~I Can Now Let It Go~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
December 31, 2015 12:46pm CST
My husband wanted to plan something really special for me this Christmas. He did something that was amazing for me, or tried to anyway. 
He was planning on taking me to NC to visit my family and spend the night there. Sabrina was going to watch our children if there wasn't enough room for all of us to stay.
So, my husband called my sister to make sure she wouldn't mind us staying for the one night at her house. She told him sorry she didn't have enough room for us to stay. She didn't have any guests staying that night or anything, her in laws were coming the next day and they don't like our family much.
We didn't end up going since she said that. My friend Sabrina and my husband were angry about it. I was more hurt but I just let it go because being angry or upset won't change anything and it will only hurt ME. What's the point?
The only time it bothers me is when she says she misses me over the phone. She doesn't know I know about what happened though and I am just leaving it alone.
In order to completely let it go I wanted to write about it here first. Now it is another closed chapter in my life...
He was planning on taking me to NC to visit my family and spend the night there. Sabrina was going to watch our children if there wasn't enough room for all of us to stay.
So, my husband called my sister to make sure she wouldn't mind us staying for the one night at her house. She told him sorry she didn't have enough room for us to stay. She didn't have any guests staying that night or anything, her in laws were coming the next day and they don't like our family much.
We didn't end up going since she said that. My friend Sabrina and my husband were angry about it. I was more hurt but I just let it go because being angry or upset won't change anything and it will only hurt ME. What's the point?
The only time it bothers me is when she says she misses me over the phone. She doesn't know I know about what happened though and I am just leaving it alone.
In order to completely let it go I wanted to write about it here first. Now it is another closed chapter in my life...23 people like this
26 responses
@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
31 Dec 15
That is so sad, it breaks my heart. You are a good person, hang in there.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Dec 15
@fishtiger58 It hurt me for a couple days but I had to forgive and let go. It's okay. =) Thank you. 
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
31 Dec 15
@LovingMyBabies you are always welcome
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Dec 15
@paigea Yeah I don't see a reason to hold onto things like this. I just forgive and move forward.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Dec 15
@Marcyaz Yeah it is sad but it's okay. I felt worse for my husband since he put so much thought and effort into doing that for me.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
1 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies
It is a shame that the surprise had to be spoilt by anyone, I feel sorry for your husband that he couldn't do this for you.
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@celticeagle (166976)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jan 16
That is a shame. Her loss though in the long run. And you are the bigger person by letting go. I would probably say something to her but that is just me. Good for you!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 16
@celticeagle Yeah I have to let it go for my own sanity. Sometimes I feel like saying something about it but then I realize its only going to make things worse I think.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 16
@Marcyaz I just don't want to hold a grudge, life is too short as I recently found out by my friend dying. I try to live like each day is my last.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
31 Dec 15
I hope your sister one day realizes how much she hurt your feelings, that wasn't nice of her. But you have a good attitude , smile and go on!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Dec 15
@AbbyGreenhill Yeah I hope she does too but if not its okay. =) Thank you, I have to keep going and not let things get to me.
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@jstory07 (139717)
• Roseburg, Oregon
31 Dec 15
@LovingMyBabies It is hard to forget but for your own health just try and move on with your life.
@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
1 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies We all love having you here and miss you when you are gone. We worry and care and want the best for you. Have a wonderful and Happy New Year.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Dec 15
@boiboing It absolutely is which is one reason I love being here. =)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 16
@GardenGerty Thank you so much for your kind words! That means so much to me.
@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
1 Jan 16
Writing about things is a great way to process. I think that it was good, however, that you were kept from a run in with people who dislike you. I am sure a visit will happen at a better time. I love the thought that your husband tried to plan this for you.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 16
@GardenGerty Yeah it might have been a good thing in the long term. It was so sweet of him to do that for me! I definitely felt loved by him.
@suzzy3 (8341)
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31 Dec 15
What a shame your sister treated you like that. Your husband obviously loves you trying hard to keep you happy by arranging this trip. You don't deserve to be treated in such a way. Well you know how the land lies. I always say " you can choose your friends but your family you are stuck with" Happy New Year to you and yours.xx
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@suzzy3 (8341)
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1 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies Have a happy new year and take care of yourself and family. You don't need any extra stress with the baby on the way. Take it easy.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 16
@suzzy3 Yes my husband does love me very much and I am so grateful for his efforts. =) Happy New Year to you too!
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
1 Jan 16
I'm sorry to hear that you experienced this. but it's nice that your husband thinks about you and tried to give you a surprise
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
6 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies feels good that men who actually care about women still exist. consider yourself lucky to have found him
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@swissheart I do know I am super lucky to have him. =)
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Jan 16
@swissheart Thank you. Yeah my husband tried to do something amazing for me.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
1 Jan 16
Family can be difficult sometimes. I am sorry you were annoyed and hurt but really glad that writing it all out helped.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
1 Jan 16
Sometimes writing things out can be of some help. @ScribbledAdNauseum
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum Thank you, yes family can sometimes be hard to deal with.
@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
1 Jan 16
It's good to vent you would do better here to vent writing about it here will help you adjust maybe you could plan a little vacation one or two days later on.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Jan 16
@softbabe44 Yeah I love being able to come here to vent about things. Makes me feel better for sure. =)
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
6 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies It really helps to have that link
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Jan 16
@TheHorse It most definitely is, but I wont hold grudges either.
@ThankyouLord (698)
• St. Petersburg, Florida
31 Dec 15
Maybe she didn't realize how important it was for you, or maybe she's feeling overwhelmed with the other relatives coming in the next day. Sometimes, we don't think about how stressed others are when we assume they're not. Holidays are hard. Maybe you can go when things aren't so busy.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 16
@ThankYouLord Yeah it could have been that she had a lot going on but she didn't tell my husband that. She told him she just didn't have the room for us.
@HazySue (39268)
• Gouverneur, New York
31 Dec 15
@LovingMyBabies I am so sorry that she said no. I would have a hard time getting over this. You are a better person than me.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 16
@HazySue It's okay. I have just learned that holding onto things only hurts yourself-no one else. So I try hard not to do that.
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@snowy22315 (180763)
• United States
1 Jan 16
That was not kind of your sister. I mean she could have talked to you when you were there...and made up something even....
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 16
@snowy22315 Yeah but its okay. In the end its not worth holding a grudge over or anything.
@LeaPea2417 (37355)
• Toccoa, Georgia
1 Jan 16
It is best to let it go. If they had really wanted to see you they would have made every effort to let you spend the night.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 16
@LeaPea2417 Yeah that is how I felt as well. I had to let it go for my own sanity.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Jan 16
@marlina Thank you, I try not to spend my life being angry.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 16
@jaboUK Thank you, I try not to let things get me down.
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@Traceyjayne (1784)
• United Kingdom
1 Jan 16
what a wonderful thing for your husband to have planned. So sorry that it did not work out.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Jan 16
@Traceyjayne Thank you, it was a nice thing he tried to do. It's okay, that's life sometimes.
@noblewriter (55)
• India
1 Jan 16
I understand your situation and feel the pain, but still why should we spoil our day because of others. The world and its people will never change. Be happy, if possible forgive and move ahead in life. By the way, I wish you and family a happy and prosperous new year.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Jan 16
@noblewriter Did you read my post because that is exactly what I said? I have forgiven and moved forward with my life.
