Do your parents choose someone for their child to be married with?

Approval? It's your life. You should be able to marry someone you love, and your parents should get used to it for your sake. I think I would rather die than be forced to marry someone I didn't want to marry.

I am the one who chooses the person I would like to marry, not my parents or any other family members! I chose the person and I am happy with him now!

Parents should not interfere with their children's love life. Who ever the children choose to be their life partners is their choice since it is they who is going to live their life, be it happiness or sadness, they are answerable to their own destiny. Parents should give their blessings to whoever could bring delight to their children's hearts.

hi shavkat oh I could write a book about how I turned down a lot of money to marry the man I loved as my dad did not want me to marry him at all. My G I was 31 for petes sakes . But he was the man I loved and the man I did marry . Here in the US we can choose for ourselves but sometime our choices do not appeal to our parents, yes,He got in trouble as a teen and spend several years in prison but he was a kind decent man when I met him and certainly a law aviding man So what he did as a silly kid was not stopping me from marrying the man I fell in love with,.We had a long marriage 33 years and I never regretted our marriage even though we lost a child still I had a lot of happiness and love and now have an adult son who is also a kind loving man.,I would have hated being someplace where parents pick the man for their girls as I would never have been able to conform to that.

Freedom to love anyone? No,even in our culture marriage is highly influenced by parental preferences. It is not forced though, that one must marry only so and so. But the 'community' ties are so strong that one is given some narrow choices. I do not know how long this method of finding a life partner will survive, however.

Well- I count it as a blessing having the freedom to choose when it comes to love. Marriage is a lifetime commitment- and I would prefer to choose the one I love rather than marrying someone chosen by my family. So,for me it is a blessing that I am not born having a different culture and tradition.

I think arranged marriages are also good. In our place arranged marriages are more than love marriages and arranged marriages are more successful. I also had arranged marriage. I think most probably if someone has a love and the person is right he or she can go for them.

My parents let me make my choice on who I married. They weren't going to make it for me. They could give me advice and stuff on who they thought was a good man, but in the long run...it was my choice to make.

No. Our family and our culture do not believe in arranged marriage. My parents are also very open-minded and respectful individuals that they respect our, me and my siblings, decisions in life. All they do is give us guidance and teachings.

Hi Shavkat. Good thing my parents do not like the idea of deciding the partner for their children. But sometimes they do scrutinize or ask some questions about a guy. But tell you what, I got a little depressed when my partner, who is an Indian, told me that his dad is kind of arranging someone for him. And there's nothing I can do, since we are in a very long distance relationship and I'm not Indian. But he was able to fight for his right to choose the person he wants to be with. Maybe if your friend will try tell her parents about what she really feel. Because I believe marriage is not just some kind of pact that 2 people have to live in one roof and have children. It's 2 people turning into 1.

No my parents did not choose who I married I did. They did tell me to choose right the first time and so far 22-23 years later we are still going strong.

I can't believe such practice is possible in present days. Parents can guide their sons/daughters in selecting partner of life. I think no one would seek approval of parents before getting in love with another.

That must an arrange marriage and I am really against to that. I cannot see myself marrying a guy that I don't really love. Better to be single then to be with a stranger man. I prefer to be married with the guy I love whether my parents like it or not.

Luckily, we don't practice that kind of tradition anymore except for very rich people here in our country to expand their wealth and sustain the power the old way of an agreement to other family is still in practice. I believe decisions made by parents when their sons/daughters is in the right age for me is an insult interfering what they can individual capable of deciding in the end you'll be the one to suffer not the parents it's an of selfishness and see their sons/daughters as a sense of ownership, a property very inhumane

This tradition is slowly fading out compared to the past where people had to marry according to the will of their parents whether a boy or a girl. I truly support love marriage, but I see the divorce percentage is also much higher in love marriage compared to arrange marriages where parents choose the spouse for their children. My assumption (people might have different perception): I think it totally depends on individuals whether boy or girl. How they handle their relationships? If they are self-centered?

I am Jewish and when i was younger my mom wanted me to date and or marry a Jewish boy. Tho as i got older she realized it didn't matter who i dated as long as they were a good person and made me happy. So i got to marry whomever i wanted not an arranged marriage like some have in other countries. I have a friend that moved away from her parents to the states from India because they were arranging a marriage for her she didn't want. I do not think that this is a good idea to have a parent say who you should marry unless they know you are at least friends with the person. I mean if you don't even like them why marry them and have a bad marriage.

I do not like arranged marriages! I know in some countries it is common and traditional. Some arranged marriages don't work! If you don't love the other person it is something that might not happen in a marriage that the parents arranged! Parents think they are doing the right thing and in some cases it back fires! Everyone should have the right to marry the person they want and are in live with! Plain and simple!

My parents did advised my that I should choose wisely. They never had the intention of choosing someone for me. they just wanted someone who would love me and would treat me well. It is sad to know that such traditions is still being carried out until this day.

So that kind of situation does still exist till now. Well yeah, come to think of it their are really some cultures ir religion does that kind of stuff, and especially those wealthy people. And i think most of the time that kind of situation often exist on rich people, they want their daughter or son to be married in some other rich people kids. That situatin is really sad to think, most unsuccessful marriages are a result of that situation.

In India and Kerala half the marriage are still arranged by their parents.Even if you are qualified professional still they opt for an arranged marriage and the girl adjust to the boys whims.