What Do You Think Matters The Most?
By Alice Henry
@IreneVincent (15962)
United States
November 19, 2015 11:15am CST
What matters the most should always come first. That's a GOOD rule. Think about it! First, ask yourself: What matters most in MY life?
If you say your SPOUSE, then do you always put his/her happiness before your own? Do you show love and kindness to your spouse and do everything you can to please him/her?
If you say your CHILDREN, do you spend more time with them or with other interests? When you decided to become a parent, you should have weighed all the responsibilities that come with parenthood. And that means putting your wants and needs second. It's also a lifetime commitment.
If you say, your HEALTH, do you avoid harmful habits like smoking and drugs? Remember, what you subject your body to, when you are young, will affect your health as you get older.
If you say your CAREER, do you devote extra time learning what you need to know to further your advancement?
If you say your FAITH in God, do you spend time building your faith, by reading the Bible or other sources, according to your chosen religion, to learn more?
I hope you take this advice to heart, because it's important for you to realize what is most important to you. THEN, make sure that's where you spend most of your time and devotion.
What do you think?
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7 responses
@Rationalwriter (1813)
• Lucknow, India
19 Nov 15
For me, the most important thing is myself!! Because if I don't take care of myself, I won't be in any situation to help my family!!
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@IreneVincent (15962)
• United States
19 Nov 15
That makes sense. Taking care of our own health and well being IS important, so that we can help our family. Good thinking!
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@Rationalwriter (1813)
• Lucknow, India
19 Nov 15
@IreneVincent Thanks!! What do you consider the most important in your life?
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@IreneVincent (15962)
• United States
26 Dec 15
@Rationalwriter My relationship with God is MOST important and to that end I am a student of the Bible, reading and meditating on what it says. Are you a Bible reader.
Secondly, my family, my children are the most important.
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
20 Nov 15
Such an interesting post because it is an encouragement to think intelligently about one's life. All those things you describe are very important and whatever answers may come it still boils down to focussing on the one thing that is our priority.
Personally my priority is my relationship with God, especially as I get older. Even so distractions are always around and although others may not make my choice nevertheless we all have to face being distracted by the less important things that are bound to come along.
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@IreneVincent (15962)
• United States
21 Nov 15
Yes, when a person's relationship with God is a priority, he/she should TRY to spend more time praying, meditating on God's Word, and reading and studying the Bible. I have found a wonderful web site that helps me to do just that. I will recommend it to you. It's for persons of all backgrounds. You can watch FREE videos in different languages. You can read Bible based articles on many faith strengthening subjects and you can request FREE literature in many different languages. There is information for small children, videos that my grandchildren love to watch; information for teenagers and young married couples. This site has something for everyone.
@patgalca (18366)
• Orangeville, Ontario
19 Nov 15
I have always said my children are the most important in my life. They don't need me as much as they used to but they know that I will always be their mom and always worry. When my daughter moved back to university this fall she was moody towards me and wouldn't let me do anything. She kept saying she was independent. This same daughter recently admitted that she is still "dependent" and always will be. I still depend on my parents. When I call my daughter on Facetime my face just lights up with joy when I see her. My kids are and always have been number one in my life.
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@IreneVincent (15962)
• United States
21 Nov 15
My children are very important to me also. I try to spend quality time with them. They are all grown and have their own families and I see them often. I talk to them on the phone and always include them in my prayers.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Dec 15
@IreneVincent yes it is so important and giving is more blessed than receiving to I do agree.
@IreneVincent (15962)
• United States
26 Dec 15
Helping others is always important. "There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving." Words from the Bible.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
20 Nov 15
A very interesting discussion here.
I would say my Wife. And no, I do not "Always" put her above everything and also I do not do everything to please her. If I did so, I would lose my own identity and she would hers. And I think that will not be healthy for either of us. In my opinion, for any relationship to work, both the involved persons should be respected and treated as individuals. We cannot be perfect and cannot act according to what the other dictates. Individuality is important for both to continue long.
I would say my Wife. And no, I do not "Always" put her above everything and also I do not do everything to please her. If I did so, I would lose my own identity and she would hers. And I think that will not be healthy for either of us. In my opinion, for any relationship to work, both the involved persons should be respected and treated as individuals. We cannot be perfect and cannot act according to what the other dictates. Individuality is important for both to continue long.1 person likes this
@IreneVincent (15962)
• United States
21 Nov 15
Yes, it's important to keep our own individuality, but we can also spend more time pleasing our marriage mate in many ways. If BOTH work at a marriage, then that marriage can survive anything that comes up.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Dec 15
@sugartoes 30 long years of togetherness is something really awesome. Must have been a very loving couple. We are only near our first decade together. In Feb 2016 we will be completing 9 years.
We are only near our first decade together. In Feb 2016 we will be completing 9 years.@IreneVincent (15962)
• United States
26 Dec 15
@sugartoes Sounds like you have a GOOD marriage. Your vows were taken seriously, no doubt. Through richer, poorer, sickness, health and anything else life can throw at us. 42 years for me and my husband. My age is wrong on my profile, by the way.
@peterstreep (101)
• Valencia, Spain
20 Nov 15
It's not easy to answer this question with a single word. It depends on the situation.
If I'm deadly wounded in a car accident what matter most is my survival. If my wife is in a heavy accident then my wife matters most. You can not say what matters most, every time it's something else.
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@IreneVincent (15962)
• United States
21 Nov 15
That's right. My main point was that IF you consider anything important then, you should do your best to CONCENTRATE on improving in that area. Many things are important to each of us at any given time, as you said, but do we really spend time when its so important to do so.
@IreneVincent (15962)
• United States
26 Dec 15
@peterstreep Tell us about your ceramics. I've always wanted to try that, but never have. Have you posted anything about it yet?
@peterstreep (101)
• Valencia, Spain
21 Nov 15
@IreneVincent oh, I'm sure we don't. Everybody is distracted in one way or another. But in the end it's my wife, family and friends which are the keystone of my existence I think, without a social structure I'm lost.
Besides that I want to concentrate and give much of my attention to ceramics. I started last year and I love it.
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@IreneVincent (15962)
• United States
19 Nov 15
Excellent comment! We should ALL try to improve ourselves in any way we can to be better persons. Oh, if only all people would think that way, what a different world this would be.
