We Have Cancelled Our Wedding!
By Eden Goldie
@WillowHolmes (46)
November 19, 2015 9:49pm CST
If any of you have paid any detail to my page, which is doubtful as I don't post very often, you'll know I WAS getting married.
27 August 2016 has been our wedding date since we booked all of our suppliers and sent out our 'Save the Dates' in March this year. Every time I see a friend or relative the wedding is of great interest to them and I love them dearly for their passion.
Unfortunately though, after a supplier cancelled, my fiance and I had a discussion and came to the conclusion that this isn't what we want...and we cancelled EVERYTHING after a very lengthy conversation.
We are far from breaking up and still very much want to get married, we just realised our priorities and hopes for the day have changed dramatically. We want to cut the guest list by 35-40 people and make the day more intimate, we need a completely different venue to accommodate this, and of course a different date too.
How do we tell everyone the wedding is cancelled until further notice without sounding like our relationship is on the rocks...and how on earth do we break it to some not-so-close friends that they won't get re-invited?
We want a break from planning after a hectic few months, but now fully understand why some married couples say they'd do it differently if they had the chance.
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8 responses
@Rationalwriter (1813)
• Lucknow, India
20 Nov 15
I will agree with @jrlcentral ( John) here. You are not cancelling your wedding!! You said it yourself that you both have discussed it and you will be rescheduling it!!
That's all your relatives and friends need to know!! When you both are in good terms, then you should not worry about people thinking otherwise!! You both can ask your families to sit together and you both can describe the situation and can tell them that you are just postponing your wedding because of so and so reasons!!
I wish you both all the best and I hope you fix the next schedule easily!!
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@jrlcentral (2605)
• Roxas, Philippines
20 Nov 15
First, I think "cancelled" is a too negative word for this, I think it is more appropriate to use "postponed or will be moved on another date (if you haven't decided the new date yet -- and venue as well).
Second, maybe you could say the reason why you are postponing it, like, some of your suppliers backed out, the planned venue is no longer available, etc...
In my experience, I regretted I did not get a wedding planner. They may cost a bit, but they could get some of the headaches from the two of you.
Congratulations in advance. :D
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
20 Nov 15
Just send new cards explaining that it was all getting too much for you and you've called it off but you're very happy and are not breaking up.
@Katlynn (366)
• United States
20 Nov 15
First, congratulations on your upcoming wedding. This is a sticky situation. I would say that you have a supplier issue that has caused a lot of problems and the wedding will not take place as scheduled. Under the circumstances, eloping sounds pretty good. You could have a nice reception at a later date after eloping and invite the original guests. That way, nobody's feelings will be hurt. But, if you want a wedding as you originally planned, but smaller, it's your day. It should be memorable and as you wish.
@snowy22315 (181942)
• United States
20 Nov 15
Well this is a bit of a mess isnt it? I think what John said is probably good though. Maybe you should just elope. I mean feelings are bound to be hurt if you leave people out. I might just bag the whole thing at this point and run off somewheer and get married. And, say it is postponed due to circumstances beyond your control.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
20 Nov 15
Not necessarily your wedding is canceled, but you could just let your friends/family know - supplier issue and you're in the process of figuring things out. Due to all the stress, you're taking a little break from planning but rest assure your fiancé and your relationship is strong as ever and that both of you are still getting married.
I hope everything turns out fine!
