Why do you let it happen?

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I'm new here. I've decided to use this as a platform to express myself and see if it makes sense lolll... Now, can anyone tell me why would anyone fabricate a life that is not real? Why use social medias to show a life that does not represent the reality? Why lie to the point where it's difficult to see the truth? I have a friend who dated this man for 8 months. They saw each other and everything seemed so perfect. She would go to his apartment once in a while but he would, 90% of the time, go at her place. My friend, let's call her ''Bouchonne'', was so happy. A match made in heaven. I also did like most would... I went on his Facebook page to see what type a man he was. My god, everything was just wonderful. He goes to church, takes good care of his kids, has a van, works hard, he's good looking. He was perfect. Actually, he was too perfect. The day after the wedding... Yes, you read right. The day after the wedding. He no longer had a van. Nope, it belonged to a friend. He was suppose to be an 'entrepreneur'. That was not the case. He worked (yes, he decided to quit his job) for an agency and did not have a steady job. His kids... Not only did he have 2 kids but he forgot to mention the other 4. I could go on forever.... Nothing was real about this man. He was a fraud from A to Z. I thought that my friend would leave his ass. NOT EVEN!!! Nope, my girlfriend decided to stay married, sponsor his butt for 3 years because she cannot see herself without him. He's the love of his life. You would think that he treats his wife like a queen. I mean, come on. She discovered he was a fraud. Not at all. He's mean to her, cheats on her, lazy as hell and gives her the silent treatment that can last for 5 to 7 days. I tried to make her realize that she loves the man she dated for 8 months. She's on ''lala land'' and believes her man will come around. He will wake up and smell the coffee. He will, eventually, see how good of a woman she is. That's when I decided that it was no longer the man's fault but my friend's fault to accepting everything. She preferes to live in a dream than to face reality. It opened my eyes and I now know that if someone does not want to show the real side of him (or her), the person will go out of his ways to make sure to hide the reality. From now on, if I want to date someone, I need to see the driver's license, copy of all the diplomas (including the one he got in high school), name, address, phone number of the employer so I can verify that everything is in order. Yes, I am now paranoid. I am afraid it will happen to me. Why??? Because I've been there. I was ashame at first. Left the ''bo'' without a fuss because of the shame. Decided to keep everything to myself because I am not a dumb woman - I'm very smart - and how could I not see what was going on? I thought I was the ONLY woman who was stupid enough to believe all the lies. What a suprise to find out that I was not alone... This happens all the time. But, I am among the few who won't put up and accept the lies. If you had to lie about your life it's because you know you were not good enough for me. In that case, I don't see why I should put up with you once the truth came out. To all the people (yes, it happens to men) around the world. If you are in that type of situation. Please find the energy, will power and self love to leave that type of relationship. You will NEVER come out of it as a winner. You will NEVER get anywhere. We only have one life to live. Don't waste it on someone who's not worth it. Until he meets his match, he will continue. Be strong and have the courage to say ''goodbye'' because there's lots of fish in the sea. Don't try to understand because there's nothing logical. Like I said to mine.... I may love you but I love myself even more. Je te quitte (I'm leaving you).