Does time stop when you are in love?
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
United States
March 16, 2013 7:48pm CST
I hear this a lot: time stops when you are in love. What exactly does that mean to you? I was in love once with my husband for 10 years. There are certain moments that stand out even now like they happened yesterday, but they were actually 21 years ago. In one way if thinking it is like time stops and you can see into the past like it is happening now.
Is that how it is for you? Did time stop when you fell in love or grew in love? I didn't fall in love. I slowly grew in love. A lot if terms people in love use don't seem to apply to me, but the time stopping sort of makes sense to me in my own way of thinking.
Your take mylotters?
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@CookingIsMyPassion (653)
• United States
17 Mar 13
Way back in 1975 I fell in love with this skinny, tall and very smart boy. We have been in that same love with the same feelings this very day. I have been told many times when he looks at me he sees that same girl he fell in love with 38 years ago. Aging didn't seem to put a damper on anything and in our minds time has stood still but we have grown and adjusted to the times and changes that we live in today.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 13
I think this example is what romance is all about Cooking. This is just beautiful. Wish that could've happened for me but it didn't.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
17 Mar 13
I think many think they are in love but really arn't. I can honestly say I was never with my ex's, 1 guy once upon a time. But I set standards, goals, and morals noone will break those, which in the end prooved he wasn;t the one. Most are in that dream world and believe they are, they will give up everything and not realize it. I know a handful of people who are like this, and I shake my head and wonder how can you be so stupid.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 13
I didn't ever fall in love. I liked them and grew in love. I would never be with someone intimately that I didn't live. But it's getting to that point. For me, being in like with someone is not reason to be with someone. Love grew as we spent more and more time together. I can still pull memories out if my head that are like still pictures in my mind. I'm grateful for that.
@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
18 Mar 13
When I was 25 without much experience of life, I fell in love and got married but woke up when I understood that it had all happened too fast. I think we both fell in love with a dream person that did not exist in real life.
He left me after some years, and I decided that next time I woud take a lot of time to learn to know the person first really well. Falling in love can affect the brain so that we make stupid decisions and this state of mind can last for at least six months or more.
So I am not in a hurry any more. It may all start with a friendship and slowly grow to more and more trust and the future will show where it leads.
Even a warm and close friendship is worth so much, and we can have as many friends we want.
I believe in a future when the earth will be a paradise and that makes it all easier, as it seems clear that it may be very near now.
Keeping busy studying more about it and encouraging my friends and spreading the good news, makes the time go faster.
I have a very good friend, and some moments we have learned to know each other better, feel like the time has stopped and it is like it happened just yesterday.
But all good relationships are growing and we can only follow and see where it leads - makes life exciting..
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
18 Mar 13
Thank you friends! We can be happy if we learn from our mistakes..
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
18 Mar 13
Well written. Love in itself is brain chemistry between two people. Their brains link up together in some way and the chemistry is dynamic.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
17 Mar 13
Time seems to stop when you are in the throes of passion but time does fly with wings otherwise.But memories are evergreen and this is what keeps a good marriage going.I too can see many events as though they are seen in a mirror but the mirror is a bit faded ; I did not fall in love but grew in love and never would like to live without my partner.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
18 Mar 13
We were joking about thsi 'falling' in love in another discussion and here is the link to it--
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2538189.aspx
True love happens only over time; instant chemistry can be felt at first sight in rare cases and this can be sustained and can become true love.But in many cases it only grows.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 13
I've never understood that term 'falling in love'. It implies you had no control. I grew in love. It didn't just spring upon me. It happened over time.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
17 Mar 13
i think time stands still when you are in love. then again, it sort of flies when your having fun and in love. i still can't believe it's 9 years me and my baby has been together. it seems like a long time , because it feels like i have known him all my life. at the same time, it's flying by because i am having so much fun being with him.
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@childlike (6)
• China
17 Mar 13
For me, everytime when I reminiscence my happy time with my friends but without the possibility that we can stay together at present, I always think to myself that how time kills our relationships just by slipping. So I am apt to feel the rapidity of time. However, if I was around them such as in our holiday, definitely I will forget the time until the moment we have to part.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 13
Time, whether it seems to pass quickly or stand still s merely perception. All we truly have is now. We have the memories in our heads. I have them too that gives us the illusion of time standing still.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Mar 13
hi pointless we fell in love at first sight and married six weeks late. I guess in a way time stops when you are in love or anyway my memories are like stills in that I remember us going for drives on the spur of the moment once to a koi farm, once to a flower farm where my husband bought me a huge armful of fragrant stock of all colors and they smelled so good too.Another time we ended up in an all negro church where we were welcomed with open arms and all sang lustily and with good rhythm.
