Is there life without expectation?

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@Sreekala (34312)
India
August 21, 2015 6:05am CST
Greetings to all dear mylotters. I am happy to be back in mylot after a long time. Still have to meet many more old members here. There were many ups and downs in my life. Long time no writing activity too so I lost my interest on writing. Have to regain the interest and rhythm. Now regarding the topic, all of us know expectation hurt. One of my friends sent a message the content was, ‘I never expect anything from any one so I am always happy’. This message made me to think, it is true when we expect something from someone and they failed to come up to the expectation then it hurts for sure. Same time without any expectation can we lead a meaningful life. I think expectation is the key to live for all. How do you feel?
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Aug 15
Hi Sreekala, We all have expectations in life however you look at it, a mother has some expectations from her children, that they study well, have a good career and so on...similarly there are expectations within us with regard to our spouses and relatives which may not be monetary but can be emotional . Human life is bland without some give and take or expectations from one another, what else is there in life ?
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
Absolutely right dear. That is the beauty of the human life and may be the bad point too.
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@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 15
It is hard to practice to not expecting something To me it is an automatic impulse When I pray, I expect Heaven When I am kind to someone, I expect the same thing happens to me And yes, I am unhappy
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Aug 15
OMG this is ifa helloo friend. I miss your blue-green avatar for sure.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
haha you said it honestly. Every one is like you only there will be slight difference but basically all are like that only.
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@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
22 Aug 15
@thesids yes, this is me...hehehe.that blue avatar is not mine I am afraid of breaking some copyright rules, so I change with my own picture taken from my tablet :)
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Aug 15
I have the same opinion too. I don't expect so i won't be disappointed .
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
Good to hear that.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
22 Aug 15
@SIMPLYD Another Simple expression which gave a lot of meaning. Yes don't expect and don't get disappointed is the base from now on.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
22 Aug 15
@SIMPLYD That is why I am not expecting payout soon. Haha, have to wait and see what is going to happen.
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• Indonesia
22 Aug 15
Expect a good thing is good to keep you alive. Miracle happens everyday so there is nothing wrong with expectation. Which become the problem is too much expectation. It could lead us to disappointment because we may forget to become more realistic with situation
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
I think it depends on the kind of expectation, am I right? Now I realized there are so many kinds of expectations . We have to accept the realities and live accordingly rather than disappointing.
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@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
22 Aug 15
Something too much is not good, I agree with you Everything in average amount will balance our life
• Indonesia
24 Aug 15
@ifa225 Yes, we must keep everything in balance.
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@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
21 Aug 15
I do too feel it is key to living. We do plan and think of the future in certain ways. It is human to do so.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
We have to plan the life very wisely without getting disappointments. Sometimes we can't avoid the disappointments too.
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• United States
21 Aug 15
I agree with your friend that having expectations for others can be a dangerous game with your emotions, but having expectations with yourself can only make you better!
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@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
22 Aug 15
I fel this way too I want somoeone to treat me good, so I try to be nice and kind However not all good deeds come back to me, but at least I tried to be good
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
That is a different opinion and I agree with you. Rather than expecting from others we have to make it from us. It will help us to work hard. Thank you dear.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
22 Aug 15
@ifa225 Thats the best one can do...most people somehow associate expectations with monetary gains which is not true ! We have expectations from our loved ones or else how does a relationship work?
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
22 Aug 15
Hello and welcome back Sree. Nice post. It is always easier to say than act, so goes the saying. Even if someone openly says that he does not expect anything from anyone, it cannot be entirely true. We are human beings and when we help others in their hour of need, it is natural for us to expect that they will reciprocate when our turn comes. I am in agreement with your views that in our hearts we expect from others, whether we admit it openly or not, it is another matter.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 Aug 15
@Sreekala - We should help others without selfish motive, this way we may feel more satisfied.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
I agree, we can talk on anything highly but on practical side it may be entirely different. That is human being.People talk something and do just the opposite. If we do some help to others, it will be better to do not expect that back. It not only hurts but spoil the relation too.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
22 Aug 15
Hi friend! I think it is better not to expect so as not to get disappointed. It is better to just hope for the best in whatever circumstances.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
1 Dec 15
@salonga Yes dear, have been busy with other works. I wish to be here regular here onwards. I am happy with your concern. Thank you dear. Have a nice time.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
Hello dear, nice to see you after a long time. Hope you are doing well. Yes, I agree expectation leads to disappointment. Let us hope for the best in life every time.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
28 Nov 15
@Sreekala I learned you've been very busy but seeing you here again makes me happy. I hope to see you more my friend! I miss your posts.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
22 Aug 15
Hi Sree Good to see you! You write well and please continue writing mails to me as we did when we both were out of mylot. we can see the other side too. we expect something from someone and he/she did the same what you expected... hasn't it happened at either point of time? My personal experience is i expect less but i try to give more to those who has expectations from me. It is like following the principle of 'attached detachment' - long way to go dear!!
