the understanding and the feelings anymore. There are times when it's already obvious that it's not love, however, people tend to be hopeful and wanted to insist that its really love. Maybe that's the reason why we tend to be hurt too much, because of too much expectations and we can't accept that it will only fail us. The outcome is not what we want it to be. Well, life is not a fairy tale as they say, but I do believe each one has his own happy ending in love, it's just that we just have to look at it deeper and accept what it can or cannot give to us. Until then, we'll fully achieve our own happiness in love.
@danix1982 (593)
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
i think it depends on the person involve on how she/he differentiate the real meaning of love.. there are people who loose hope easily when they heart is broken, some are just making funny only, some are serious, some are not. but one point in our life what is very nice is we feel all this things whether rich and poor. :)
