an unwritten law in peoples minds ?

That's what someone told me about people here are nice and friendly. This is the reason why I would like to join here to experience it myself. I hope I get to enjoy here as much as I can and make more friends. I do agree with you that it is not good to be rude and using insulting words to others.

I really hate it when people are rude and abusive. I did politley and gently chastise someone recently (just a little) as they made disparaging remarks re my age. I am not forcing anyone to respond to anything I may say so what is the big deal? However, she did apologise so all is well. The comment was rude and not funny. No we must show respect to each other and anhyone who has been very rude - well - then I would report them. No need to do so at present

When we find someone rude we feel bad because we feel devalued; that in that persons eyes we are worthless. But if we are secure in our value then no one can diminish it. The greatest good manners is not to never give offence but never to take it all the best, urban

Personal insults, yes. Differences of opinion, no.

You are preaching to the choir here my dear Hatley. That point has been made over and over, particularly by our good friends mysd and the lamb. Unfortunately I don't think anyone else cares. Sometimes I think people just like to argue. I can't figure it myself.

Yeah, but I wouldn't like to feel that I can't trade the odd light-hearted insult with you without some third party interfering and pressing the eps.

People are generally good but when they landed themselves in the cyberworld their behavioral attitude changed to something beyond comprehension. They can be rude and overly sarcastic but in reality they are not that bad. I think so. Unfortunately mylot could not accommodate such people who doesn't respect the friendly community here. We are duty bound in helping to report such unwarranted behavior so we can all co-exist happily. So far I have not encountered any rude people in mylot.

Some people love to fight and argued to some other members to get attraction and be recognize by others. Hope I can first hit that ! next time I found rude people around here

I have only had to report(with the !)an abusive Mylotter one time. And that was years ago. I would not want to be a member of a group whose members are rude and/or abusive to me. These things need to be nipped in the bud! And I hope that Admin. does something that befits the abuse.

never get here first. not even on first page . dont know why i try anyway, i often dont report people until im sure its not just a misunderstanding. couldnt tell you how many times ive been wrong about a persons meaning and btw, i never find the contrivercial discussions you all talk about here. which means i guess i still dont spend enough time here.

that is true and they always seem to think and push the limit by using unharshable words and beyond control which affects people mindset

I guess if it is really bad, but we are here to discuss and some people are bound to not agree with how we see things.

Hi Hatley, I would say it should be the " golden rule" whether on the internet or face to face, don't be name calling! If you have a disagreement , that's fine, we are all not going to agree. However, when it comes to name calling to get a point across, that's stepping over the boundaries. On another writing site I reported it in for some one calling me a name. When people come to writing sites, they don't want to see immature people calling other people names! If you want to call me a name then pm me don't post naughty names to some thing I have wrote for all the world to see. By calling people names where other people can see is just showing other people how rude you are!! How the problem is resolved.

yes, we must report it to mylot admin, so we can make mylot better... I think not all people here talk rude at the others, but maybe some people do it by coincidence and it is just like explosive emotion moment... About unwritten law, I think it is like polite manner, or something like that...

Many people do not want to report abuse. They feel like they are tattling. Others think it is just the job of the admin to police discussions. They forget that we are all a part of the same team. One other thing is that many have become desensitized and believe that rudeness is just a part of life and it does not raise warning flags for them.

When I was a new memember I was swore at,insulted and called nasty things. I had no idea back then I could of reported the person or person's. I know I can be alittle nasty at times here when I sometimes answer discussions. When I get insulted I get angry snd give it back! I don't appreciate being insulted by anyone! Enough said!

I have done that on several occasions which resulted to either the deletion of the discussion or the member being banned. We do have difference in opinion, but in relaying our side, we should not make it too personal to the point of really "bullying" a member.

I read that discussion. There were three that was made about that. The first was the one were the harsh word was thrown and the second and third were discussing about that. I think the person who said the word was the one who used the exclamation point. He reported it. If it happened to me, I would be offended but I would not discuss it any further. OH, i just remembered that it happened to me here and I reported it.

Is a flame that's been posted before thereby an old flame?

Flaming should be reported for sure. Any kind of abuse. It takes a lot for me to report, but if I see someone flaming someone on a discussion in on I will report it. I don't see it often. I guess I don't get around very much.