Love is far more important in our lives, that what we might think that it is
@innertalks (22070)
Australia
January 6, 2016 5:41pm CST
I was reading a book recently where a psychologist suggested that love was a basic need for children. He included it in with other survival needs, such as water, shelter, air, and food.
Without love being given to them in their early years, they will usually develop some type of neurosis, or emotional problem in their lives, he said.
The child's need for love is a fundamental one, and is a very real one then.
The child cannot live if this need is not being met. The child will continue to exist, but more and more problems will develop because of this lack of love.
It is an essential ingredient that has to be included in the mix that makes for a healthy human being. If we do not have love, we will go looking for it, wherever we can find it.
The craving for such love prevents a person from becoming human in their emotional life, and often then their emotions might become unbalanced. The emotions of fear, despair, depression, negativity might also dog them then.
The person's spiritual, and inner development might also remain stunted without these life giving waters of love being showered upon him or her, frequently during their lives.
Love is what helps us to grow into who we are meant to be.
Love is even more powerful that what this psychologist imagines it to be though, I think.
It is not just psychological problems here, and I think that karma is involved here too.
The karmic bonds are stronger when lack of love is present, but when love is given, this helps these bonds to start to dissolve.
Only love can do this.
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@Shiva49 (26762)
• Singapore
14 Jan 16
I have seen it cuts both ways. Some, due to lack of love received, become loners and stay away from society while others want to make up for what they did not receive and shower them on their own especially their children.
Some parents talk of quality time with children like they can switch on and off, but I feel that will not fill the void of what the toddlers yearn for. I see some parents lost in their gadgets ignoring the basic attention that children crave for and, worse, give them gadgets too to keep them occupied. So they need not be surprised when they reap what they sowed - siva
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@innertalks (22070)
• Australia
14 Jan 16
It is up to us in a way when we are cut by the knife of non-love which way we respond to it, but some cuts are deeper than others, they begin to fester, and hurt. Perhaps only more love can heal these deeper cuts.
More love is sorely needed by most of us I feel. We can never get enough love....
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@innertalks (22070)
• Australia
15 Jan 16
@Shiva49 The funny thing is though that the more we authentically become ourselves the more we will genuinely love others, and the more we will be different from others too. Love becomes us the more we love.
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@Shiva49 (26762)
• Singapore
15 Jan 16
@innertalks I have seen love is an inexhaustible well or spring; in fact, the more we give, the better becomes the quality it generates but, sadly, many are stingy with it and end up punishing themselves - siva
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@Mbalie (316)
• South Africa
6 Jan 16
Many children grow up in dis-functional homes. Some are raised by single parents and the other runs away from his/her responsibility. A well rounded individual needs the love of both parents and to be raised in a loving and safe environment. Society would be such a better place if love was given freely.
@artemeis (4194)
• China
19 Jan 16
In the free world, we are seeing children being abandoned (literally) by their ill prepared and unwilling parents who simply could not or would not want to start parenting. In my country, children are left to their grandparents or relatives as their parents have to travel to faraway cities to make a more viable living and provide better for their children. In both cases, we can really see and experience the payload as these children began to struggle once they realized that their parents are not around them during their formative years. So it did led to many social problems for them (children) and it is sad but neither can anyone do anything about it other than hoping for the best.
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
20 Jan 16
@innertalks
But the difference with these child care centers are that the parents still get to pick up the children after work and the family unit is still intact.
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@innertalks (22070)
• Australia
20 Jan 16
@artemeis That's true.
You raise here an important question.
Just how important is family and the family unit in society, life, and in God's plan (or overall) for all souls?
The family perhaps started with the ideal family of man and woman, (as God created them in the bible account of creation, which implies the thinking at that time of the people who wrote this story too) and then it later grew to include children within it, whereas originally man's companions were merely animals of which he named as well, according also to the bible.
The family unit will always remain importune because of the way children grow from being part of a steady supportive, loving environment that grows them instead of stunting them, and giving them psychological hang-ups and insecurity complexes, or in other words extending their karma, not resolving it, which only the real bonds of love can achieve.
"Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name." Genesis chapter 2, verse 19.
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@innertalks (22070)
• Australia
19 Jan 16
It is the same here in Australia.
Many parents are both working and the young kids are shoved off into child minding centres as soon as they can do so, or they are given to the grandparents to mind.
The other problem here is ice addicts. Their children are usually taken off of them by the social justice people here (Department of Social Services).
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@innertalks (22070)
• Australia
7 Jan 16
The search for love, and to be loved drives people to do lots of things.
There are hopefully some good stories out there too. Some teachers might provide some of the love needed to their students, for example. We never forget such a teacher if we have one.
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@hiru84 (942)
• Malaysia
7 Jan 16
@innertalks
Yes, that's true. But many people don't care children like good teachers. They always try to put through their desires.
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@Shiva49 (26762)
• Singapore
14 Jan 16
@innertalks Some teachers are great role models but they are rather rare now - siva
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