Is it till possible to find true love this days?
By nixx_04
@nixx_04 (20)
Philippines
April 28, 2013 12:44pm CST
I mean, in today's time, it sees like you can never find a true love.People are getting in a relationship at an early age and get **** at age 15 or soething.Well for me,it just seems like love reduces its value over time.
16 responses
@grvdubey11 (1879)
• India
28 Apr 13
Well true love demands adjustments,sacrifices and trust.Both these factors are hard to get because people have so many options so they prefer to find a new partner instead of adjusting or sacrificing.If someone is in a relationship they should stop looking for options until and unless you have serious problem with your partner,but many people still try all permutations and combinations that who fits into their scheme of things at that time.Now if we keep thinking about profit and loss all the time then how can we love someone truly.If the husband/boyfriend has loss in business or loses the job, girlfriend/wife leave them instead of supporting.Girlfriend/Wife gets aged fat and someone is getting an option of more beautiful girl then they will leave their partners.I am not generalizing things that everyone does that ,all i want to convey is that this is a common approach and such an approach finishes any chances of getting true love.Best wishes.
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@desiree91 (515)
• Malaysia
29 Apr 13
"True love demands adjustments, sacrifices and trust". You have a good point there. It's a very good combination. The "adjustment" isn't something people always think about when it comes to this.
@grvdubey11 (1879)
• India
29 Apr 13
You are right people dont think about adjusting.Real test of a relationship is when the one of the partner has to face troubles ,then he/she realizes that how true is the love of their partner eventually.Saying "I Love you" is easy ,proving it when time comes is difficult.Thanks a lot for response.
@Kementari (138)
• Canada
28 Apr 13
I think it really depends on what people see as "true love;" if it is finding a person that you are utterly and completely happy with, and have no problems with their personality, habits, or lifestyle.. then I think that under this definition there is no such thing as true love.
But if people mean it in the sense that we find someone who we want to spend the rest of our lives with and we make a commitment to do so and stick with it through both the good and bad and MAINTAIN that love... then yes it does exist.
There are many people out there for us. There are many, "right ones," because as human beings we are all so very diverse and we can like many different personalities and people at once. It is about finding the one that you are the most compatible with... the one that you can live with their choices (like jobs, dreams, etc)... and be happy with who they are (even if they do change).
Every one does change throughout their lives and it is the ability to adapt and understand that really defines true love. If one's partner gets fat, or has a stroke and can no longer do certain activities or things (like talking)... it is sticking by them and loving them regardless that brings about true love and loyalty.
I think it is possible, but it is not possible in the notion that we just find someone and are good to go... true love requires work, it requires adaptation, it requires understanding and compassion. It requires being able to let go of regret, and grudges, and it requires sacrifice for one another. It must come with happiness, laughter, and the need to be near them (but not obsessively).
It requires believing and committing to who you believe is the right one and it must come from both sides of the party.
@desiree91 (515)
• Malaysia
29 Apr 13
Very well said, my friend. I've also rated your response as positive.
I like it when you said there are many "right ones". And just as you've mentioned, this world is diverse. But there's only one and only one that's meant to be yours to spend your lifetime with, even to the edge of doom.
"It is the ability to adapt and understand that really defines true love". This is indeed true. Change is constant. Even consistent. Love is, in the truest sense of the word, not only about bed of roses and birds chirping away. It's also about walking through the fire to maintain that relationship.
And it's not going to be "romantic" all the time.
@eagletrek2 (5499)
• Kingston, New York
29 Apr 13
Hi that a hard question. what im doing now is stop looking.
and start working on my income.so I have a liable income.
when I find my love.here what you may try doing stop looking
to hard.get involded in clubs.relious stuff the are the place
you might be your true love.what is your hobby. go from there.
@montevilla (550)
•
30 Apr 13
I believe that it is possible to find true love but just not when you are expecting it. Many people want to experience true love at a point in there life and become quite anxious and desperate for it and realize they are not finding it then. That is because they are not mentally ready for it yet as they appear to be relying on it but once you are in a situation where you are not particularly looking for it or anxious to find it then it will come to you. Best of luck.
Happy mylotting!
@Jyiou7 (83)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 13
Well, I don't think the concept of true love really exists anymore. Couples are divorcing and kids are getting step-parents more and more often. It seems like, these days, the quest in love is to find a partner that loves you for who you are and to find a compatible one that suits with your lifestyle and flaws. Many who believe in true love ended up getting disappointed when they realize that their partner didn't turn out to be what they expected.
I believe that they are many "The Right Ones" for a person, people are so diverse. As long as the right mindset is withheld, when a person finally meets a person that is seemingly compatible with him/ her, a love can eventually morph into the glory of lifelong commitment. :)
@tiquitaca (22)
• Spain
30 Apr 13
I think that the problem is that people only talk through tv or radio about bad things. The media don't talk about the good things that happen everyday because is it not relevant. It's the same when you are between friends. We tend to talk about the problems, the bad things that have happened to a close friend. But we don't say: - Hey¡ My boyfriend and I have been together x years¡¡ Let's go to celebrate it¡.
We only focus on that relationships that didn`t last
Be positive. It's possible to find a truel love this days as in the past
@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
I still believe that true love still exist nowadays. This could be proved in so many ways, and one is when you are willing to sacrifice just for the sake of the person you love. And obviously, people like that still exist.
When a relationship founded not by love but lust, which is common this time is not of course true love.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
I may not be in a relationship, but I assure you that We can still find true love. I believe that there are too many people out there who were hurt, who are in pain because of love BUT it just a challenge.
You are what you believe. If you don't believe on it, chances are it won't happen. If you believe on it, Wait hope and Pray and God will give it to you.
I believe that God has given us a partner in life.
@BannedHelsing (693)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
It depends on what you think true love is. It's not really that hard to find if you truly want it. It takes time, bur it is there.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
29 Apr 13
Hi friend, you are right, in this modern days love seems to be lust. It is really hard to see a real and sincere love in this days. Most of the lovers don't have a proper understanding and break up their relationship in the near soon and find another partner.
@radharani1 (18)
• India
29 Apr 13
You are right that it is very difficult to find true love in this days. Many people are breaking their relationships by making so many friends.
@arpecubha (47)
• Bulgaria
29 Apr 13
Yes, you can find real love - it's possible and it happens all the time. It all depends on what you are searching for. I know gyus who are looking for the perfect girlfriend - 90/60/90, sweet face, real Barbie! - and they found, but it's now what they were expecting - they use him, cheat him, lie him. Sure, that's not the perfect relation, but who as guilt here - the boy, because his ideal girl doesn't exist.
@CuteMandy (162)
• China
29 Apr 13
I believe we can find a true love in today's time, because of without any faith, love will be nothing. Once two people can meet and get married, that means they have something in common and value the same visions. As a mankind, we can't lose hope to find a true love anytime.
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
28 Apr 13
true love hmmm no every time I find the one I think is the person of true love it comes to bite me on the bottom so again there is no such thing as true love how ever there is a such thing as true heartace