how do you feel when someone seems to evade you?
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (14876)
Philippines
March 19, 2013 4:40am CST
Say you're special friends. But after a long time, he stopped texting and whenever you do it first, he never replies. You cannot even see him online when you're in a social network and you suspect that he turned the chat off mode but you see there are some activities in his profile. He is usually on line every night in his messenger but lately it seemed that he made himself invisible...how are you going to deal with that?
11 responses
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
This same situation happened to my friend.
If I were you, I would directly ask that person what he has been up to. Then ask why he hasn't communicated with you for some time. Just ask him to be honest and that if he doesn't want reply to that, well, just forget about the person.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
I'd rather settle to the last advice...forget the person totally!!
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
This is when we actually apply the saying that action speaks louder than words!
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
19 Mar 13
Well, I am on Facebook (just to mention the site that brings together a lot of people), I have many friends. Many of which do not personally know and I've never even visited in the past.
However, in my case a person I really know (to say, 20 years ago we were classmates), gave me friendship, but said she did not remember me!
Then when I tried to talk to her via chat, she did not answer and was made unattainable.
I do not even understand certain attitudes of some people.
Infuse me, I never hurt anyone!
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
Let us just think that there are really people who suffer from a great deal of amnesia! It really hurts though that they never even remember us at any single moment we spent with them anyway, life moves on with or without these people!
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Whatever explanations one has for this, the hurt inflicted would take time to heal.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
19 Mar 13
I think I got too much pride for that kind of thing, and I honestly don't know if that's a good thing or not. If someone is doing that to me, I can say it is pretty obvious that he's hiding from me. If that's the case, well, that's his problem, not mine. He will not hear from me again and I will let him evade me for all it's worth until he realizes that I am not even going after him at all. And I will see if there's an opportunity for me to give him back a does of his own medicine! Har harhar!
Seriously, t's no big deal. Just let him and move on. He's not the only person on the planet and definitely not the only guy you will ever meet. And the next time he says hi, say "oh, do I know you?" Just kidding.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
I would definitely take note of that! I like that reply you said...öh do i know you?" I am really good at keeping good pieces of sdvice! hahahaha
@shang1990 (43)
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19 Mar 13
How sad..But you know What all you have to do is to wait for the time that he or she will be the one who will find way to communicate with you..But if that time will never come do some moves,or find ways how to communicate with that person,ask to her or his friend for you to know what is the reason why he/she did that to you.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
Well, i think its pretty obvious that person forgets everything and moves on without anybody around. Let nature take its own course. Whatever will be, will be! Thanks for that advise.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 Mar 13
Me, I don't really worry about it all that much. The reason that I don't worry about it is because one of the most beautiful things about true friends is that you are able to lose touch with them for a little while and then when you get back in touch with those friends, it is really like no time has passed since the last time that we'd been able to talk.
For me, I have one of my closest friends that I really haven't been able to talk to a lot lately, but it doesn't bother me because I know he is working out of state and staying quite busy.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
I think it is obvious that he is really evading you and doesn't want to be disturbed so he has put his chat mode off.
I always do that, because i don't want to chat with anybody, but just want to see what's up with my friends and relatives at FB.
If that's the case, that i am being evaded, i will ignore him. If he doesn't want to deal with me, then i don't care at all. He's not my only friend anyway.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
That's what i have been telling to my friend but she still makes excuses for him, i do not know but she just never wants to give up!!
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
I'm not gonna think about that person too much. But when I get a chance to see that person, I would approach him and confront him. Why is he evading me? I only want an honest explanation. After he's done explaining, I will nod and not bother him anymore, since he wants it that much.