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
Hi VijuGlad to see you here too. When I opened mylot I thought about you but I know that you will be back too.I am sorry for not in touch dear. Not inentionally. Now on busy with some social works like teaching children (not as a job) so have responsibilities. Then many issues are there my dear. Regarding the topic. I too have small expectations on others but mostly they failed. It is better to fulfil other's expectations.
@suni51 (3429)
• India
21 Aug 15
Maybe your friend was right, as I have reasons to trust his statement. It's the same with me since I have no desire to get anything back from my friends and relatives. As far my efforts to earn money are concerned, I wish I get all my dues. So a selfless deed done and nothing expected in return will keep your mind free from all worries and you will find yourself at the top of the world. Cheers.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
22 Aug 15
@thesids Of course we can only do so much and the rest depends on its outcome ...
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Aug 15
So a selfless deed done and nothing expected in return will keep your mind free from all worries and you will find yourself at the top of the world now this is something that keeps me interested. I try doing as much as I can within my capacities
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
22 Aug 15
@thesids of course it has got to be within your limits because as soon as you try to overdo it you will lose your interest
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@yugocean (9963)
• India
21 Aug 15
Everyone is coming back and you too joined the new Gen myLot, yet many have to come back. By the way how is your family ? And how is your son ? Are you still in other money making platform
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
I am sorry I could not recognize you well with your username. Are you yugasini? I am not working any other sites now.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
25 Aug 15
@yugocean May I know your earlier user name please.
@yugocean (9963)
• India
22 Aug 15
@Sreekala no not Yugasini, and this wasn't my first account, but I remember you.
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@jstory07 (139697)
• Roseburg, Oregon
21 Aug 15
I think you should ask people to help you if you have helped them in the past. But not expect them to help you because life gets in the way and things come up.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
I don't ask any help from people I helped once, It is against my policy. I don't expect anyone to help me too.
@sofssu (23662)
27 Aug 15
I have very little expectations form others and I am always happy. I am sure it is true.. true for me.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
1 Dec 15
If you are happy then it must be true.Have a nice time.
• China
22 Aug 15
yes,expectation is desirable to our life.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
25 Aug 15
Yes, you are right.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
22 Apr 16
With no expectation life would be hopeless and meaningless. Romans 8:19-21 New International Version (NIV) 19 For the creation waits in eager expectation for the children of God to be revealed. 20 For the creation was subjected to frustration, not by its own choice, but by the will of the one who subjected it, in hope 21 that[a] the creation itself will be liberated from its bondage to decay and brought into the freedom and glory of the children of God. This life is not all there is and so we await in eager expectation the better life that God promises us.
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
21 Aug 15
I go with the flow and don't try to get to worried about what may or may not happen, so I guess you can say I have low expectations. I'm not always happy though. I still feel disappointment if something turns out wrong or feels like I'm not going in the right direction.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
I think you have to be bold enough to make you feel happy. Whatever comes in our life we have to face it. Best wishes.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
21 Aug 15
I think my expectation is to be able to live my life comfortably and not have to worry about anything. Now, I know the possibility of that coming true is probably slim to none. I have been struggling for quite sometime now, and I am due for a change. I think that the only way things are going to change, is if I change my way of thinking and doing things. I just have to have faith that things will be better and my struggles will be few or gone.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
You are too sleepy? Struggles are there in everybody's life. It is also a part of our life. Hope you will be overcome the struggles soon.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
22 Aug 15
@Sreekala I think Everyone expects something in whatever they do. It may be buying a soap or a costly item. The expectation will raise according to the situation and demand plus the effort or money we keep. Hard to have a life without expectation. Yes it is very key.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Aug 15
Hello @Prashu228, hope you are not sitting in a park expecting me. Yes, according to the situation we have to change the expectation.
@karjatwala (1120)
• Pune, India
22 Apr 16
The Law of Attraction says to expect high and only then you will receive it.
@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
19 Mar 16
@Sreekala,So true.We all expect something or the other from our near and dear ones and friends.I often hear people say that a mother's love is selfless.Is what they say right?I doubt.Even our mother expects love and respect from us.