You loved, but you lost. What will you do?
By borgieboy7
@borgieboy7 (72)
Philippines
March 12, 2013 11:28pm CST
Way back two years ago, I fall in love with this girl which is also my co-worker. We used to exchange sweet greetings and smile always when we are in our office. It comes to a point that I express my feelings toward her and she said she's not yet ready. I courted her for almost 2 months and tell her that I'm willing to wait.
After that following week, she told me that I should stop courting her because she has a new boyfriend. It broke my heart that I always tell myself what's wrong with me. I also resigned from my work because I hurt so much.
Now, I already moved on and find a new love of my life. But, she's now returning to me and expressing that she must not have hurt me. Honestly, I still love her but I don't want to be unfair with my current girlfriend, what should I do?
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10 responses
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
15 Mar 13
well, if you loved her but she did not fall in love with you, then I think it is wasting your time and feeling to keep her in your mind anymore. you can be honest with your girlfriend if really you can not forget her. but it is better if you can not have that girl in your life, then do not hurt your new girlfriend with that.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Make up your mind.
I think that woman is playing you. She might not be as interested with you as you are with her. It appears that she is turning to you as if you are a back-up boyfriend. Don't settle for anything less.
It's best to stay with your girl friend. But if you don't love your current girl friend that much, then... why did you even bother courting her?
Women are not people you own. You court them when you are true to them, as if they are the only woman for you. They are not products you can switch anytime you want.
Sorry to say, but I hate what you are doing to yourself, to your crush and to your current girl friend.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
How can you have gotten yourself a girlfriend if you were still in love with her? I do think that you are just confused with your feelings. She left you hanging and you have thought of a lot of "what ifs" back then. And now that she is back, the memories of loving here came back. I am not sure that you really love her but you must be just wanting to find out if it would work coz this time around it was she who is asking for it.
So I say, just ignore what she wants and stick to your girlfriend. She lost her chance. Why would you choose her now over your girlfriend when you do not have any problems with your girlfriend at all?
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
You already have a new girlfriend. She wouldn;t be your girlfriend if you didn't love her. I guess you need to just spend all your time with your girlfriend and not to the girl that you used to love. She told you before she isn't ready and yet suddenly she got herself a boyfriend. What I feel is that she just missed that love and attention you used to have for her. Her relationship with her boyfriend might not work and that is why she is there trying to get your attention again.
I do hope you be fair with your girlfriend and forget the other girl.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
15 Mar 13
Your situation is very critical. As you mentioned you still love her and she returned from her new relationship. In the mean time you find another girl for you. I think now you are in love with two girls which made you to get confused. Your first lover is not good, so don't give a second chance to her and continue with your new love.
@akhaniemar (122)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Think and weigh things out. Don't be unfair with your present girlfriend. She had been there all along when you're down and hurt. Remember that the girl you've fallen in love two years ago have left you all along. She did it once, she might do it again so don't get carried away by the words she's telling you. This time, be a man and think about what matters most, the one you're going to lose or the one you wanted most in the past who've hurt you.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
It seems to me that the girl you have loved before just take you for granted. She had hurt you so bad and even resigned from your previous job because of the pain she had caused you. And now that you have move on and found your love, she was trying to win you back. My advise to you is just forget her and move on with your life.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
13 Mar 13
Thanks for this discussion, i just wonder how some one can be so fickle in serious matter like love, it is not childs play too, she should have waited for long, so i don't think it is love, it is just lust
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 13
How come you still love her if you already have new girl friend, it seems to me that your new girl friend is only a toy for you or she is only a haven? I am sorry to be mean. You say you already moved on, it is not move on if you still love that girl from your past, you still not get over her. Make your decission, if your new girl friend know that you still have feeling for another girl it will hurt her more than what you feel when the girl from your past told you that she got boy friend. You have to be honest if you trully love your new girl friend or the girl from your past.
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 13
Hi friend...I know you love her, but you should consider what she has done to you in the past. I think she known how you love her so much but she choose someone else. if currently she wants you, I think it is not fair for your girlfriend that have been accompanied you for long time and heal your broken heart.
I think you should see forward and forget the past, because your life must go on with your decision right now. I hope you can take a best decision on your problem...
