i was offended by this remark of a vegetarian...

@veganbliss May be we will have two religions in future, the vegetarians and the non-vegetarians. lol You said the right thing about "provocative" move...I really wonder why people have to ridicule us...I sometime tell them, hey...you are still able to afford that non veg food because we are not adding to the demand ...lol.. and Vegan you are also right about people not thinking what they eat...we eat like babies...anything that comes our way we first confirm whether it can go into our mouth and out...then only we get perplexed about how to use this not edible thing...

I wasn't there, so I don't know what else was said, nor the mood of the occassion, but I would have thanked the host, in great detail & frequently first. I would have made more of an effort to join in the conversation before dropping a bomb like that. Still, the vegetarian was out-numbered maybe a dozen or more to one & wonder if they would have said the same thing in more equal numbers? I rarely eat out in mixed company like this these days, but my hosts always know the score before starting out & I only ever answer people's false beliefs if they make the first provocative move. To sit there & say nothing is the same as agreeing with them, which doesn't bother me so much as it is detrimental to them. I only bother with these things because I care about others & can't bear to watch them destroying themselves, animals, the planet etc - however slowly or quickly. And also only if I feel people want to improve themselves already on some level. In real life the responses I get show me that others respect my viewpoint & can see the logical sense in what I say. It's entirely up to them whatever else they decide to do from thence.

he certainly wasn't subtle about it. as i've said, i have as much right to eat my meat as he has to eat his vegetables. i was talking about manners and tact.

come to think of it, he's right.

Oh my, you meat eaters are sensitive little flowers, aren't you all the best, urban

You took it as a criticism but you know the best good manners are not to never give offence but never to take it all the best, urban

it is not in accordance with the accepted rules on table manners, urban. no one has a right to criticize what other people put on their plates, especially dishes that the hostess took pains in preparing. we were all guests.

Anger should always be the last possible response. Love life, and refuse to let anyone steal that from you! Next time this happens just GO FOR IT! EAT HAPPY! Laugh and smile! The moment they say something, turn to the closest person and "MY GOODNESS! These are the BEST lamb chops EVER!"

i never thought of this... the surprise caught me off guard and my horns started blazing.

i agree. we should respect each other's choices of food. we shouldn't say rude remarks on what others' have on their plates during dinner.

I thought most people does not discuss their eating habits and likeness in open or argue about it.

I dont have a problem nor think there is anything wrong with discussing eating habits and likeness in the open. I do have a problem arguing about stuff. We can have a conversation. We can agree to disagree. But if we will argue. We better stop talking right now :)

we were actuaslly saying that it is a good choice -.healthwise. somebody just said that she's used to eating meat and she loves the taste.

i know that most farm grown animals are packed with chemicals and medicines nowadays. unfortunately, the farmers need to do this otherwise they will lose a lot of money when a disease strikes one of their animals. i appreciate those who chose to go vegetarian. however, that person should learn to cultivate tact. it is important so he can live harmoniously with other people.

the problem is some people do not know how to distingush between what is rude and not. i think he's one of them.

i believe that each and everyone of us has a right to choose which kind of lifestyle we want to have as long as we do not hurt other people in the process. you're buddhist friend is a nice person. until i joined mylot and read in one of the discussions here, i never knew that being a vegan is also practiced by some with religious connotations.

different religions have different views on this matter. i never even knew before i became a mylotter that some are vegetarians because of their religion. with the person we're discussing about, i don't think it was religion that prompted him, it was for health reasons.

on the contrary, we were discussing the health benefits of the vegetarian diet... he was just rude and tactless, i agree with you.

hi marika and dagami also that tactless re mark was a slam at the hostess who went to the trouble of serving vegan food to this tact less person'.Somehow nowadays too many people do not use any tact at all.It is like they do not care whose feelings they hujt.

Thats right, you said it as I was thinking it. have a great day there.

unfortunately, some people are tactless. they need to learn to think twice before blurting out something that might hurt other people.

Yes, some people just tend to think they are above everyone else. Maybe he just needs to be brought down a notch.

now that you've mentioned this, i remember his mom said "don't act so superior" to him. some people are convinced that what they're doing is the ONE & ONLY right way, no other option. they feel a sense of superiority and this reflects in the way the phrase their words.

we were never offensive to him as we were even discussing the health benefits of a vegetarian diet. maybe it was his way of contributing to the conversation.

Was the host even aware of how rude this person was? It was definitely déclassé and uncalled for. I hope your enjoyment of dinner wasn't ruined by her.

i get tongue tied when i'm confronted with blatant rudeness, especially in occasions like this where it is least expected. dinner guests are expected to be on their best behavior.

we were talking about how healthy a vegetarian diet is so actually this was a supportive discussion for him. maybe he thought that he could convince us to embrace his beliefs by hitting hard on the topic.

i eat ALMOST everything but i can't stand the smell of lamb. however, if i see (or rather smell) someone eating this, i don't say anything. i consider it bad taste to negatively comment on what others have on their plates during dinner.

i absolutely agree with you about the poor etiquette. regarding FB, you can stop receiving updates from her without "unfriending" her, should you want to. chicken's mentruation, my foot!!! hens are not mammals and they do not menstruate.

yes, i agree with you. somehow that remark made me think about the poor cow being butchered and i lost appetite. and he used to word "carcass" which made it more gross. he could have said bodies...