Yelling at My Kids..
By Rosekitty
@Rosekitty (19368)
San Marcos, Texas
September 12, 2015 1:55pm CST
When my children were younger and i couldn't get their attention i would yell at them to get over here or call out their whole name
Sometimes it worked and other times i'd get even more upset so then there i'd go chasing them down
I didn't care how funny it looked because i was on a mission to teach them a lesson.
Funny thing is i learned more than they did. I learned all it did was keep me upset and frustrate me more, so to stop this i'd ignore them...then when they asked for something i'd continue to ignore them.
After awhile this got them to ask why i was doing that?..I responded with "when i call you and you ignore me i figured it is a two way street..you can either come when i call or i can ignore you."
"What do you want me to do?..going to leave it up to you to either show me respect or have a Mother who doesn't care about you and will let you grow up to be a nobody."
This seemed to do the trick and after that even though i still got the" aww mom wants us", they came and either helped me or stayed put.
Now they are all adults and everyone of my 5 lives close enough to me.
Even though my children said i liked yelling at them I chose to say it was Motivational Speaking for the Selective hearing!
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35 responses
@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
12 Sep 15
I can tell you are very close to your children Rosekitty.
They must love you so much.
I didnt bother shouting as it did not good.
I just put him on one of those reindeer reins hahah
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
12 Sep 15
@TiarasOceanView..yes i try to be and always there for them when they need me..
Love the reindeer reins..!!
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
12 Sep 15
@Rosekitty I had no choice about it, he would hide under clothes racks and all sorts of places in stores haah
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
12 Sep 15
@TiarasOceanView mine did too..and then my grands started doing it and i would laugh..
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@fufurinha (11930)
• Portugal
12 Sep 15
My mum used to yell at me when I was a child... well, she still does it now ahaha
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
12 Sep 15
@fufurinha..i don't and haven't for many years but i guess i deserved it since i wasn't an angel either..hahah
Hope you know where to run to..hahah
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@fufurinha (11930)
• Portugal
12 Sep 15
@Rosekitty I just don't listen to her lol
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@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
13 Sep 15
My kids will ignore me. I can repeat their names but will be ignored. I hate it. My daughter si the worse, she will either ignore me. Get tired of me calling her, than yell at the top of her lungs - what! I tell her I am not yelling across the house to come here.
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@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
13 Sep 15
@Rosekitty Yes, I do love my kids. I do plan on doing that. My teen son and i was telling my daughter about that one day. She responded by saying she isn't having any kids.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@rusty2rusty..kids!..but we love them..just do what i do when she ever has a child..laugh and say your turn will come..hahah
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@GardenGerty (160702)
• United States
13 Sep 15
I tried to pull back on my yelling when I saw little grade school kids copying how I was interacting with my son and yelling at him. I am a loud and authoritative person. I like what I see my daughter-in-law do, she leans over and whispers in her daughters' ears what she wants them to hear. Never embarrasses or shames them.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
13 Sep 15
@Rosekitty
That's the way to show them how it is done. Moral of the Story: Don't take things that aren't yours.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@GardenGerty..yes many things have changed now since when my children were kids..I never embarrassed them..in fact when my oldest had his brand new bike taken away from him by a group of kids, i took him and his friends to the leaders house..walked in their door..saw the bike..looked at the people all over the house and walked the bike right back out of the house..i guess they were so shocked someone would do that they never questioned me or harmed me...My kids looked up to me as their hero after that..
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@Lushlala (4028)
• Gaborone, Botswana
13 Sep 15
@GardenGerty....that's an interesting thing that your daughter in law does! It's a new one that I've never come across. Indeed the times have changed and we have to employ different tactics. Today's kids have a lot to say for themselves, and some of 'yesterday''s heavy handed methods would probably fall on deaf ears LOL
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
13 Sep 15
Oh yea, the full name always means trouble! When I hear ya yell "howard hiney apron" I run as fast as I can. Got to go now, time to make the oreos. 
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@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
13 Sep 15
@Rosekitty what does a guy gotta do to get a brownie around here?
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@howard96h just keep doing what you are doing.."throws a new batch of brownies at you"
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@howard96h..hahahahah..that is so funny..so happy you are back!
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
12 Sep 15
't the 'motivaionally speakin' fer the selective hearin'! i ne'er yelled 't my young'uns, ne'er 'd the need fer some reason. i got yelled 't plenty growin' up 'n learnt to tune that sorta thingy out. i'm glad ya figured a better way to get their attention 'n yer most fortunate to 've 'em so close. mine 're kinda scattered to the wind. perhaps i should'a yelled 't 'em jest coz?
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@crazyhorseladycx yes maybe you needed to yell..hahah..
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
13 Sep 15
@VickiJW i was jest jokin', ms. vicki. i'm hopin' that's what it means, though i could sure 'ppreciate more time with 'em. when they do come to visit, there's so many others to visit that sometimes i kinda feel like a b&b. but, that's alright.
i feel the same, my friend. 
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@VickiJW (260)
• Canada
13 Sep 15
@crazyhorseladycx - no, I don't think that has anything to do with it. You still have them visit, as I do, and often that is quality time that you don't get when they're with you all the time.
When they are scattered it often just means you've given them the confidence to be wherever they want.
