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My dismal love life

@winterose (39887)

Canada

January 3, 2016 12:58am CST

Well you guys know my x dumped me on Christmas Eve, but the relationship has been rocky for over a year. It is just not working anymore after 16 years. I am talking to him since New Years Eve but we are not together. I want a man that wants me in my life. I am 60 years old; these are the last years of my life. I have been looking online, but these guys are all players. They don't even know me yet the love me already. I can't deal with that bull. There is one guy that doesn't come on that strong and we are communicating through emails. He says he lives right here in my city as well. Then my son's girlfriend is going to introduce me to someone she knows as well. So we will see how it works out, maybe I might end up with a few new friends at least. If I do find someone for me, it will be nice but I am not holding my breath.

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@Juliaacv (51190)

• Canada

3 Jan 16

I've always found, when I was single, that when I wasn't looking it was when I found someone-that's what happened when I met my husband. Try doing that for a while, just you be happy and have fun and see where it leads you.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

when I am not looking I don't let anyone new into my life. My grandmother always told me that men won't come beating down the door, they don't know me, I have to put myself out there.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

@Juliaacv don't tell me what to do I know what I am doing

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@Juliaacv (51190)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

@winterose Enjoy the time that you have to yourself right now, and if it happens then let it be.

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@jstory07 (139697)

• Roseburg, Oregon

3 Jan 16

You are such a nice person. i hope you find the guy for you.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

3 Jan 16

I don't know if I will but I do hope so

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@jstory07 (139697)

• Roseburg, Oregon

3 Jan 16

@winterose I hope so to.

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@Jessicalynnt (50523)

• Centralia, Missouri

3 Jan 16

after a 16 year relationship ends, I just urge you to take whatever time you need, you don't need to rush unless you are ready to rush

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

I am not rushing but at the same time, I am not sitting back watching my life waste away.

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@Jessicalynnt (50523)

• Centralia, Missouri

4 Jan 16

@winterose sounds like you are quite aware of your feelings, good to hear!

Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317041)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

4 Jan 16

I hope you find someone that will make you feel good about yourself.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

I don't need a man to make me feel good about myself, I need a partner for life

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317041)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

4 Jan 16

@winterose I hope God brings you one.

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@Traceyjayne (1784)

• United Kingdom

3 Jan 16

Good Luck .....take your time and find someone nice x

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

Yes I will take my time, I have been looking for 3 months now and I have not even met a single person yet.

@Traceyjayne (1784)

• United Kingdom

4 Jan 16

@winterose take up a new hobby or go to a class....walks in the park ....walk a dog ( borrow one if you haven't got one ) ...people always stop and talk when you have a dog.

@paigea (36317)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

I hope you enjoy meeting the new people. Be safe. I met my husband on line. But I was very careful when we met in person for the first time.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

Of course I will play it safe, I met my X boyfriend on line too

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

3 Jan 16

hi i hope you find that one man thats just right for you as I do b elieve God has one perfec person for each of us and we will meet that person when the time is right. lol.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

I really hope so hon.

@1hopefulman (45120)

• Canada

3 Jan 16

That was a terrible Christmas gift!

I wish you well!

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

Thank you so much

@Teep11 (7673)

• United States

3 Jan 16

What a Christmas. I'm sure you will find someone who will love you unconditionally. You don't have to rush and be careful. Not everyone means well.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

who is rushing, because I say I am looking everyone jumps to conclusions.

@Raine38 (12250)

• United States

3 Jan 16

Good luck! Looks like you are doing it the right way - not rushing and not falling for whatever crap online dating is likely to dish out. I am sure there are good, genuine ones there, as much as there are posers.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

Yep we just have to look if we are going to find any of them.

@Tampa_girl7 (50243)

• United States

4 Jan 16

I hope that you meet the right person.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

Thanks so much hon

@DeborahDiane (40292)

• Laguna Woods, California

4 Jan 16

You sound like someone who can take care of yourself. You will be fine whether you just end up with some new friends or a new boyfriend. Good for you!

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

thank you very much

Angshuman Dee Raj

@deeraj005 (132)

• Mumbai, India

4 Jan 16

You seem nice... Hope you find the right one for you, since spending old age alone can be very scary..

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

thank you

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@HanVanMeegerin (1161)

• United States

3 Jan 16

@winterose take it easy, don't add pressure on yourself and and enjoy life.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

I am not putting any pressure on myself, by my discussion you can see what has been happening so far

@GardenGerty (160663)

• United States

4 Jan 16

Best to be friends first anyway. There are nice people out there, but sometimes they are wounded as well and kind of shy.

@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

Yes I do know that, and I am playing it very cautiously

@mrswhitfield (2044)

• Indonesia

3 Jan 16

I wish the best for you, dear

He dumped you, that's his lost. not you.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

I don't think he views it as a loss.

Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (37351)

• Toccoa, Georgia

4 Jan 16

I am sorry that it didn't work with your Ex. I do think that you will find the right one at the right time. There are a few good men out there.

@winterose (39887)

• Canada

6 Jan 16

The trouble is I am not finding any good ones, I don't want garbage if you know what I mean.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (37351)

• Toccoa, Georgia

6 Jan 16

@winterose I know what you mean.

@LadyDuck (471494)

• Switzerland

3 Jan 16

Just be careful, take your time to evaluate the man and then take your decision.

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@winterose (39887)

• Canada

4 Jan 16

Of course, I am not jumping into everything

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@amnabas (14109)

• Karachi, Pakistan

3 Jan 16

So sorry to read your painful story.

@winterose (39887)

• Canada

3 Jan 16

yep but there is hope at least I think there is

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