One sided story

We cannot actually blame these people who are just want to unload what they feel. I guess, it is the responsibility of the respondents to give advice which would not be bias enough knowing that you have only heard one side of the story.

I think everyone at one time or another has given support to a person without even thinking of all the angles, but then there are other times that there are some blanks in there that leave a lot of room for wonder. There are times to be sympathetic but there are times, mostly centered around a person's mood when reading discussion topics, that you can't muster the energy or good will thoughts behind a sympathetic response. So as far as it being handled? Well I don't if don't feel it. I think if my mood is going to determine something that is non productive then just pass on that discussion. Everything can't be all warm fuzzies, but if it can't be said with tact then it's best to pass on it.

We are not judges for both parties;moreover we do instinctively try to guess the other party's role in this, though sometimes subconsciously. In life this is always bound to happen; even in families there would be some one side narration but elders in their wisdom would choose to hear stories and give their best assessment of the situation. But, among friends when we hear one side of the story we always try to pacify the person whom we know, whom we can relate to and also give an objective analysis[when asked] ; the friend is happy because she or he knows that we have no personal interest in the matter. Some people just need an outlet and a shoulder to cry on; there are others who need some 'third party view' on the subject. I feel we are not wrong here because people ask for solutions and finally take what would suit their particular context.

Everything posted on these social sites have to be taken with a grain of salt. Sometimes, the whole box. I try not to give advice about personal matters. I can talk all day about something that I'm adept in like cooking or crafts or whatever like that. But I think the personal problems are best left alone. A lot of people moan and groan about stuff that they have caused or created themselves. I couldn't live with all of the drama that goes on in their lives.

These are the people who try to reach out to us thinking that in a way, we can be able to help ease the pain or somehow give them ideas on how to best handle their situation. What we see is how they interpret the whole situation they have. And we can only have a say on that.

As if you know what once went through my mind. I have always wished there could be a way those on the other end would still come and tell their own part of the story, perhaps we wouldn't give the judgement the way we had given.

Well, even though we will usually only get to hear one side of it, and many times glad we do not always know the whole story, I still feel it is quite important to be there for them. What they are going thru might even seem minor to some of us, but for those of us who have been thru this what advice and suggestions we can give often means a lifetime for them.

WEll, most times, when I need a shoulder to cry on..and there is some-one to listen, often by just verbalizing what is my conundrum, I can see the "error of the ways" of both parties (if it is a human conflict)and I often find my own solution...just by putting it in words, and listening to myself! Sometimes, I see what is troubling me...is hogwash, and I have taken the wrong turn in the road! It's nice to hear both sides, before a formative decision, but oft being just the listener...helps make a "molehill out of a mountain!"

They need a place to go dear friend, but there can be a hundred sides to a story. Perception is a funny thing. I would say give solid advice based on the data. If you smell a "perception," I would mention what it might be like from the other side in a civil way..remembering that perception is often 99.9% of what will come no matter what. Have missed you

hi allknowing lol you know every thing, this is an open platform, all are free to ventilate their feelings, some tell us with the hope, some one may solve it..

I read a lot of discussions and I can't say people are complaining. What I do read/hear is people who have to deal with issues, personal feelings, problems and they need someone to share it with and ask for advice. If it comes to that there is nothing wrong with it. Also you don't know if you don't hear the other side of the story. Big chance you do in an other discussion. But no matter if we do or not.. fact is we will Always hear about the personal view, the personal feelings and this is what it is about. I think it does cost courage also to share with others, especially strangers and read so many point of views.

It's a hard questions. Sometimes I wander if they are telling the truth, if they are missing to say their faults in the stories etc (especially with users with relatively beginner level knowledge in English). But as long as we only know one side, we can only talk about that. And there is another thing: I'm pretty sure most of us like Mylot as a discussion site, but everyone is here for the money. Of course we are going to write a detailed pacifying rather than something like "I can't answer, as I haven't heard your husband's story", because that may not count as valuable or quality by others due to the shortness. I may have been harsh, but that also counts in it.