The problem with guys
By khithi17
@khithi17 (762)
Philippines
March 13, 2013 10:17am CST
I don't understand why most guys, I'm not saying that all men are like this, but most men does this. When they don't love a girl anymore, they just date other girls and don't even let the first girl know that I am not in love with you anymore. You're not turning me on anymore or maybe just say that it's not working out between the two of us. I mean, If you have no interest in a girl anymore, might as well let her know the truth than let her drown with all the lies and believe that thew relationship is okay even if it's really not. And then when everything is in it's worse condition, then the guy lets the bomb explode in the girls face which will really hurt her 'till she dies of heartache or 'till she goes insane.
hahahah. I know I sound bitter. But I know a lot of girl feel the same and ask the same question. Why do men do this kind of cruel and selfish thing. For what reason? Is it because guys are just thinking about how the girl would feel if he tell her the truth? because if that's the reason, It's bull. The girl would be more hurt if the lies grow and grow. It is more painful and it's very selfish.
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13 responses
@sheillaG0623 (171)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
remember... a boy is different from a man... nowadays we have a lot of boys but lesser man... why guys are doing that kind of cruelty... its because they are not man enough to face the situation... because they are still "boy"...
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@khithi17 (762)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
@ally, I also know some guys who does that for the same reason, but giex is right. It is more painful for a girl to suddenly find out that she's been living in a big lie for a long time. I think it's going to be easier for girls to move on if they know the truth from the very beginning. Women deserves to have a choice too.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
14 Mar 13
The bottom line here is alot of men just don't care. They would rather have the woman break up with them then the other way around. It is not just selfishness,it is being a coward. They rather makes things worse then standing up to the woman and tell the truth. That is how I see it.
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 13
Hm I can't say that it only happen to guys, it happen to girls also. Guy or girl sometimes become selfish and think what they do is to prevent the gir/the guy whom they they don't love anymore from hurting if they tell him/her the truth. I mean it, there also some other girl who simply dating other guy when she is still in relationship with her boyfriend. It's not about guy or girl, it's about how mature their way of thinking. Well, just my opinion
@khithi17 (762)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Yeah. The way humans think is sometimes selfish and immature. I am not saying that only guys does these things. Girls do too and like you said, it depends on how mature one person thinks. But I am basing my opinion on what gender does the cheating game occur more often.
@jdawg011 (498)
• Canada
14 Mar 13
Because men are humans and humans are selfish. Women often do the same thing to men. There could be many different reasons, maybe they were lustful and couldn't resist someone's approaches. Maybe he's just a jerk, or maybe he is in love with someone else but couldn't bring himself to tell his girlfriend. There's too many possibilities, but in the end it comes down to being selfish as a human.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
13 Mar 13
This has been going on forever and so call "men" will never change. I believe when they act this way they are still "little boys" that haven't grown up. I know if my hubby was no longer interested in being with me he would not cheat on me. He would tell me to my face that he no longer is in love with me. We are talking about a man of 48 years old. Where his brother who is 49 will play the game and cheat and not care what he was doing behind the girlfriends back. I find it amazing when kids raised in the same household grow up to be so morally different.@khithi17 (762)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
It's still a good thing that not all men are ruthless cheaters. I also know some guys who are really dedicated and faithful to their partners, wife or girlfriends. So I admire those type of guys, But it seems like more and more men are getting into the cheating business and enjoying it.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Mar 13
Your right, not all men are like this. My husband tells me all the time that if he is not attracted to me anymore or not in love with me anymore he would divorce me rather than cheat on me. I am glad he would do that. I would rather get divorced than be cheated on!
I think the guys that do this kind of thing are not matured yet. They are still acting like kids rather than grown men. If they don't want to be with someone anymore they should tell them rather than lead them on for nothing...
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
15 Mar 13
well, I think they do that, because, they want to have chance if new one will not work, they come back to previouse one. maybe for that they hide and lie. but I have heared a lot, men are just kids.
@giex22 (273)
• Cebu, Philippines
13 Mar 13
Truly, most of them are like that. They're always keeping secrets to their gf when talking to other girl but it just depend to guys knowing that their girlfriend will get angry if they have a girl companion but not all of the time he is dating with the girl. And yeah, they would always say that they didn't tell the truth because they don't want their gf feels bad but of course we prefer to know the truth rather than keeping in all lies. I can accept the pain through telling the whole truth than all lies. I've ask this to a guy why they do that and the answer is "I Don't know" he can't particularly answer me directly.
@takie023 (14)
•
13 Mar 13
I don't think it is a case of the guy does not love the girl anymore or no longer find her attractive, I think it is more like the case of TWO-TIMING. I know guys that do that personally, they are just having fun having more than 1 girlfriends at the same time.
And honestly, for any girls to get really hurt over this kind of guy is just a waste of time. You obviously can't change this kind of behavior, it runs in the blood. There are good guys out there who is faithful, honest and lovable. They valued the one they love and will never two-timing. What ONE can do is to LOVE YOURSELF, value yourself, know you're valuable and worth a good guy, and live well. One day, good guy will come along and when that time come, don't fail to identify 'honest guy' and love him.
Peace.
@XtremeGaming (742)
• South Africa
23 Mar 13
Boys have swag, men have style and gentleman have class. :)
@XtremeGaming (742)
• South Africa
23 Mar 13
Hmmmm..... bitter indeed. I find this slightly offensive. Maybe you date the wrong men to begin with? I've never broken up with a girl. I don't just date any girl . But sometimes..... I think i know a girl but she wears a mask. That wont happen again as I'm no longer naive. It takes alot for me to feel like leaving a girl. If you really love someone you won't. And anyway I don't like giving up. And being strait up and honest is better cause I don't like beating around the bush or wasting my time or a girls time.
