Argued with my boyfriend

I just don't like to talk. It is not my thing

Alright I've run out of places to reply or comment, Loving, So I'm going to Lo-Jack this one since Hijacking is frowned upon! Hey, @fufurinha! I keep reading your little answers and it's like I'm hearing just a bunch of noise....pleasant noise, I assure you! But noise is noise, and it's like you're asking people for help with wanting to eat this candy bar. But it's wrapped and "you don't like unwrapping candy bars! Then someone suggests that it's important to be able to unwrap our candy bar, and you're sort of into it, like in theory, but your still saying but it's just so hard to unwrap and I just want the candy bar, why does the wrapper continuously keep staying wrapped around the candy bar! No! You can't get the candy bar without opening the wrapper somehow! So just decide if you REALLY care if it's this particular candy bar, you might find a partially unwrapped one laying around somewhere else if not, or if your willing to score it or slice it or rip it until the stupid wrapper finally DOES come off and then you get your candy bar! Now I want a candy bar, so I gotta' go, but just decide what you are more worried about the unwrapping or keeping the candy bar! Oh, that was an analogy in case I was unclear!

It would be perfect!!!

@fufurinha Do you mean no discussions? Or no discussions about the relationship?

You hit it right on the nail! Communication is where the rubber meets the road.

@fufurinha - It is my pleasure. You need to talk to him to open up but still you need to think twice before saying anything to him, means you should not get carried away and share everything with him.

@dpk262006 yes, sometimes we say some things that hurt the other person

Thank you so much honey. I do have to talk more and to open myself.

@fufurinha Don't worry, the relationship has ups and downs. Soon both of you will be happy with each other again. This is my experience between my husband and I. It is very common to have arguments.

The problem is that I don't like to talk.

@fufurinha Practice. Talking is a behavior, and behaviors can be changed. If you like him, you will do things that make him like you to. But if it takes you too much out of your comfort zone, then maybe there is something deeper in you that is causing the problem. Do you know that one thing you could practice to get you talking more, is singing! When you are at home, play songs you like and practice singing with them! Sing in the shower, in your car, anywhere. After awhile, you will like to be expressing yourself.

Why staring at others?

@fufurinha what else would you do if you were not talking or discussing

@thesids I like to talk. Just not about problems

I know that I probably should talk more, but it is hard.

@fufurinha So, fufurinha, why is it that you can have serious chats with people on myLot, but you can't have one with your boytoy? And you know I don't mind talking with you, whether you use full sentences or not, hon! I LIKE talking with you, remember?

Sorry to step in @DaddyEvil, but I just have to ask you, @fufurinha, WHY is it hard? Seriously...And answer in more than one fragment of a sentence, please, if you would be so kind!

@fufurinha It will if both of you treasure the relationship. I agree that communication is very important, I learned that respect is very important as well - respect who the person is. Hope you will have a cheerful day tomorrow!

Thank you so much for the advice. I really hope that with time it gets easier.

@kaka135 There is no relationship if there is not respect. It is essential

I am better now

@fufurinha Yes, I condense and get to the point on how I feel.

So you talk less than you want?

@infatuatedbby And do you feel good with that?

@fufurinha I get that can't be serious all the time.

@Bluedoll I don't like to be serious

I want to talk, but not about my feelings

Yes, here we have loads of discussions ahaha

@fufurinha So this argument was between beautiful and handsome no wonder intelligent was missing I mean whom of you is intelligent (Here I am both Very Handsome and Very Wise)

And by the way, yes, he his handsome!!!

It really does. And I hate to go to bed sad

I really hope that that is not the case. Because I really like him

@ThankyouLord Thank you so much for your words. You are correct, I should talk to him in order to make things better. I don't want to loose him.

@fufurinha Then I would gently suggest that you have a nice conversation with him, and tell him that when he keeps trying to get into your thoughts, it makes you uncomfortable. Let him know how you feel when he does that. Perhaps you can offer him some alternatives, so when those times come, he can do something else other than try to pry into your brain. He cares, or he wouldn't keep asking what you are thinking. You are probably an enigma to him, and he is trying to figure you out. But too much of that, and he will tire of it. Also, you might want to start to open up a little bit. Perhaps you feel too invaded when he does that, but he will ask less if you offer a bit more. It goes both ways in communication.

@abhishek, I agree with you, communication is necessary in relationship, without it, any relationship will mostly likely fail.

My heart is not saying to move ahead

@salonga I have to learn to talk

I know, I have to learn how to express myself.

@fufurinha no not quite, it is up to you to discover a good way of ending a discussion when you realise it is beginning to be disagreeable.

So it is up to me to avoid discussions?

@41CombedaleRoad Okay, I get it. Thank you so much for the advice honey :)

@fufurinha Yes. Never yelled since we got married for almost 5 years

You don't yell at each other? You just go away to breath a bit?

I will try to forget it. It is better

@fufurinha

Yes, I love it when me and my boyfriend are perfect!

I don't!!! lol