are you afraid of old age?
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (14876)
Philippines
March 11, 2013 12:01am CST
Many of us think that dying is a horrible thing which I think is not. Dying is inevitable and I am aware that when someone is born, someone is dying on the other end. It is inevitable. Man has failed long enough to find cure to prolong life. It's a pity.
But I am more afraid of growing old. I see a lot of elderly who are being ignored by their own children, family and relatives. Some are being sent to a pension house or retiring home because may be they feel that they are already a burden. I feel so sad whenever I hear stories when children become so very busy minding their own lives forgetting to visit their old folks back home. The worse part is that when you grow old alone because your better half left you already for some reasons like death, or you just got separated. It breaks my heart even then to feel that I would become a burden to my children as well. As parents we want them to live their life to its fullest and I do not like them to be burdened by having an old folks at home starting to mess their life because of old age.
What about you, my friends? What do you say?
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20 responses
@wefallwerise (39)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
The word for me is Anxious. And perhaps the biggest reason for my anxiety is sickness and hospitalization. I have a government health insurance blog, and I read many comments about children worrying about where to get the money to pay the hospital for their parents' hospitalization, and about the deficiencies of the government's medical program.
That's why I continue to work hard... to cope with current needs and to prepare for financial needs at old age. And to try to live a healthy life to prevent hospitalization. I also continue to pray to our God for continued blessings.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I think thats what everybody should do at this point of our lives. All of us will get there and we have to make sure that we will not be a burden to our loved ones once old age comes near.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
11 Mar 13
Im not, and not afraid to die. i just want to make sur emy son is taken care of, before it happens.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
I know some old folks who's living a fine life. Some are managing a small business, and some are just hanging around, probably using their funds to support them. I'm not old but I'll have to say that it would still be up to you on how you would live your life. Many old folks have said that to me "I don't wanna be an interference with my child's life", but their sons and daughters are thinking differently. They wanna take care of their parents because they are the people who took care of them.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
That is true. We also need to do some preparations so that we won't be a burden to our children. Preparing for old age is not really a bad thing. And if at least we have been a good parent to our children, they will treat us fine when we get old.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
exactly.
But just like all the rest had said, its a natural process and all of us might be going through that but some may not because they would die young and never reach that old age anymore.
@night01watcher (259)
• Italy
11 Mar 13
that's right, i have the exact same phobia as you have, children leaving old parents to rot in old house. that is just so bad. I hope my children are better.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
I hope my children are better as well...we've been talking about it already even they are still very young. As much as possible I instill in them the love of the family, respect to the elderly.
@pavani27 (28)
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11 Mar 13
I accept the natural way of our life.what exactly I feel is that..I should enjoy to the fullest with my beloved before getting old.We should roam,have a happy and successful life and I pray god to give me all the strength to carryout my daily works so that I don't become a burden to someonelse and my beloved staying by my side when I breath for the last time.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
12 Mar 13
I'm not really afraid of getting old because that is the process we all have to go through. Growing old is going through the cycle of life. It is what happens and there is absolutely nothing we can do about it. Except, take good care of ourselves by exercises, eating healthy and keeping active. If you do these things you will stay young at heart which will make growing old alot easier on oneself.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
you will become afraid of getting old when you are not happy of your life and that you are not conditioning yourself to things that might happened along the way. for now, let us not think of bad things or negative thoughts. let us be positive for now by thinking that God has plans for us in the near future. let us all lift what we have and what to become to HIM and for sure, He will be there to guide us. life as you said is inevitable, yes, our being is the result of what we are doing. so instead of fearing of what it has to happened, let us devote ourselves how to be a human and God will repay this for your welfare and goodness. just have faith.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Hi Che ! This is so sad but a reality ! This is happening especially in western countries , less in Asian country because Asian's are well known for its extended family. We love our grandparents. I won't allow that to happen in our family. We will served our grandparents now matter how busy we are . They will live with us and will die in our hands. This is one way of expressing our gratitude for them , that during our younger days they served and loved us also.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I am thankful for my age , i reached this far ! Some people don't reach this age ! I am so blessed then. What is in age , They are just numbers , attitude is what matter most. Some are in adult age but still up to now they are not doing good deeds. Living life like a garbage , too bad ! Age is not important , what is important is the legacy that we are leaving in this world. So while we are still alive , let's make the most of it ! Do the most worthy things , touched someone's life and make a difference.
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Why should I be afraid of growing old. It is nature what I must do, is to prepare myself of what to do when I am old. It is an honor to reach the old age. If you are old and afraid of becoming old invite me if you have and let us enjoy the old way life is beautiful I will guide you how to be happy.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
No matter how you prepare yourself for the future, you cannot be sure what it holds for you. It is a privileged reaching old age with grace but the things surrounding it might somehow hard to imagine...
@sheillaG0623 (171)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Before I'm afraid of getting old and die, but that was before when I didn't know anything about the Lord. I have a lot of worries, like my skin, or how would I look when I get old, how bout my kids when I die or sort of like that. But when Lord showed my not to worry about my future, and be confident that he is always in control. We are afraid to get old and die because slowly we are gonna lose control to anything that we can and we cannot control. Human tends to control life even if they can't and even if they didn't have to. But trusting God and having faith in him and in everything that He does give us confidence of getting old relaxed and peaceful.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Well said my friend. I know God will take care of that. I am not worried about changing how I look when I get old...I guess it is just about the worries of being a burden to people you love make someone sick worried.
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
12 Mar 13
Yes you are right...Sometimes I feel afraid growing old and being a burden for my son and daughter, sometimes I pray that I pass away without give a burden for my progeny. Yes they are have many businesses with their family while I cannot help them anymore. I think most parents think about this case.
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
11 Mar 13
No, I am not afraid to grow wold, because I am 65, and that isn't young at all, but it isn't really old either. Getting old is a fact of life, and nothing anyone of us can do about it. I am so thankful that God has sustained my life this long, and I pray he will sustain it a little longer. i live each day, like it is my last, but I I prepare like I have a long time yet. It is inevitable, that I will eventually die, and don't know when that is, but I will try to live my life according to God's word for the time I have left. Take care, and God bless you. 
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
I know some old folks who's living a fine life. Some are managing a small business, and some are just hanging around, probably using their funds to support them. I'm not old but I'll have to say that it would still be up to you on how you would live your life. Many old folks have said that to me "I don't wanna be an interference with my child's life", but their sons and daughters are thinking differently. They wanna take care of their parents because they are the people who took care of them.
@Laurenlynn (715)
• Canada
11 Mar 13
Hi cherigucchi Well I am not afraid of getting old I have worked in a few nursing homes and I have seen where some families cannot do enough for their loved while others never came around till the end or just never bothered. I learned a lot from this where some coworkers would judge family members, however over the years I learned not to judge this topic we really dont know why perhaps they were not good parents, or it could be it was too painful for family members to see them failing. Home care is becoming big for this reason as many do like to be able to stay at home and this way they can have the help they need and still keep their independence.
@borgieboy7 (72)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Honestly, I am not afraid of getting old. For me its a challenge. I just need to prove myself that I can defy aging and diseases despite of my age. I want to look young even if I reach in my 50's, 60's or even 70's.
But aside from the physical aspect, I want to grow maturely as I am aging. I want to learn life's experience while my age is adding continuously, for me, that's the important matter of being age.
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Nobody know what its going to be tomorrow. We can't even tell if we're still alive before reaching an age we consider as being old. Some die at a very young age. I don't feel worried about being old but being old without having anything good to look back to. When I am old, if God permits, I will only want to remember the happy days and memories when I was young and just be happy about life.