I never shouted at mine either. We have a great relationship, even though we're not physically close. Lucky we have the Internet, so anyone can be close. I even feel close to you!
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@Rollo1..i'm sure many mothers were all yelling at the same time..hahah
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Sep 15
That is good. I have taken several courses on child raising and I think the best was Love and Logic. The last word is key here. You have used that with your children. I think it is much better to make them think that to yell. Oh, I have yelled but this makes so much more sense. It is easier on both of us too I think.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@celticeagle yes it is..yelling doesn't accomplish nothing but love and logic does..now if i can only remember why i was yelling?..hahah
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
12 Sep 15
Wish I'd have thought about that. lol Mine loved to play the "We've been here the whole time" game. This is where they hide and pretend not to hear as you call them a good 20 times. Then you start using their full name and they come out talking about "What? We been here all along." 
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
12 Sep 15
@cupkitties..yes our little darlings..love them and as they get older glad their children are now giving it to them..hahah
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
13 Sep 15
@Rosekitty My step mom used to say "I hope you all have 4 kids just like you!"
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@cupkitties I'm guilty of it too..hahah
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
13 Sep 15
My younger two wouldn't understand. But I used that with the older kids. Or I would talk so soft that I was hard to hear... no matter what or whom I was speaking to. They had to listen harder. So if I "called" them and they missed out on something, I would point out that they hadn't listened when I had yelled so I tried something different.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@TLChimes..funny the things we did just to get them to listen..hahah
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@allknowing (136541)
• India
13 Sep 15
Why talk about kids alone. I have known adults around who pretend they need hearing aids but not all the time. 
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@allknowing..yes i know a few too..hahah
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@allknowing (136541)
• India
14 Sep 15
@Lushlala One day someone will do that to her
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@Lushlala (4028)
• Gaborone, Botswana
13 Sep 15
@allknowing, I actually know an adult who told me plain and square that she has selective hearing and vision! Just her way of ignoring people and being rude when it suits her, I guess!
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@jstory07 (139742)
• Roseburg, Oregon
12 Sep 15
Kids learmn when they are really young to ignore you when you yell.
@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@jstory07 isn't that the truth..hahah
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
12 Sep 15
@valmnz..hahah..i guess to see what they might be missing
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@valmnz (17097)
• New Zealand
12 Sep 15
@Rosekitty you bet! Quite a powerful tool.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@simone10..my grandmother was like that..not my mom..but i'm sure i was..
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
14 Sep 15
@Rosekitty I'm sure I was at times too. With kids, it's hard not to at one time or another.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep 15
Seemingly, you yelling at your kids have helped them grow in a disciplined manner and now when they are adults they could realize the importance of you yelling at them. Hopefully, you proved a good mother for your children.
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
16 Sep 15
Raising kids is not easy, I know that. My son, when he was small was like a dynamo. More like the Tasmanian devil. Full of energy. My wife, now evil ex, used to yell and scream. Not good. I always took him aside when he got punished and I would talk with him. He always calmed down and understood what I was talking about. I find being attentive and explaining yourself to the child seems to work wonders.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
16 Sep 15
@inertia4 yes it does help better..we all learned from our mistakes..
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
17 Sep 15
@Rosekitty That is very true. And when we had my daughter, it just seemed to get that much easier.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
12 Sep 15
Another reason I'm glad I never had kids.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
12 Sep 15
@AbbyGreebhill..hahah..yes they were problems but i was no angel either..
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
13 Sep 15
@Rosekitty Who was - none of my friends were either.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
12 Sep 15
@Tampa_girl7..i sure hope so cause now its there turn with their kids..hahah
@RasmaSandra (79903)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Sep 15
@Rosekitty My mom was great at solving the listen or don't listen problem. When she wanted me to do something she asked me. A day later she would say well so I guess you have done so and so. If this was one of the times I wasn't listening and I hadn't done what she asked then I was some bucks shorter on my pocket money. She always knew how to hit me where it hurt the most but it got me to realize if I do listen and I am good to mom I also don't lose out on anything. In my teen years my mom and I would take turns cleaning the apartment and doing laundry. It would have never happened it mom hadn't made sure I realized that it was time to listen to mom.
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@resuri (116)
• Manila, Philippines
13 Sep 15
@RasmaSandra I have 2 young kids. I have to tell that we should be very patient wth them. I know it is not easy. I usually give them lolly pop or let them play their favorite toy while I attend to other things,
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
12 Sep 15
hahaha I love that, motivational speaking for the selective of hearing!
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
12 Sep 15
@Jessicalynnt ..sometimes we have to be the smart person..hahah
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
13 Sep 15
I'm trying to remember whether I gave my mother problems or not when she called for me. Generally I was pretty good at responding. Of course if I was across town getting all bloodied up from my numerous bike wrecks it didn't matter how much she called. She always knew where I was from the explosions though (and occasional police sirens). I like fireworks.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@OneOfMany hahah..what a lil hoodlum you must have been
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Sep 15
@OneOfMany hahah..yes i'm sure you being an angel helped too
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
13 Sep 15
@Rosekitty Not really, just a kid that loved fire. I took the 'don't play with matches' thing to heart though, and only bought lighters. The pharmacy kept the supply of Salt Peter stocked just for me. There was a lot of fun in those days before everyone got uptight.
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