Marrying the responsibility but not the woman?

I ask the opposite question: Is it right to impregnate and woman and then not marry her?.....

now days you don't have to get married but I would step up and be a man and a father and support the child via pay child support if you know what I mean

i think it's not fair for either of them. i don't see why he has to get married just because they are having a child. it doesn't make him any less the father. he could still be a parent in the child's life, if they weren't married. i wouldn't blame him too much, though. she probably got pregnant on purposed to try and trapped him. one of my sister's in law plays games like that with people's lives.

Would it be possible that this guy loves this woman because first and foremost, she is his girlfriend? But they just aren't ready financially to get married but because they are expecting a baby, and wanted to make everything legal, they chose to get married? Well, LOVE is definitely not for those who aren't in love with each other. You marry someone mainly because you love him or her and you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her. You want this person to be the mother/father of your kids. But if someone would just marry someone out of love, whatever his reasons are, that is unacceptable. That would only make everyone suffer in the long run. Marriage is a serious matter and needs preparations.

Hi friend, i agree with you, we must find our proper partner and have good understanding with them before getting marriage. In this modern days guys are interested in giving birth to the kid before their marriage and marry their girl friend due to the kid, but this kind of activity is not a good thing. Both of them have a good maturity and have the ability to face the responsibilities in the life before getting marriage and involve in a serious relationship.

maybe we dont know their situation. or maybe it because of the culture, or maybe he really wants his child. or maybe he wants to be responsible as a father and he sacrifice to marry the women. depends on which side you look that problem my friend. in my contry, a man should marry the women if she got pregnant because of that man. why ? it's because the culture.

As long as each party is honest with the other, a marriage may be very successful. In fact through out the world marriage for love is the least likely reason for this contract. Arranged marriage is much more common.

People marry with different reasons. Some marry because they want a lifetime companion. They want a partner but they don't want to have children. Some marry because they want to have a family. They want to spend their lives with their partners and their kids. Some marry because their friends and relatives are getting married one after another. They don't want to be left behind. Others marry because of love. And some marry because of responsibilities. Maybe it's unfair to her. I hope before they get married, he will tell her the real reason why is he marrying her so that she can choose if she'll continue the wedding or not.

Hi, It is not fair. In the first place, he should have avoided any intimate relationship with a woman he does not love. Being a rational being, he should be able to know the consequences of his actions and be responsible for it. He is not guided by instinct and every thoughts and deeds are executed with absolute clarity about the outcome and the things that goes with it. Doing the contrary makes him less of a man and very damaging to the woman and the future child that irresponsible and thoughtless act may bring.

it's not fair situation for both of them, but for that reason, they have no choice but to married -most of case in Indonesia, both couple get married. it's still good to hear it marrying the responsibility than covering the shame.some people did that marriage not because feel responsible for the pregnancy, but because they shame if the baby was born before they get married.

You know, I am under the impression she knew what type of guy he was and found a way to get herself pregnant. I mean this man is willing to marry her after finding out she is pregnant because that seems to be the type of guy he is by what you are describing, and she figured he would marry her. That is just my impression however. I do not think it is fair to get married not just for her or him, but for the child as well especially if they aren't in love or he isn't in love with her. He should still take care of the child but to get married in a loveless relationship, the child would see this and it may not be good for his or her psyche.

Do not marry if it is for anything other than love and mutual understanding.In marriage the factors of mutual respect and love is important.if you marry for anything else it will never be a good marriage.

I think this is just okay. I always believe the "love" can follow along the way. I don't know i believe that if there is a need for marriage for the sake of the child why not. As long as the father "recognize" and "acknowledge" the child. If not, then marriage is unnecessary.

It's not only the decision of the man, if they will get married or not. A man may want to form a family with the mother of his child, no matter the feeling for her. That's a choice. The woman can make the same choice or choose something else. Having an unplanned child is the responsability of both of them (it happens that only of them to be "guilty", like the woman if she forget to take the pills, or the man if he didn't pull it out in time) and shouuld be seen as such. Both should be responsable, no matter the circumstances, and provide for the child. Marrying is just an option to make a family for the sake of the baby. But if both agree on this... I don't see any problem. It's not "unfair" for the woman and it's not unfair either to not marry. Because she also have a brain to judge the situation...

I don't know and neither do you, to know exactly what is on this man's mind. Sometimes people don't know what they are talking about or mean what they say especially when the present issue is so overwhelming. But, if you approach it surgically to the time where they were together in bed I do not doubt that there were feelings of love there. Sure there will be that reason for the unborn child where the child will need a complete family structure of having both its biological parents. On this aspect, I feel that it is fair enough though not completely but isn't this what life is all about where you do not get everything served on one single plate. Like arranged marriage, is it fair for the woman or more so for the man as well? Will there be love eventually? Why not? In my opinion - Assuming responsibility is also love. Assuming responsibility is also fair for the woman.

For me that is not fair to marry without love otherwise they will not be happy or always tied up in obligations only. In your friend's situation that he need to marry a girl just because the girl is pregnant, i am not agree. It is much happier if a boy marry a girl with his love. Marriage changed our status. From single to married.

I think it depends on someone's values, views, way of life and culture. In conservative cultures, the women are suppose to only lose their virginity to the man she is marrying. The men however, wants to marry virgin women. So if the woman got pregnant by accident it would be a shame to the family and the society if the child do not have someone for a father. It's really different, we can't speak for everyone else. If the man wants to marry a woman that he got pregnant even if he does not love the woman, that's basically his choice.

As me, the problem is the woman agree to marry him or not. If she loves him and she is not interested in his love, this is fair.

Marrying is a choice though, and it means that weather you love the person or not you have this responsibility towards your partner, but as for me a person should marry the other person because of love not because of responsibility. Well if love in not the reason of the marriage the tendency is the other will look satisfaction with someone and it means a family or relationship struggle.

That's not fair of course much more to the child. This is a sign of immaturity for me. It depends on their arrangement if they are going to live together after the marriage. Who knows that things get better when they start living together as husband and wife. However, I still believe that one should marry for one reason only and it is because of love. How can a relationship survive when there is no strong foundation of it? Even those relationship founded on the strong love at first turns sour in the process, what more can you expect from a marriage which started out wrong right away?