But what about the moral aspect of the issue?
@Cristi_Ichim (3743)
Bucharest, Romania
August 14, 2015 9:51am CST
In my previous discussion I posted about how a 23 y.o. guy got arrested for the fact that he had sex with a minor. But the thing is that the minor and her mother both were outraged by the decision of the prosecutors and they wanted the guy to be released from jail. But I am more interested in the moral aspect of this issue.
So, is this morally acceptable or not? The law says that it is so unacceptable that he should go to jail. However, the ones that are supposedly the victims of this horrible crime have protested and asked for the guy to be released.
But which one of the sides is morally right? The law, which says that something like this is sick and immoral and that the guy deserves to go to jail for being such an abuser or the other side which says that he did nothing wrong and that he is not an abuser? In other words, is it morally ok for a 23 y.o. to marry a 13 y.o.?
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@zakixfatalx (11)
• Craiova, Romania
14 Aug 15
this discussion is all about this issue of our worlds present and coming generations...all i can say is we cant changed what is destined to happend, all we can do is do what we believed right.
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
14 Aug 15
The law and morality don't always match up.
My morals would never have an 8 yr old married to a 60 year old against her will and into a family where she will be abused, which is allowed in some countries. Their morals think that it is perfectly fine.
So here's my thoughts ( @1wldngl I don't think I can artfully dodge)
What other people do is their business as long as it is between consenting ( hopefully adult) people and it isn't harming anyone.
My concern with the situation you gave is that the mother seemed to direct the daughter to be married so they could have a home. I'm not sure that is okay. I also wonder if the child really had a choice or could consent to the relationship.
Outside the law, their morality is theirs to deal with... I can sit and wonder and think but I have no influence on it.
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
14 Aug 15
@Cristi_Ichim I don't, which is why I said it was their morality to deal with. It is their problem not mine. How do we know that she didn't hate her mother for being forced into that position? We don't.
@Cristi_Ichim (3743)
• Bucharest, Romania
14 Aug 15
It is true that the mother might have gave her the idea of marrying that guy but she did not force her to do it. And the child did not seem to object to this? However the child with her mother both objected to the fact that that guy got in prison and requested that he be released. So, what if her mother directed her? Maybe she thanked her mother for showing her an easy path in life this way. How do you know how the girl felt?
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@Cristi_Ichim (3743)
• Bucharest, Romania
14 Aug 15
@TLChimes Well if she would have hated her mother then she would not have been vocal as her when protesting against the fact that her man got prosecuted and arrested. She would have been silent, don't you think so? And even if her mother forced her the police would have easily found out about it because someone that has been forced is scared and shy about talking such things but she was vocal and protesting against the police for arresting her man along with her mother of course
@allknowing (135915)
• India
15 Aug 15
the authoritieis just cannot do this on their own unless it is reported Who did that?
@Cristi_Ichim (3743)
• Bucharest, Romania
15 Aug 15
The authorities did it even though no one reported him.
@topffer (42156)
• France
14 Aug 15
It was morally right and quite normal in the past for a woman to marry a man 10 years older than her, and women were often married before being 16 y.o. It is difficult to tell that a marriage is something immoral, even if, like me, you are not a fierce supporter of marriage.
Now, for this discussion : they were not married, and even if she was consenting, the law sometimes has to protect people against themselves and invade their privacy, especially when the person is a minor child.
@Cristi_Ichim (3743)
• Bucharest, Romania
14 Aug 15
The law has to protect them against THEMSELVES? So, you telling me that I need the law to defend me against MYSELF?
@topffer (42156)
• France
14 Aug 15
@Cristi_Ichim If you are minor, certainly. The state will protect you like a good parent would do and will show you the right way, if your parents do not take care of you. It is not sarcasm. It is what does social assistance in every country on this planet.
@Cristi_Ichim (3743)
• Bucharest, Romania
14 Aug 15
@topffer So, they are protecting me from MYSELF by taking away my freedom of choice?