Can your patience endure backfighter?

I hate back fighters. These are coward people who just deceive you with smiles but when you are not looking they are the opposite. I usually erase them in my life and give them a chance to prove themselves that they'd change if they wanted to still get connected with me. I do my best to be nice and diplomatic but I also tell someone that i don't like what he or she is doing. I would rather be with someone at work or in my personal day to day life who is harsh but very honest than be with snakes.

Some people just enjoy making other people's lives a misery, work is hard enough as it is without having backstabbing colleagues and those that put you down on your case. I hope you get this situation sorted, can you not have a word with your manager who is above them to sort things out, the longer you leave it, the worse it will get, and they need to be told what they are doing is not acceptable and given a warning.

Trust me this kind of people are available in every office. You can't avoid them because you will naturally find at least one of this kind in your department. What I can say is you need to stand up for your rights and it's best if you could speak back, you know. If you keep quiet they will think that you are afraid of them. So now speak up to them and fight them verbally eventually you may be able to overcome this problem and make them look up on you instead. I hope you get what I mean.

Heya shavkat, Those kind of problems never seem to go away do they altogether. I was more lucky I did have backstabbers still got them around me but something that protects me keeps them away from me. Sadly at work it is much harder to do so yet so easy. You can work a kind of routine where you are with them around you but yet at the same time you are ignoring them without so much stress. Not saying that all the stress goes away altogether but I had to do it like I said to you before somewhere else. I had to find ways of working with them without losing my job. I had to be able to keep the money and perhaps was my first thought more than anything. I considered my wage packet above those nasty people. Did I achieve it yes I did to an extent do you pay a price for putting your wage packet before people like that in a way you do but the sense of security money gives you and roof over your head is something that can make you strong in a certain way. People might not agree with what I say but it is what I had to live I had no protection from others in the workplace as such at least that is what I thought. When it came to the crunch there were people that appreciated me a lot more than what I thought around me. I am pretty sure that there are people who appreciate you and given the time the right time they will stand up for you. Think that they don´t exist? Well they do just wait and see. I have an invisible protector to this day I do not know who or what it is but its there shielding me from these kind of people. Have faith shavkat that these people will leave you alone see it as being done already. I know how it hurts but show them that you are not hurt and silence between you the more the better there is nothing better than silence from you that hurts them the most of all you betcha it does. I can still get hurt but you can build a kind of resilience it does not come with an instruction book either it comes from your own wisdom and the protection of life itself. Just keep one track going your job don´t fear to lose it or your peace of mind because of them. Fear wrecks so many things in our lives if we let it okay sometimes its not our fault but we can still try and remedy it and that is what counts. Just keep yourself to yourself and have friends out of work work friends very often do not make real friends if you know what I mean. Stay positive friend you can do it the fact that you are talking about it makes you stronger.xxx

Basically I live in a rat country where everybody rats on everybody else like a passion so I have to always be careful to watch what I say and because I like to be open with everyone I get ratted on all the time. Just be careful. You never know.

another no... I can take them for some time and prove myself.. then.. still after they have used all my patience I quit. if you are not happy with your work and people don't appreciate you... find another one. you won't be happy there anyway.. so why still work with them.. leeches and backfighters... just no room for me.

I would be very careful. You don't want to be made to look unprofessional. Surely their acts will be known sooner or later. I wouldn't think it was just you they are treating this way. Observe and see what transpires.

Try to stay away as much as you can but if you cant. Confront them, i did this before what so funny after i gathered them all and i open the topic..they were like oh no..no.. I didnt say that..ahaha i just act cool and told them that next time if you want to know something or if you want to say something you go straight to me. What so funny is you can really see in their faces that they are lying and nervous. All i can say is just smile..smiling kills your enemy. It makes them wonder what you are up to.. Haha or if they play dirty I believe sometiems you just have to adopt to the environment.

Why not confront them instead? I a sure they would crawl back to their shells if you point out to them the bad thing they are doing to you. You should not tolerate such acts. It will hamper your performance with your work.

I think you are new in office/work place. Some actions or manners of new faces may be getting dislike to some employees already working there. Such dislikes are usual in many offices/work places which slowly melt by mingling for some days or weeks. So try to mingle with all of your co-employees and show maximum patience to ill willed actions of those persons. You can seek help of your Head of office/work place too to solve the issue.

It doesn't really matter for me as long as I am the only subject of their backbiting. However, if they will include those dear to me, then it changes the picture.

I've encountered a lot of people like that for my almost ten years of working. Well, at first I didn't bother to care if they talk about me behind my back but when they talked about me to my boss, then it's already the boundary. I confronted them and told them everything I know about them. It's hard to be with these kind of people but there is no way to escape them. Your work place is full of people with diverse personalities. Some are friendly while some are not. The formula is just do your job very well.

Hi friend, I think it is very painful for you. But try to stand up and get the best work for you. try to release your old work and get the new work. Your co-employees cannot get the job without sabotaging your work, they are weak people, try to make other good job and you will be winner, and they still be weak employees. Don't you regret this problem, it can encourage you be a winner in your company. Good luck.

I never felt it. But maybe if it happened to me, I would take it as the obstacles and challenges to achieve success. Should people like they do in reply, especially with something like what they did to us, but let it flow over time berjalnnya, then also they will feel it too. The spirit remains.

Hi Shav, I am not that patient I used to confrontation if someone did that to me It release me more even I have to fight then we have a bad relationship after that

I hate back stabbers. When i know that someone is back stabbing me, i confront the person. That way they will know that i will never let anyone back stab me without confronting them . Other would say to let it pass, but as for me, if i let it pass i know that they will continue doing so. So, i have to confront them.

I see your co-workers are still causing problems. I hope that they will find a way to do the right thing and just get their jobs done with out causing problems for others. It is sad when you can't be happy at your job.

I am a person who do not just let go off bad attitudes unconfronted specially when it I am directly involve. However, I find that immediate confrontations cannot solve backbiting issues so I just let go off sometimes. I think that if they are already sabotaging and making making mess on our works then we must confront them in a nice way. This is not being impatient, it's the right thing to do.