Customs that women need to run away from

@Missmwngi (12915)
Nairobi, Kenya
November 14, 2015 2:14am CST
In most African traditions women were taught to maintain their families. If anything happened it was mostly their fault. More so if separation happened the woman was some sort of an outcast as she was thought not good enough to maintain her family. It was those times when a woman's say was not much to go by. Even when she was beaten she had to keep trying to keep the family together. This has slowly by slowly faded away but there is still something about it that is yet to be eroded. When a woman gets married whether traditionally or in church they strive hard to keep the family together. Even when the worse comes to worse they still stay. This has made jobless women unable to move away from hopeless marriages. They always think the kids will have a better life there but in real sense all end up suffering. I think it is time to think otherwise
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
14 Nov 15
I couldn't agree with you more. But it will take a lot of time and effort because these customs are ingrained in women from the time they are born.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
16 Nov 15
@Missmwngi Things like this make me really sad, living in the U.S. where woman can do just about anything they want.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
16 Nov 15
@simone10 I guess it will take more time for women to get there in our country
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Nov 15
You can say that again and to make matters worse it is not something that is being worked on
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• Lucknow, India
14 Nov 15
Happens here in the rural and semi-urban India too!! Women just need to break free of the taboos!! Till women dont unite, nothing will happen
@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Nov 15
And they need to stop blaming themselves for certain things that they don't have control over,when a marriage is not working it is not their faults
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• Lucknow, India
14 Nov 15
@Missmwngi Yes, and in most cases it is the mother in law which blames and defames the bride which is actually sad!!
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Nov 15
@Rationalwriter That is another thing that surprises me. Why do they even interfere with marriages instead of letting the two deal with it
@marlina (154130)
• Canada
14 Nov 15
Those long maintained customs take a long time to break.
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• Greece
14 Nov 15
@Missmwngi perhaps it will happen faster than you expect as girls get educated and cell phones are close to hand and TV opens up another world for girls.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Nov 15
I agree and this will take more years before it can be fully broken
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Nov 15
@41CombedaleRoad Too bad most of the places where it happens technology has not yet been embraced
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
17 Nov 15
Even in here there are many customs that are yet been followed. i think only education is the key to kill all these bad customs. Dont you think?
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
17 Nov 15
I agree and women empowerment as it needs their courage to stand up against these issues
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
20 Nov 15
@rahulvsmokiee I hope seeing his photo around here will keep me alive lol
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
17 Nov 15
@Missmwngi Yes. I am glad to see that you changed the avatar of yours. Champ looks much sleepy.
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@Pattitude (1287)
• Newton, North Carolina
14 Nov 15
I love watching from the distance as cultures give more freedom to women.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
15 Nov 15
Unfortunately this one does not give them freedom
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
17 Nov 15
@Pattitude Lets hope for the better for them
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@Pattitude (1287)
• Newton, North Carolina
17 Nov 15
@Missmwngi True, but hopefully it brings them the strength to find independence away from the evil men in their lives.
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@JudyEv (342110)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Nov 15
In Western countries years ago, there was a stigma to leaving your husband. It really was the last resort. But sometimes it is best for all if a clean break is made.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
16 Nov 15
The problem here is the society still blaming the women for the problems and expecting her to still keep a marriage intact despite what
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
16 Nov 15
@JudyEv Sure. The pace to change is slow and we can only hope,pray and wait. I guess what matters is that something is being done
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@JudyEv (342110)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Nov 15
@Missmwngi This is a very difficult situation. We can only hope that things improve for women in these countries.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
14 Nov 15
People hold tight to tradition under any circumstances. It happens here in my country too where married women have to endure bad treatments from their husbands for the sake of their children.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
15 Nov 15
Oooh yeah they always say it is for their kids
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
14 Nov 15
that is quite sad... and it is true that women stay in bad marriages for the family... if i knew someone like that i would definitely try to help her
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Nov 15
We have alot of them here more so in the villages
• Bucharest, Romania
14 Nov 15
Well I really can't say anything about this
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@sofssu (23662)
15 Nov 15
Abusive marriages are truly unhealthy places for children to grow up.. However, some traditions change very slowly.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
15 Nov 15
I agree and these women should know that staying does little for the kids
• West Haven, Connecticut
17 Nov 15
Thats horrible and I dont think woman are treated fairly in many foreign countries
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
17 Nov 15
We can only hope for the better in future
@paigea (36315)
• Canada
22 Nov 15
At least it sounds like there are some changes even if not enough has changed.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Nov 15
Ooh yeah,slowly by slowly things are getting better