is here someone that is a doctor or nurse that can help me?

well its a very serious decease but doesnt kill him. i was searching on the internet and it appeared fybermialgy but he told me that it isnt it. he is in pain everyday and he said that he needs vigilance for it not to get worse but it isnt any possibility that this decease can kill him HIV it isnt also. i cant really understand what it is.

@enlightenedpsych2 ok i understand :) thank you anyway for trying to help

Well said! I was going to respond with something similar to what you said. There is not enough information.

yes but he should behave positively with no change in manners

yes i respect him a lot and im not insisting in knowing how to know what is the decease. im just checking on him to know if he is ok or not and he isnt telling me anything lately. so im very worried. maybe if i found out what that is i could help him

@abhinalstrikr thanks so much for understanding. even if someone finds out that is sick we shouldnt be away from our friends. and we should tell them how we feel like not to leave them so worried. even more if is your best friend

@Drosophila yes i already did that. i told him that if he needs me im there for him. i already did what i could. im just afraid of losing him you know. it would be really bad for me if i ended up being without him. cause he is a very close friend.

he already did and he knows what is the decease he has. but he didnt tell me. and im worried with him but he isnt talking to me since almost a week. im super worried. he is my best friend and i love him.

@sweetloveforeve in that case there's not much you can do, other than wait around and let him know you intend to stick around. And let him make that choice.

i understand what you mean. but if i tell the symptoms maybe someone here can help me figure it out. i already saw one decease that could be but he told me that isnt that. i just wanted to help him feel better.

@trivia79 he was already checked by a doctor and he knows what he has. but he isnt telling me. thats why im so worried about it.

@sweetloveforeve with the symptoms and few info you provided, they are not enough for anyone (nurse/doctor) to pinpoint the specific illness of your friend. There are a lot of possibilities with that symptoms and illness history. He should be checked by a doctor by now.

thanks yes i worry a lot with my friends. and he is very important to me. i wish i knew what he has so i could help him feeling better.

thats what i been doing. but i talk to him, he read my messages because we are very far so he just reads the messages i send him but doesnt tell me anything since a few days already. so im confused. i dont know if he isnt ok. or if he just wants me away from him.

@Daljinder thank you. yes i think he is very upset with what he found out. but he knows how worried i am he should at least message me telling me some news. i worry with him.

@sweetloveforeve Maybe he needs time to accept his illness or maybe he doesn't want to worry you. Maybe he is just embarrassed. I know some people feel that way. Just keep lending him support he will come around soon. Be patient.

Yes we are best friends i avoid to talk about it with him because he doesnt like this matter. Anyway i just wanted to find out what he had so i could confort him and make him feel better

@Bluedoll thanks for your support i will try not to worry so much and distract him with another things

@sweetloveforeve Knowing he doesn't want to talk about then I guess the thing to do is not even think about it unless he says something and then he may not want to talk for long. Maybe you don't need to know? Many pain related problems are related to our mind set. Asthma is one that can be made worse by concentrating on the problem. It is not that isn't real. It is real but it does have a direct association with our brain process. Chemical disorder brought on by meds can be a serious problem by itself so that getting the right balance is difficult. Even doctors need to constantly adjust what goes on with any changes in chemistry. People that are healthy have the advantage the body does this automatically. A lot can be said for hope and a desire to keep going forward for healing purposes. Finding any kind of joy will be appreciated. Keep in mind when it comes to pain even one small relief is a great blessing. One that healthy people take for granted. But you also need to feel good about you too so you can be a comfort. Try not worry too much or feel down because your friend is suffering?

he already knows what he has. his doctor told him.but he doesnt want to tell me what he has. he is not talking about it with anyone. neither with his family. but im his best friend and im worried. we live very far right now and if i dont know what he has is hard for me to help him.

yes im there always for him. because thats what friends do. but i wish he didnt have to stand it on his own you know? friends are there to support each other and i wanted to help him.

@Letranknight2015 thanks i hope he recovers too and you? how are you doing?

@sweetloveforeve But he wants to. If you chose not to respect his decision, he will think you are just doing what you want and not his. He will hate you for it, it's best to pray for him. If it's a complicated disease, even if we know i doubt any one here in mylot can help. we have a mylotter here who trains nurse but that's about it. I hope your friend recovers.

yes i guess he already went to a doctor. and he knows what his decease is. the problem is that he didnt tell me. and i like him and im worried about it. i know that the decease made him feel low and i want him happy. i want to be able to comfort him.

Yes abby but he doesnt tell me what it is.he just gave some clues about what it makes him feel.thats why i asked if anyone here could tell me what it could be.just for me to have an idea and try to help him.

yes he already did all the tests. he knows what he has. he just didnt tell me what it is. thanks anyway for your reply.

no he has a serious decease and he needs medicines. and he goes to the hospital almost everyday and i want to know what is going on but he isnt telling me what is happening. thats why im scared. and im afraid of losing his friendship because he is very sad since he found out about this decease.

Yes i will wait that he tells me what he has he trusted me a lot but i also know that to talk about his private life isnt easy so i will wait until he feels ready to do it.