"When you disobey your parents, does it mean you're not a good daughter or son?"
By ida123
@ida123 (6206)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
March 4, 2016 4:38am CST
No children who don't love their parents, all children do love them, respect and obey them but there was a time that I disobey my parents and this is in connection with my love story.
When I met my husband before, I was 23 and he was 29. I was a regular employee of that bank where I was working and my husband was a businessman but he was not a degree holder and that's the reason why my parents don't like him even he was a good man. When he met and asked my parents permission for the wedding, they answered him NO. We still met and decided to have our wedding without my parents blessings and we did, without any members of my family has attended, we did an ordinary wedding last 1989 and that's the time I disobey my parents. After the wedding,they never talk to him when we visit our parents house, we did it for almost 2 years.
One day, my Mom got sick and was confined and I was the only one who will take care of her, so what they did is to ask my husband's help to take care of my Mom and that's the time they talk to him and accept as members of the family, we're so happy at that time.
How about you, is there a time that you disobey your parents?
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14 responses
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32747)
• Calgary, Alberta
4 Mar 16
I run away from my parents at age 17, They dont see me as a good son anyway, no matter how hard I try so they were good riddances in my life. Call me a bad son but at least I am not a right wing bubble thumping verbally abusive parents who killed all of my pets while I was at school because they care so much about the hygiene on the house even though my pets are toilet trained.
I will be miserable if I am nothing but submissive to them. My rebellion gives me the life that I wanted now.
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32747)
• Calgary, Alberta
5 Mar 16
@ida123 sorry for the accidental double post. I end up double posting because of the loading errors happening recently. I am considering to make amends with my parents since it has been years but I was doing fine without them. I do want to know how they were doing.
@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Mar 16
@CaptAlbertWhisker
Sigh, I thought you come back to them and make peace. If you don't mind, just visit them and make peace before it's to late, we never knew when there time comes, it's good to make amend with them, it's a humble advise from a friend.
@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Mar 16
Good that you love your life the way you wanted it to be and being disobedient is not really something bad, if you are disobeying because you want to prove them that they are wrong and you're sure you are right, will I can relate you, friend.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32747)
• Calgary, Alberta
4 Mar 16
I run away from my parents at age 17, They dont see me as a good son anyway, no matter how hard I try so they were good riddances in my life. Call me a bad son but at least I am not a right wing bubble thumping verbally abusive parents who killed all of my pets while I was at school because they care so much about the hygiene on the house even though my pets are toilet trained.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Mar 16
You have the reason that you run away from them and that's your decision, like me, I made my own decision to marry my husband and I win because I wed a good man even he was not a degree holder. If you're happy with your decision, then you win. it doesn't mean that when we disobey them for good, it doesn't mean that we don't love them, we'll continue to show them our respect, love and care.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50546)
• United States
4 Mar 16
We share this in common. I also got married in 1989 in July and my parents didn't approve. After our son was born he won their approval and now love.
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@alchemistrx (2547)
• Philippines
4 Mar 16
Maybe i would disobey my parents when my time has come for me to get married.
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@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
6 Mar 16
It's really not easy for you and your husband at the first few years, I am happy to hear that your family now accepts him.
I am definitely a good person, a good child, but I am not an obedient child. I always disobey my parents, even until now. Well, not really big deals, it's just that I always have different opinions with my parents, especially my mom. Of course, there were many times I still listened to her, even though I didn't agree. I just like to voice out my opinions, and wish we could discuss since I was young. One example is I let my children play in the rain, but my mom keeps asking me not to do so, as she worries my children might get sick. I understand her concern, but I still do what I think is right. 
So, I can always understand when my children don't listen to me. They always have their opinions too, though sometimes I have no choice but have to force them follow my ways for certain things.
So, I can always understand when my children don't listen to me. They always have their opinions too, though sometimes I have no choice but have to force them follow my ways for certain things.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
8 Mar 16
Is this your love story , i answer to my challenge ? 
Parents can sometimes be dominating even if when we are of age already .
Just like you , my parents don't like my husband because he was younger than me by more or less 6 years . But i disobeyed them, because anyway i am of age , i was 31 while he was 25 when we got married .
Parents can sometimes be dominating even if when we are of age already .
Just like you , my parents don't like my husband because he was younger than me by more or less 6 years . But i disobeyed them, because anyway i am of age , i was 31 while he was 25 when we got married .1 person likes this
@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
8 Mar 16
Yes, this is my story but I felt hurt because they told me that I married an ignorant and not a degree holder person and still my husband keep on visiting them even they don't talk to them. Good, the reason of your parents is that you are older than your husband, age doesn't matter as long as you are compatible and his responsible and you love each other.
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@iamshane487 (1139)
• Manila, Philippines
4 Mar 16
According to the song, mother knows best. It only means that parents know what is best for their children. But there are times that parents are wrong. But telling them they are mistaken doesn't mean we are rude and we are disobedient.
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@lovebeingmummy2 (806)
• Aberdeen, Scotland
4 Mar 16
I think we all disobeyed our parents when we were young, my two boys certainly do
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@azrapa (63)
• Ireland
4 Mar 16
Not because you disobey your parents mean that you are a bad son/daughter. We have to remember that parents are just humans like us and they can make mistakes and wrong decisions as well. Of course don't go around disrespecting them - there's a difference. If you're already an adult and capable of making your own decisions, your parents' opinions should come after what you yourself think.
In your case your parents were in the wrong. Even if your husband doesn't hold a degree, they should instead be impressed because he didn't need even need it to establish and be successful in running a business. Your parents were looking in all the wrong places.
Also, what bothers me is that they suddenly decide to rely on him once your mother got sick. Clearly they weren't accepting him from the bottom of their heart, they only accepted him because they needed him.
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