Do you believe there is a double standard of having abusive parents vs abusive spouses?
By jamola
@jamola (17)
United States
June 14, 2013 12:54pm CST
If someone has a husband or wife abusing them, people tell them to get away without looking back and save yourself. But when someone has an abusive parent(s) people try to make these excuses and judge them by distancing themselves. Saying things like "that's still your mother or father" as if that's a free pass really ticks me off. Society acts like it's such taboo to complain about your parents even when there's a legitimate reason. Parents shouldn't get away with a lot of things just because they are parents.
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2 responses
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
19 Jun 13
Hi there!
Welcome to mylot.
You have raised a very important point that one could get away with an abusive partner but if one's parents' are abusive, it gets difficult to come out of torture. I think one should have confidence and courage and conviction to stone all the atrocities of parents, if things are going above neck. In some countries, there are laws which allow a child to report about his/her abusive parent and in case of need help of those laws could be taken.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
16 Jun 13
Well that's kind of true here in the US, but it depends on who you're talking to. There were many people that suggested I stay with my abusive ex husband. Most of these were older folks who grew up in the era of "Turn your head and pretend nothing happened" or women whose culture teaches them to be weak and that they can't do better than what they have. I have also seen the double standard part of it. People are trying to get me to reunite with my mom yet always warning me about the ex. I don't get it.
