Do you care about a person's religion? Or are their principles more important to you?

@TheHorse (220068)
Walnut Creek, California
October 29, 2015 5:15pm CST
Some people take their religion very seriously. Some think that theirs is "the right religion," while others are "wrong." Other see their religion as a part of their cultural heritage. Some prefer to associate mostly with those of their own religion (or lack thereof). For others, religion makes little or no difference when choosing friends or a mate. Where do you stand? For me, I'm not that concerned with what religion a person adheres to. I've had friends who were Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, and Atheist. But I DO care about a person's principles and values. If they're too different from mine, I might have a hard time forming a deep friendship with them.
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
30 Oct 15
I am interested in a person´s values and principles. And I don´t much care to be around anyone who thinks is the owner of the absolute truth.
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
Agreed. Those who "think they know" more than I do are a turn-off. Values, principles and actions are what matter the most to me.
@Gina145 (3949)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
29 Oct 15
I'm with you on this one. Too many wars have been fought over religious differences and I don't want to be a part of that.
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
It seems ridiculous, as most religions teach peace, but it's true. It would seem that anyone who fights a war in the name of religious would give up the right to claim being religious.
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• India
30 Oct 15
It isn't easy. Wars were fought in past and will continue to be fought. It is likely that religions cause WW III. What do you say?
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@Gina145 (3949)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
30 Oct 15
@the_thinker I sincerely hope there never is a WW III because that would probably bring about the end of the world.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
30 Oct 15
Honestly a persons religious beliefs are not at all important unless the person is known to be a fanatic and a radical imposing his or her opinions on others, even there I would prefer to make my own judgment rather than go by other peoples opinion. If a person is genuinely nice and is positive , it really does not matter what religion he belongs to..
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• United States
30 Oct 15
@41CombedaleRoad So you were using those examples specifically about religion as that is what the discussion was about, but you were not implying that the same things could be an issue, even when religion is not a factor? Thank you for coming back to help me understand.
• Greece
30 Oct 15
A person's religion can have a bearing on their social life. Some may worship on Saturday, others Sunday. Some eat meat, some don't, some believe they have been here before, others that it was as a different creature! If such beliefs are firmly held it may mean that might dictate how deep a friendship can go.
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• Greece
30 Oct 15
@purplealabaster I agree that there are lots of other factors that affect our relationships but this post was only about religion. Your comments do suggest a number of other posts that could be taken up however...smoking for instance...that is a real nuisance if you want people to visit you but cannot bear to have them smoking in your home.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
30 Oct 15
I agree with you. I care how a person acts not how they worship. I am religious but it is my person business and I never judge anyone by their beliefs only by how they treat others.
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
That's my perspective. How you treat others is what's important.
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@FourWalls (68884)
• United States
30 Oct 15
I think a person's principles and values are the most important thing. I think the essence of religious beliefs are reflected in those things: Judaism and Christianity teach, "Love God and love your neighbor;" Buddhism teaches to live in harmony, etc. To me, the only time a person's religion matters is when I'm looking at the person in the pulpit....then I want our beliefs to be very similar! Sadly, there are a lot of evil, nasty, rotten people out there who claim a religion. I'd rather see people live their faith than hear them talk about it.
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
It ticks me off when people claim to be religious, and then act in very non-religious ways.
• India
30 Oct 15
True.
@DeborahDiane (40316)
• Laguna Woods, California
30 Oct 15
I am a Christian. One of our daughters is Unitarian; one of son-in-laws is Jewish; one of our cousins married a Saudi Arabian, converted to Islam and moved to Jeddah. The friend I walk with most mornings is Jewish. I have Buddhist neighbors and I go to Tai Chi with the wife. I really don't care what religion people are, and I think people get too caught up in thinking they are right and everyone else is wrong.
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
Some religious people do that (claim there way is right, and others' are wrong). Fortunately, most don't.
