Are we disappointing our parents?
By jearl02
@jearl02 (211)
Philippines
March 12, 2013 9:47pm CST
Our parents married early. My mother was 17 and my father was 21 when they got married. We're not rich but our parents tried their very best so we can study.
I married at 22, my younger brother, now 23, is living with his girlfriend and our younger sister, now 21, is pregnant. I and my brother both graduated from college and are having a good job now. My sister's boyfriend has never studied college but is also working. Another thing is that, I married to a girl who has a son with her previous boyfriend. She was 3 months pregnant when I started courting her. My brother's girlfriend is also having a daughter from her previous boyfriend. That daughter was 2 years old when they became lovers. Our parents accepted this fact about us. However, there are times that I asked myself if we have been good to our parents. Are they really happy for us?
What do you think of this? Are we disappointing our parents?
5 responses
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
13 Mar 13
In a way they may be a bit shocked and desperate... but as long as you have a nice life, and happy, I don't think you disappoint them, ideally. Because... I always felt kind of uneasy about parents expecting anything from their children, other than being happy. They may have a view of future, but they should be aware of the fact that you may decide in another way... you're not bad to your parents just because you live your own life... you haven't done anything unetahical, so what?
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
13 Mar 13
I don't think being involved with people with children makes it a disappointment for one's parents. I'm a parent myself and as long as my children are happy and productive then I feel proud of them.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
Every parent would dream of seeing their kids in a good state and become successful in their chosen career. They may get disappointed for sure, but I guess, from the say that you have described your family, it seemed that your parents are not the type who would choose the person whom they want for their children. And even if they are somewhat hurting, they have accepted your decisions coz they know that your choice will make you happy.
@takie023 (14)
•
13 Mar 13
The pain of wanting to see their children have proper family life but couldn't will be there, but don't mix this up with whether they will be unhappy. One thing is definite, all parents want to see their children live well and happy. Are you and your siblings happy? If the answer is 'Yes', then I don't think you should worry about whether you have disappointed your parents or not. As long as you are happy, they will also be happy.
Peace.
