Why do people think it's OK for parents to verbally abuse their kids?

I think its because parents feel like they are automatically owed something. They've brought a child together onto this earth and given them everything they have. Had it not been for the parents the child would not have ever existed. Its this sort of thinking that makes parents feel like they are owed respect, loyalty, obedience etc. automatically from their children. If they ask their child to do something and he or she refuses, they'll often remind them that they live in their house, eat their food, they pay for everything the child has and uses so the least they can do is everything they ask of the child. I really hate that. I've never been and don't foresee myself ever being a parent but that's what I think based on my experience with my own parents. I really hate it as well. It makes you feel like you've been brought into this world with a debt that you need to repay.

These parents must learn proper parenting...maybe they were treated the same way when they were kids, but that should not be an excuse to do the same to their own children. Also, parents must realize that verbal abuse is often more hurtful than physical abuse. Because verbal abuse sticks to a child's heart and soul whereas physical pain is temporary and it heals faster.

I think your right that many people do believe that parents can treat their children however they want... My father in particular was very verbally abusive when I was younger. He told us we were born to be his slaves, if we didn't mow the lawn in a perfectly straight line we had to do the whole thing over even in 90+ degree weather, he would scream at us for the smallest things, etc... We were very afraid of him when we were younger. I don't think people should be so harsh about it's their house so it's okay whatever they do, not true in my opinion. Kids should be respected also. They are people, just because they are young does not mean they should be treated like they are stupid...

Hi friend, parents don't have the rights to force their kids, they must treat their kids in a good way and don't force them to do the things as for their favor as well as never abuse them with their activities. Parents must surely avoid beating and blaming their children for unnecessary things, they must keep patience and grow up their kids in a good way

Hi Jamola ! This should not be the case , parents must nurture well the child in all aspect that includes , physical , emotional , spiritual , social and psychological aspects. When a parent verbally abused the child , he/she is not nourishing the emotional and moral aspect of the child . She/he is breaking the emotions of the child , hurting it which sometimes it will never be healed or if healed it would take years or decades. Though they are parents they never have the right to abuse verbally the kids ! They must learn to respect the kids by guarding what words that will be spit out . It doesn't mean that because they are parents anything that comes from their mouth is moral and correct and will be followed ! Parents must know how to listen to the kids . Let them express , let them pour what they have inside , don't be hurt parents because it is in here where you will see what more or less you can do to mold the child better or best ! {Parents don't be egoistic and thinking you got power over this kids , that is not the responsible all about. Let them speak and after them you tell them your stand in a very kind , relax and convincing way. This could provide a very healthy growth of a child

there is no reason to be dis respect of any person adult or child it is wrong and they have no morals I do understand yes if they are living in the house then there has to be rules and they should be followed

I disagree that parents treat their kids as they will. Parents should realise that children are their responsibility. Children are their future.

When a parent verbally abusing a child it changing that child psych completely. I don't believe a child should be abused verbally or physically. I'm extremely critical of this type of behavior because I know the abuse that I suffered while growing up. So when my daughter yells at her daughter in front of me I get very upset and tell my daughter please don't yell at her talk to her. I know kids can be a bit crazy at times and a parent will lose control but to prevent that you need to take a break and breath. Then tell the child exactly what you want the child to do and why in a nice toned voice.

There has been a lot of says what is the most effective way of disciplining their child. The positive or negative way? The positive way would be to reprimand and use a positive way of saying it to your child. The negative way would be to use physical means or verbal just like what you said. I prefer the positive way first then try other things if it is not effective.

When its a matter of discipline, a kid should be given proper training. I dont think wise not punish kids. With the modern ideas, children are not beaten either in school or at home. An about abusing, if it is mixed with vulgar word, definitely i m not with that. Otherwise sometimes they need to be scolded too. Without proper training, kids cant understand what is bad and what is good for them. In some way, they are not more than objects. Thank you.

actually it is not ok to verbally abuse the kids or curse them. it's just that it was already accepted the society that is why people, parents or whoever dont care if they cursing a child. it a sad reality.

Well, yes there are people that take it for granted that for parents is allowed to critizise children or to to shout at them . But that is wrong because I agree with the advices to trat children with good manners and firm and soft voice at the same time. Let`s give children the chance of understand in a good way, talking in a calm way and explain them what we hope they do, for example do the homework , leave the computer etc.

scientifically speaking, kids who grew up hearing parents screaming at them turn out to be bad adults in addition to being rude and difficult to tame. They feel a constant lack of love and isolated. Sometimes in order to release the stress they are under going they torture plants and animals around them. It may be that parents loose their temper at a particular instant but it leaves quite a long lasting impression on the kids crumpling their confidence and even their childhood sometimes. So i strongly oppose this. but just wish I could do something about this....

I was raised by verbally abusive parents and I am against parents who are abusing their kids, insulting them as if they are not their own. Parents don't have the right to be abusive to their kids, instead they should be the one to support them and understand them. It is possible that parents think that it's okay to verbally abuse their kids because they are parents, but it's a wrong mindset. I'm lucky I didn't experienced this but I feel for those who had been in this situation and those who are still experiencing this.

You're right. Generally, most of the time there seems to have an unfair relationship between adults in general and the young ones. Adults are always right! Dont even think of arguing, you will loose no matter you're right or wrong. It just shows their power against those who are younger, and that adults might be confused when being answered back. That's it! Therefore, they must stop it from the beginning...

Well, I don't really know the answer to that question, but I can only speculate. I think people think that it's OK for parents to verbally abuse their kids is because the kids deserve it. Sometimes kids act too naughty and rebellious that parents cannot take it anymore, and since some countries actually make it illegal to hit or beat children, parents use abusive language instead to vent their frustration to try and control their children's behaviour. Other possible reasons include parents use abusive language to exert authority over their children, perhaps to subdue the children up to a point where the children are fearful of the parents and then listen to what the parents say (hence mission accomplished). Personally, I would prefer a gentler way of handling children's behaviour and antics, because using abusive language to kids could have long term repercussions on the kids' mental health and progress.

I think that some parents truly believe that they are not abusing their children as long as they are not being physically harmful. Abuse can be verbal as well. There is no reason that parents need to show abuse to their children in any way. There are ways to discipline your childrenwithout bringing harm to them.

It's not okay for parents to verbally abuse their kids. First, if they keep on doing that, they're child might grow-up thinking that he/she was not loved by his/her parents. And if that happened he/she will become a rebel child, meaning the child won't grow-up with goodness in his/her heart. It is important to treat your child well, their attitude will depend on how you treat them.

I hate to see that. Ive seen many parents do this in Mexico. very sad. How do these parents think their kids will respect them after this? Very sad...

One time I had a little argument with a teacher here. She is also a Filipino. She told me, that she told her Thai students in Filipino "Ang bobo nyo naman talaga no" means.. "YOU are such dumb aren't you" and she was laughing when her students replied... "Yes!"... I told her that she should have not done like that because it is quite off and inappropriate. Of course her reaction was to be a bit off to me too. no one has the right to verbally abuse everyone. NO ONE!