Am I a coward becasue I am adjusting with everyone?

it's good to be a peaceful and easy going person however you should learn to know when to assert yourself. if people do you harm and you don't say anything, they will think less of you. i do not intend to say that you should also cause them harm but you should ask them to stop the bad things they are doing to you. otherwise people will continue on trampling on your dignity. there are lots of arrogant and selfish persons in our society and they think that they can get away with anthing that they do because people do not stop them. you will be more respected if you learn how and when to say no and to assert yourself in times of need. you do not need to act brusque and tough in order to do this.

You are right. They are loyal to the wild rich-&-powerful because they are afraid of suffering if the rich-&-powerful get angry. Because you are nice, they are not afraid of you. Oh, people like you--making them quick to give you little 'gifts' or 'helps' or 'understandings' when you need them--but they probably won't 'go out of their way' (or 'inconvenience themselves') to get you what you need ... they're not "afraid of what you'll do if you are not satisfied." & you shouldn't make them that way. (That's "the kind of power you can't buy" that the mob-boss in Batman Begins was talking about.) The only time you would WANT them to fear what you might do is if you're "following Our Father's orders"---when they would DESERVE whatever punishment you mete out to evildoers.

i don't think you are a coward. i think you are just one of those nice kind of people. in this cruel world, nice guys finish last. they get taken advantage of because they are nice. that's just the way it is. i am not saying it is right, but it's just the way it is. you have to start thinking of your own self and you own boundaries. you have to start drawing the line of what you will accept and consider yourself, first. any other way and you will be eating up by all kinds of vultures.

Being assertive is a quality that one needs to develop. Toleration is some kind of cowardice. Buying peace at any cost is not the right thing to do as those who err get confirmed in their views. I am assertive even at the cost of being unpopular.

I don't think that you are the behavior of coward but it's just you who is considerate and try to be nice.So keep doing yourself but still be you,do bad things if it is necessary.lol,anyway,you should live for yourself.Good for you.

Hi friend, I know you are feel comfort when you have gentle behavior, but you cannot always apply it in each case. You should be a wise man who have gentle behavior when it is needed and be strong man when you should apply it. Yes, I think you should not always have gentle attitude, but use it when it is suitable with the case.

Hello Manasha I´m glad to read you. You recall me some years ago. I used to be really calm and peaceful with everybody, I avoided arguing, facig, demanding or denying. I have a church ministry I had a lot of work in. I began getting really tired, really tired and nobody helped me at my parrish. It seemed that the most I helped the most was my personal duty to help, instead of being a team duty. At home was something similar, I was getting tired of housechores, in the other hand I was getting some debts, and my husband didn´t involve with me. I had a lot of housechores to do, and nobody helped me. Until the day I said: I can´t stand more by myself. I need help, I have to begin facing, demanging, arguing, and denying. Else I cannot stand more alone. Everybody get mad. My husband, my children, and my parishmates. Everybody loved I got such heavy weight over my shoulders. But my shoulders were bending down. Now I don´t have fears to deny to do things when I really can´t do them. I don´t feel ashame to ask help, help at home and help at parish. And I ask to my husband and my priest commitment with me. My husband has to help me pay out family debts. And my priest has to comfront parishians to get involved in ministries, I can´t do everything. I love people, I love life, I love peace, but I learnt limits have to be set. I learnt that I have my own limits. I learnt that I am human, that I need love, I need help, I need respect, I need time, I need to be a little me. Good luck! Blessings Manasha... dainy

What you have is called being diplomatic. If used properly it can be an asset to you and all those around you. You are correct to say that people with money and power have influence but many are just like you. Just because someone is rough does not determine success in fact if they are hurtful to others will often receive justice sooner or later.

Hi I think you dont to change foq them..always be true to yourself, do not let other people misled you and become wild.please maintain being calm it wont hurt ou and other peopled m happy mylotting

I think that this quality is a very admirable one. It is often hard to remain calm and serene when others are getting angry with you, or demanding what may seem to be too much. But since you have this quality, you are actually in the best spot, in terms of dealing with negotiating whatever adjustments need to be made. I don't think you are a coward because of it, a coward is somebody who strictly lacks courage in the face of danger, pain or intimidation. Just because you adjust yourself in order to deal with these rough situations does not mean you are a coward, it just means you are more easily able to be flexible. Flexibility does not equal to cowardice. Now if you are strictly being taken advantage of and you are doing nothing about it and know that your situation needs to change for the better (or else you will come into major harm), then you might want to take a more aggressive approach. Just remember, you can be flexible, but that does not mean you should be passive. You need to be assertive and firm as well. Hope this helps!

you are a better person for keeping calm and not talking back to others

Adjusting with everything is a good quality. You have to be happy for being like that. I think you are such a nice person. You are not a coward. Your family members and friends might done good things to get your relationship. You don't want to fight with others. That's not cowardliness. That's a nice habit. Keep it up my friend