• United States
30 Oct 15
It only bothers me when they insist on trying to get me to abide by their religious beliefs. I think that a person can be very religious and also respectful of people's differences. I would not try to get a Mormon to drink a caffeinated beverage, for example, and I would not want them to try to make me feel badly for being a dominate woman. I think that respect and acceptance are far more important than religious beliefs.
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• United States
30 Oct 15
@the_thinker I also think that differences are beautiful. I will try to respect other people's views and opinions as long as they do the same of me. I think that you have stated it beautifully when you say "Hatred breeds hatred and discrimination doesn't support tolerance.".
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
@the_thinker I need to learn more about the history of that era!
• India
30 Oct 15
@purplealabaster Sir / Ma'am, Great response. Hat's off. Differences lead to varieties and shows hidden beauties. The side effect is that differences are often mother of discrimination. So far as differences do not lead to discrimination, they are good. The moment they lead to discrimination, disasters happen automatically. Muslim Turkish Ottoman Empire attacked many peaceful Christians. In response, Pope ordered Crusades. I won't repeat that history. You read it yourself. Hatred breeds hatred and discrimination doesn't support tolerance.
@vandana7 (100531)
• India
30 Oct 15
You did not include Hindus in that list but you included Muslims. I need to fight with you but right now I am sapped of energy. Some day we will settle this bone of contention. As to religion..I am in the least concerned. I am more interested in how rationally a person thinks and has he or she solutions that do more people some good and less people some bad kind. If the person is capable of coming up with good solutions, I would want that person in my list of friends because it reduces my brain load, and I get to learn somethings, and in general, I like such folks because I can relate to them in some way.
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
Ah, those dang Hindus tick me off. Sikhs too. Kidding. I bet there are bunch of religions I forgot to mention (or don't know about).
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• India
30 Oct 15
// You did not include Hindus in that list but you included Muslims. I need to fight with you but right now I am sapped of energy. // Why you want to fight on religious reason?
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@vandana7 (100531)
• India
30 Oct 15
@the_thinker ..this one is easy. Because I don't find any other reason to fight for.
@allknowing (137552)
• India
30 Oct 15
i do not even know what religion anyone follows here. I have loads of followers and I am following some. Posts interest me and not users. In the real world I have never considered religion to be a blockade for making friends.
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
Yeah, I was thinking of the "real world" when I wrote my post, but I reckon it can apply here too.
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@yugocean (9963)
• India
30 Oct 15
What made you create this post discussion ? Did somebody questioned you ?
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@yugocean (9963)
• India
30 Oct 15
@TheHorse a random question, I can ask what is your favorite horse breed ?
@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
31 Oct 15
@yugocean Morgan! After that, I think it would be Quarter. Why do you ask?
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
No, it's just one of those random questions I sometimes discuss with friends. Or within myself.
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• Mumbai, India
30 Oct 15
I also am like you. Personal traits are important than religion. I think it is difficult to find someone truly religious.
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@yugocean (9963)
• India
30 Oct 15
I am truly
@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
Truly religious! That's an interesting question. Maybe it's something to aspire to, like traveling toward the horizon.
@DaddyEvil (137461)
• United States
2 Nov 15
Hello Mr. pony, I couldn't care less what religion or lack thereof a friend professes to believe... If it is different from what I grew up with, then I might bombard them with questions about the basic tenets, but I wouldn't be interested in "converting" to their religion or whatever belief system they may have... I did have a friend misunderstand my interest in her religion and thought I was willing to convert and became very upset when I explained I wasn't interested in converting to anything. I am not a religious person... On occasion, I will discuss religious teachings, but I do need to be in the right frame of mind. I tend to be drawn to people who have the same type of values I do. Sometimes we become friends, sometimes not.
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@vandana7 (100531)
• India
16 Jul 18
I think right and wrong is pretty much based on our feelings, experiences, and social surroundings. It can differ from one place to another, one family to another, one person to another. Therefore, expecting others to conform to our beliefs can be irritating to them. It is a different issue that they might like us, because somewhere there is commonality. But accepting something as a whole package is asking something huge. Friends would naturally flee.
