Aging Parents

I understand. All four of my grandparents have passed, also my dad. My mother will be 80 next month. Smile, breathe, and spend more time with them. In the end you will wish you had. *be well and be blessed*

Distancing yourself from them will not help. It will end up causing guilt...more stress. My mother passed away recently, at 89. I was with my father at her side. Now my father is living in my home. My children and grandchildren are observing how I deal with my parents....someday I will be old too.

You will regret the time you did not spend with your parents.I basically missed the last month of my mom's life, as I thought she would get better again, like she did before. I did not make it a priority to get to her area to visit. Lesson learned, I travel almost every month to see my dad. He is 84 and I enjoy the fact he still gets down in the floor with the dog. I know it is easy to say to not be anxious. For your anxiety practice "extreme self care", that is, get enough sleep, eat healthy, have fun, it will ease your anxiety. Next, I would say that age will give you some perspective. I am the age right now that my mom started saying of her parents "this could be their last Christmas" and things like that. She robbed herself of the opportunity of being with them and enjoying them without a cloud over her head. By the way one lived to be 97 and the other 100, about thirty more years. How foolish of her to spend thirty years of dread.

Pay the subscription to give them the medical alert system. Call every day if possible to check in with them. At least make the call once a week. After something happens is not the time for should-have could-have.

I think about it all the time, most specially my mom who is going 69 this year and it worries me what would happen if that day comes. Honesty I don't think am able to handle the situation on my own with the current debt situation and some other things like the family business. but i want to be here when she pass, to let her know that i never disappoint and leave her side. it will the MOST heart breaking thing in my life. but who knows it might get my act together and be really mature this time.

I am temporarily living with my ageing parents.I totally agree that it makes me anxious especially with my father.He is starting to get sinile and he also does not watch what he eats which triggers his hypertension, gout and other diseases.

At times I feel older than dirt, not in a negative way but I am getting old and I know my kids must wonder what it will be like to lose a parent... I wish I could tell them that it is a part of life but that is not the answer they are looking for. It's about remembering how exciting life was for you and your parents, that some will die sadly sooner than they should. Just remember the good stuff that happened as you were children knowing that all of us are going to die some day. I love my kids, I had great fun and laughs with them and I hope when I'm gone they remember the laughter...