When you are friends with your ex

It is a case to case basis. I would really love to make friends with my ex but there are some complications along the way. My husband is not open for it and he never even make friends with his ex so I just cannot do it even if I want to. I have met my ex one time but he's quite into trouble with his marriage so I don't think it was a good timing for us to renew the friendship knowing that the presence of "what might have been"be brought up time and again. I'd rather stay away from things like that before it creates frictions.

I wouldn't have any problems with that, as a matter of fact I found my ex husband on facebook and send him a message requesting him for a friend and just letting him know that I'm happy he's doing well but he never responded. I think his wife might had some to do with that

I've reconnected with a couple of exes. One was three years ago, and the other was just over a year ago. After a few months of being excited about the new relationship/friendship, it both ended not so good. I don't talk to them anymore. Let's just say it was my fault, both times!

I think it's possible to be friends with your own ex as long as they never cross the lines I see nothing wrong with nor needing someone to babysit them and there exs.

I'm not too friendly with my ex. I do want them to have a good future and maybe find the right partner for them. It's no biggie. But I won't be checking up on them all the time and encouraging them. I'm not that supportive. Besides, I don't think they need it. They should get that from their new partners or friends. I don't want them to think I still want them back, because I just don't.

For me I don't think I would even attempt it. My ex made the stupid comment before we broke up that "if we ever brake up and start seeing other people we should still sleep together" WTF??? So I wouldn't even go there. Thankfully he's on the other side of the country right now but I still have to deal with his sisters lol

Well, I am happily Married. There are some of my Ex boyfriends I have talked with from time to time, and have always wished them the Best in whatever they do. I do think it is possible to still be friends with one of them as long as you all are open to knowing you are happy where you are at now in life, and your husband or wife is accepting to the fact that you are still friends. As long as you can remain to leave it at just that, then I feel nothing is wrong with that.

I think it's very possible to remain friends with our exes. If I've dated someone where one or both of us have decided that it's not meant to be a romantic relationship, that doesn't mean that the friendship part has to be tossed aside. I'm still friends with most of the guys I've dated. Even if we aren't in touch all of the time, we're still happy to get together and catch up on what's going on in each others' lives. In my own case, I've been to the wedding of at least one former boyfriend, fixed some up with other women, double-dated with them and their new girlfriends, became friends with their wives and kids along with staying friends with them, etc.

it can be possible when you are both on the same page about the romantic relationship being over, and if there were no really hurtful events that cause you not to want to associate with them.

Two of my friends split up and got new partners. They are still friends and when they are having a party they invite the ex and the ex's new partner. Their break-up happened many years ago, they are both happy in their new relationships and they are also able to be friends and spend time together without problems. I was surpriced to see how well the 4 of them got along, because I am not friends with any of my ex-boyfriends. I tried to be friends with one of them, but it didn't work out. He wanted us to become a couple again and he always tried to persuade me to give him another chance, but for me the relationship was over.

I think that it is possible to be friends with your ex but I think it is a hard thing to do if you still love them. I was trying to be friends with my most recent ex but she just didn't seem to put in the same effort into our friendship so all of my attempts at staying in contact with her began to make me feel more and more pathetic for not letting go. I would just try and message her and see how she was doing but she would never attempt to talk to me back. I also still have feelings for her so that complicates the whole situation. She is really a great person and helped me to grow and evolve and I just hope that I left somewhat of a positive impact on her the way she did for me.

I've made friends with my ex's after ending the relationship although it took me years before I could really face the situation. But yes, I do give my support whenever it is needed. I do think that it is still possible to be friends with an ex, although i am not sure how a husband could really take that idea without having to think of maybe wanting to get back on the relationship. I do feel that I can maintain a friendly relationship with an ex, but a husband would always feel insecure about it.

I think it is possible, and it is good when that relation is based on a kind treatment to each other, but no more. Of course you can have best wishes for your ex, and perhaps all of us think like this, regarding to our ex. :)

I think it's possible to be friends with our ex,I lost contact with my ex-boyfriend for two years,but this year we contact again,because we don't change our cell phone number, I think we are so happy that we can become friends again,we can greet each other and it won't affect our relationship with the current one.

I am not "friends" with my ex...but we get along nicely when we are in one place together...he seems stressed when he is around me....however his girlfriend and I get along famously! Yup....we hit it off so well its unbelieveable...in fact she came and sat with me for about an hour at the last two crafts sales and kept me company. He has mentioned to our daughters the fact that her and I get along so well....LOL..maybe that's what makes him nervous!

My ex-husband and I dated for 3 years, were married for 4 years and have been divorced for 10 years....we are better friends now than we were when we first met. Granted it was right away after our divorce that we became so friendly but not too long. It wasn't a horrible divorce...very, very civil compared to most. We stayed close for our children...we always said we were getting the divorce, not them. I think because we are 17 years older and a whole lot wiser helps alot too!

Generally, exes--whether former spouses or simply having dated for an extended period of time--cannot truly be friends. You might be on speaking terms, but it is rare to really be friends. I am not friends with my ex-boyfriend. I do not have positive feelings toward him. I would not be friendly toward him if I were to bump into him on the street. Thankfully, I do not live in the same state as he does. The other guys I'd dated were not serious relationships, so I hold no ill feelings toward them. The last guy before my current boyfriend/future husband, I was serious about. Unfortunately, he turned out to be lying scum. So, no, I don't really think that people can generally be friends with their exes. Those people are exes for a reason, after all...

I see that most of the responses to you are positive and maybe it can work. But be very careful not to let him cross the line as the slope is slippery. You have been through so much this past year with your husband's illness. So be careful not to get emotionally dependent on him. Sorry if I sound negative - I am not but I have lived longer and know the pitfalls that cold happen. Many blessings

I think it depends on the situation, most cases I believe it can't happen. I can't remember an ex that I have stayed in contact with. Usually when they tried they just wanted me back or for me to stop by once a week for their needs.

Ive been seperated just new years. I had a little contact with my ex because of my son. But most i let my dad take care of. As my dad and ex both live in las vegas.