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@DaddyEvil (137461)
• United States
16 Jul 18
@vandana7 Hmmm... no, not necessarily, vanny... Accepting a person as themselves can be difficult, but not impossible. I look at it as a learning experience. Look at pony and I... He can drive me crazy when he claims he doesn't understand something we've been talking about for days but I still like him...
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@DaddyEvil (137461)
• United States
16 Jul 18
@vandana7 BTW, who is Sherlocked referring to in the other discussion?
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
29 Oct 15
I never care it at all. My best friend from facebook is a god believer and i am an atheist. Its great to argue each other. But before everything we are human.
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
Religion is actually fun to argue about, in a friendly way. But ultimately, as you say, we're human, and limited in our ability to "know."
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Oct 15
@rahulvsmokiee I've read about the caste system in India. I hadn't realized that those in upper castes could be so cruel. I thought they just "avoided" lower caste individuals.
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
31 Oct 15
@TheHorse How can you say that completely. I am not saying that caste is completely not in here. Yes there are caste in here. But Only in some states this things happen. Do you know the primary reason for such things, Its lack of education. Such things happen only in illiterate states. But you must know that where i live is kerala, where literacy rate is almost 90% above. I am glad that such things have never happened in here and won't be happening in here anymore.
@sparial02 (858)
• India
30 Oct 15
Honestly I don't Care.. whatever your principle is or mine.. if you look cool to me.. then i'll also be your coolest friend too..
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
31 Oct 15
Look cool? I don't really care what people look like. Unless I'm considering dating them.
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
31 Oct 15
@sparial02 Ah, thank you. I misunderstood you. I agree. I want to see how people treat others. Particularly those less fortunate than them. And especially when they think nobody is looking.
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• India
31 Oct 15
@TheHorse I didn't mean like "you look beautiful" or something.. am telling about behaviour, if you behave well, i'll behave like the same way..
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
2 Nov 15
Ethics and morals are far more important than religious beliefs. Despite claiming to take their religion seriously, many still behave dishonestly or selfishly, which contravenes their claims.
@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
1 Nov 15
It doesn't matter that much to me too but it would if we are to be in a romantic relationship. I will allow for religious difference if it's not too different from my beliefs.
@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
1 Nov 15
I read somewhere that radically diffenret reigious views CAN put stress on a romantic relatonship. But so can other differences.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Nov 15
Their religion serves to tell me something about them and so that I don't needlessly offend them. Their morals can tell me how close I will be to them. But I try to be friendly to everyone I meet regardless of whatever. I have something in common with everyone I meet. We breathe the same air and live on the same planet to mention a couple. Live long and prosper!
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
31 Oct 15
we are a mostly catholic country, so when i meet and become friends with someone of a different religion, i ask about things, but sometimes they're not willing to talk in detail so i just switch to a different topic.
• Philippines
31 Oct 15
@TheHorse yes. it's like i can ask at most 2 questions. they'll answer then we talk about something else.
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@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
1 Nov 15
@hereandthere Sounds like a good approach. Why belabor differences when there re similarities--common interests and such like--to discuss?
@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
31 Oct 15
Can you still (based on those other topics) become good friends?
• India
30 Oct 15
I judge based on actions and GOD is not related there. Free will is the USP (Unique Selling Propositions) we humans have over rest of the world. That's what all religions agree to. Hence, GOD doesn't interfere with actions. I conclude nature based on actions alone and not religions.
@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
31 Oct 15
I've never heard the term "Unique Selling Propositions" before. What discipline is it from?
@TheHorse (220068)
• Walnut Creek, California
1 Nov 15
@the_thinker I suppose typing out all of these posts using only my nose and hooves would be seen as unique. Am I getting it?
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• India
1 Nov 15
@TheHorse Sir / Ma'am, it is a nice innovation. You have an excellent USP. You can become motivation for various other horses.
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