These trips remain like pictures in my mind as I remember how much fun we always had and we did not ever have a lot of money either.My husband was a sunny cockeyed optimist who never had a black thought while I was the pessimist who always looked for the worse .But he did change me a lot.Its great t o live with someone who is almost always cheerful and up and not gloomy and down.My son inherited that from my husband and it stood him in good stead in the years he was unemployed.He still rem,ained hopeful and kept striving to get anything to do.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
17 Mar 13
It was such a beautiful narration Hatley and I loved reading your response. It brought a bit of sadness within me too to think that that wonderful man is no longer with you. Your response is a lesson to many youngsters who are not contented with lots in life and want more and more and more. I sincerely pray your son does well inn life and retains his optimism and cheer.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 13
Moments in time frozen like still photographs. I have memories like that too. Well said Hatley. Your narration touched my heart also. Should everyone be so blessed.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
22 Mar 13
I know it doesn't literally stop. It's like I have still photos in my head of the good times.
@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
17 Mar 13
Wow. For me, I guess time has flown by WAYYYYYYYYYY fast!! I'd have to say my teen years seemed very long, too long . . . socially, it seemed like a horrific time, and I never thought anyone would/could ever love me. Starting college and finding a super job I could finally connect with, I totally blossomed . . . a friend I met at work became more than just a friend in just 3 months, and we've been together ever since (26 years later)!. Time just whizzed by. Sure, we can look back on our adventures and think wow, where did the time go . . . sometimes it does seem like these events happened just yesterday. And after starting a family, time REALLY flew (still is). Oh, we did find some pictures from the other day from what must have been the early 90's . . . ohhhhhhhhhhh, yah, that was us - but definitely, most definitely, a lot of time surely has gone by - ha ha.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 13
Isn't it amazing to see how you and the people you are with in old photos actually have changed over the years? I don't have any pictures. I wish I did. They all burned in a fire we had in 1980. I remember lots of those photos though.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
I am not sure if that I felt that time have stopped when I was in love. I think that more appropriate word to describe how I felt was I was completely enveloped with such happiness that nothing else matters. Although there were consequences when I felt it, I was not worried about it. I have completely sealed all the bad thoughts to focus my life only with the love of my life.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 13
I think we all do that to a degree. We shut out everything and everyone that doesn't matter except that person. This is not always a good thing either. The ones shut out feel it.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
18 Mar 13
I do not know if this one applies to me, what I know is I would always hope that time will stop whenever I am with the one I love. Like when the two of us are having a nice time together, it feels like a days or two isn't enough. I wanted to spend more time with him, but here comes Monday and I needed to go back to work.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
18 Mar 13
There have been times when I wished time could stop, for sure. Like you, reality sets in and I had to go to work.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
17 Mar 13
I feel time would stop if i'm fall in love with someone.This topic is so interesting and my friends also cherish their relationships as me.I'm the one who taks love really important and it's worthy do feel that when i'm meeting the right one in my life.
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@ArielAhhhh (126)
• China
17 Mar 13
I am not sure if time really would stop or not but some beautiful moments i stayed with my ex boyfriend did go into my head oftentimes and i dont know why this could happen. Probably it is because i hurt so much when we broke up and it seems have left a hole in my heart forever.
So sometimes i think time could stop even when i am not in love.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 13
I'm sorry for your loss. Time is an illusion. It's how we perceive our lives as we live from one day, hour, or minute to the next. I also can remember past moments in time like they just happened. I'm thankful for that.
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
17 Mar 13
Time stops when you are in love. Based on my experience when I fall in love, the term means I cannot think anything except the person was I loved, when I work I cannot focus, when I eat I cannot enjoy the foods, when I sleep I always dream about him, and all my mind full about him, even I cannot think...except about him. I think time stops...
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 13
It is perception. I have perceived love in the same way where all I could talk about was him.
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Mar 13
For me time always seemed to go by too quickly when I was in the moment. And, yes, I have memories that stand out like they were just yesterday. Being newly inlove and time spent. Songs bring alot back. Movies we may have watched together.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 13
I still have memories that are like still photographs. It's like I can take each one and pick it up and talk about each moment in time like its actually in the present. It's amazing how that happens.
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@blaqwynter (218)
• Canada
17 Mar 13
A wise woman once told me (my grandmother) That time does not wait for anyone; therefore time does not stop. I believe ''in a moment of time'' Does this make sense?
Great topic!
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 13
Time is just ones perception anyway. Tick tock. . Life goes on. Yes I experienced moments in time where they remain in my memory like the present.