Men and money are sometimes a bad combination
By maxen07
@maxen07 (882)
Philippines
January 22, 2016 6:07am CST
With all the bad luck I've been having, sometimes I can't help but justify desperation. But even in the midst of desperation, even if I wanted so badly to end all my problems, every now and then some guy on the Internet would approach me to do something adult with them so they can offer money for it. It happened again when a guy I met on social media offered $250 if I can send lewd videos or do it while on cam with him. I later found out that he's married and staying at home because he had an accident a year ago and he's basically being raised by his wife who works hard for the both of them while he searches for women like me online, hoping he could have a way with them.
I've already accepted the fact that I might stay single for the rest of my life but why is it that it's always married schmucks like that who messages me like I'm some kind of a desperate prostitute? It frustrated me to no end that men like this one exists and it increased my fear of getting into a relationship again. Where have all the good men gone?! I really do feel sorry for his wife and if this blows over, it's both of them who's going to suffer for it. I used to message him but not anymore. Even online friends need to be sifted thoroughly to separate the bad ones. I will be the first one to admit that in all these years that I've been out of the dating game, it's impossible to not feel lonely but if men like that are what's left for someone like me, then staying single is the safer choice. I'm a jealous hopeless romantic and as a girlfriend/wife, I will always need constant reassurance. My soulmate probably already died.
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12 responses
@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
22 Jan 16
Not all men are like that my friend be positive, your soulmate is just there somewhere don't worry about it that much. These married men you gotta stay away from I agree with that but please not all us men are like this believe me. It's just that the good ones are not that confident to go approach the love of their lives and the guys who cheat usually are so confident to talk to girls because they are not after love but sadly, after lust. Be positive my friend I hope you get to meet the love of your life someday!
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@Shavkat (140131)
• Philippines
23 Jan 16
@BigMoney25 I agree with this friend. There knight and shine armor will gonna rescue and be married.
@Shavkat (140131)
• Philippines
23 Jan 16
I think not all men have the same bad scheme. As of me, I just broke up with my partner this month. I guess the right person is not here yet. I am not closing my door. Who knows? I could find the right person along the journey of my life. In terms of dealing with people, I am a bit hesitant to involved with some promising offers. Being vigilant is my tool for it.
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@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
23 Jan 16
I agree with you, not men are like that maybe it's just that women end up with the wrong men because of the wrong decisions they made.
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@Rick1950 (1575)
• Lima, Peru
22 Jan 16
I think that friendships through the internet are not 100% safe. You can not know who is on the other side, and it can take a long time until you know how the other person is like. Take care.
@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
22 Jan 16
I agree. Better to stay single than to be taken advantage of by those kind of guys.
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@rahulvsmokiee (3110)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
28 Jan 16
@wiLLmaH Lol! both sounds same in different spelling right? Hope you are being awesome and always remembered to be awesome
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@GopherDanny (814)
• Philippines
23 Jan 16
It can definitely mess with a person if they try to find the love of their life through the internet. I believe that it seldom works. It is much more reassuring to meet a person and get to know that person through verbal interactions where you can see their gestures and facial expressions since it is much harder to lie in person.
I know it's hard to find someone, and it makes us sad and depressed most often than sometimes. But, when we stop looking and just be in the moment, enjoying life and such, that is where the most spectacular things happen. I never had a girlfriend myself and I am attracted to a lady I don't often meet, but I never pursued her because financially, and maybe mentally, I am not prepared yet for a relationship. But in due time, if all conditions are met, I will pursue the girl who is worth living and dying for. Don't give up. Kudos~! 
@aju007 (1460)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
23 Jan 16
I dont like chatting with online 'friends' whom I dont know offline. Dont expect good guys around the internet sites. Yes there maybe good guys, but if you dont know them in any other ways then you shouldnt allow anyone to be friends with you. You should be more careful in choosing them.
And dont take hard decisions. Everything is gonna chamge . Be positive.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
22 Jan 16
Sorry but in a materialistic world, money speaks. They see any kind of weakness especially material needs and lots would like to take advantage and mind you there are lots of predators out there. It hurts and it sucks but that's the truth. Careful with the signals you send out especially on social media cause a lot of creeps would mis interprete it.
@rahulvsmokiee (3110)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
23 Jan 16
hey dont say that you can marry me. haha ! Being single is my power haha!!
@WriterMukund (181)
• India
22 Jan 16
Sorry to hear about a creepy experience you had. Still there are good guys there and keep up the hope sister, you will find a nice guy. My advice to you is that do not ever visit or register to such kind of sites. You told that you are lonely but if you try to find companions through those ways,you are bound to be disappointed. I am telling you like this because if any guy sees a girl on such sites its understood that she is meant to be used. I know that it is wrong but that is the mindset among most of the guys. Hence I advice you not to visit such sites. Hope you will follow. Take Care :)
