Do you end the relationship or do you wait for the other person to end it?

why does the relationship have to end in the first place? misery, anger, boredom in the relationships are the testing and challenging times for the couple to stick together and fight it out of those times. as we know, relationships are not always a fairy tales that have happy endings. in reality, relationships are complex and full of trials.

Hi sunsham68! never make decisions that you would just regret afterwards. yet, if you have regard to yourself, never should you always allow the other person to dump you as often. for you not to suddenly "change your mind", you've got to really weigh things. consider different angles and do not focus on your "feelings" alone. making your feelings rule the decision would really lead to "regrets". it would help to pray when torn between the integrity that you should regard yourself over that "dumping thing" just because you dont want to carry the guilt. No guilt should ever win a well-thought of and lifted up to God decision. :)ProfGail

I would not think to end the relationship. i will try to get her back. but if other person is happy without me then i would take a backstep. so that, she can enjoy her life.

Oh...i never regret about my decisions, especially in the relationship. When i feel that it is so biter, i am very uncomfortable with it, no goal/future for that relationship, it means it should be ended. no matter who says first.and whenever the decision is spoke out, it means i thought carefully about it for long time already.

Will try to fix it from my end and if the other person is in no mood to listen or change, it's better for me to quit it rather than waiting for other person to quit. It's good to stay away when you come to know that you both can no longer maintain the relation.

I have a deeply feeling about this.I making a mistake until now.How depressed i was.

Situations like that, must be thought over for a thousand and even a million times. Though, it seems it is the end of the road or it's getting worst everyday, remember not to quit the soonest, because every tomorrow is always different from today. You should have given space to each other, than giving it up. Worked on the hard edge, if something are not in tuned to both of you, then find things and ways that it will work. There's no such perfect relationship. It is always important to give and take. And lastly, if the relationship is worth keeping for then fight for it. At your case, don't feel guilty, if you've tried your best to win him back. Beside's if you are destined to be on each other's arms forever, then it will happen. Maybe not now, but in the right time. Cheers! Happy Mylotting!

Hi sunsham68! It depends on the situation. I normally end the relationship. I just think it's the best thing to do. It does not matter to me who do the break up. I don't want to give the person false hope. If I'm not happy or I really think I'd rather be free, I say it when I'm fully decided so there will be no regrets. I think once in our life, we'll experience being broken hearted. It really takes two to work the relationship and make it last.

Hello there! It depends actually. If I feel like the relationship isn't working and it's going nowhere, I initiate the breakup. But before I do, I weigh all the possibilities and consequences first whether it is the right thing to do or not. But if I do feel that the relationship has to end, then I have to end it. Ending a relationship is never easy. But always remember that someone better is coming along :)

Hi Sunsham! :) I can relate to this. I also am the one who calls the relationship off. As I girl, I have pride and don't want to be dumped. And I'm the type of girl who doesn't believe "sweeter the second time around". So when past relationships shows feelings again, I shut it immediately. Thanks for the discussion :)

If you both are miserable in the relationship it does not matter who walks out first, what matters I feel is whether you have tried everything to make it work. If you are sure you have done everything to make it work yet it isn't then you should call it quits.

As for me, I always initiate the break up. I never believed in prolonging the agony. If we stay in a relationship where I'm not happy anymore, it will be just hurting him more. Of course, I only do that after we tried working it out. If all efforts fail and the spark just isn't there anymore, I would rather tell him honestly, than go on in the relationship lying all the time.

If the relationship is already hurting us, and he is not doing anything about it, I will take the initiative. Maybe he is a gentleman who would want to save my pride by making the first move. Thanks a lot for that. But if there is no more reason to stay I go. We deserve to be happy.

I think you and your partner should at least talk it out and discuss the problems you guys are facing in the relationship before deciding to split or breakup. You never know if the problems could actually be fixed. However, if the both of you find that you are not the right one for each other, then it calls for a real breakup. No more guilt, no more attachments. Just accept it and continue moving on in life in search for the righter one. Good luck! :)

I'm not afraid to end a relationship myself. I've done it twice already and I don't regret the choice at all. When I decide that means I have already thought it over thoroughly and considered the consequences and learned to accept whatever happens next. Once I've made up my mind in ending a relationship, I am carrying it through till the end without regrets. Because I know it was for the best for both of us.

Prior to my husband, I only had one relationship and I was the one who ended it. Primarily because he's a cheater and I can only take so much. Ending a relationship, I think, is a case to case basis. It depends who sins from whom.