Secret Love.
By Sherly Bejoy
@Sherlymbejoy (111)
Hyderabad, India
March 17, 2016 6:24am CST
I'd been trying to understand why do people fall in love after marriage. Some do, I'm not talking about all. Is it because of physical needs or emotional? Or the fact that one can't seem to connect mentally or intellectually with the spouse, so much so that one needs to look for respect and love outside.
What's your opinion?
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@Sei_Ryoku (78)
• Indianapolis, Indiana
17 Mar 16
In my opinion, love is overrated - but that might just be my cynicism and personal experience talking. If someone who's married finds love outside of marriage, then that person either did not truly love their spouse, or the differences between them grew to be too much, and distanced them emotionally. It might also be because their spouse does not show them the love that they deserve, and so they look for love outside, for people who will treat them like they deserve.
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@Sherlymbejoy (111)
• Hyderabad, India
17 Mar 16
I totally have the same opinion as your's. Love needs constant effort. I'd been dealing with people who're emotionally far from their spouses.
My heart goes out to all the married yet emotionally single people.
It's so easy to woo someone but so difficult to respect once you own that someone. Such is life.
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@Sei_Ryoku (78)
• Indianapolis, Indiana
17 Mar 16
@Sherlymbejoy Agreed whole-heartedly!
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@makaujackson (64)
• Nairobi, Kenya
17 Mar 16
I think the phrase 'falling out of love' is as real as the phrase 'falling in love'. It can come and go. But once you are married, you hope it stays forever, otherwise whats the point?
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@Sherlymbejoy (111)
• Hyderabad, India
17 Mar 16
Absolutely. But like we get to know we're in love, like that do we get to know when we're out of love?
@Sherlymbejoy (111)
• Hyderabad, India
17 Mar 16
No @shavkat let's not be judgemental right. I'm not talking about unfaithfulness here. I'm talking about the genuine need of lost love. Sometimes couples do take each other for granted. I know people who've gone through really tough marriages. People who would never stray but felt humbled when somebody else showered love and respect but that someone was not the wife/husband.
@Shavkat (139962)
• Philippines
17 Mar 16
@Sherlymbejoy I think it happens. If both souls don't know the needs and cannot continue to ignite affection. It will surely put the marriage in trouble. However, it does happen that leads to being unfaithful. They can find this to other people.
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@Sherlymbejoy (111)
• Hyderabad, India
17 Mar 16
@Shavkat hmm knowing and understanding each other's needs is also important. So true.
@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
17 Mar 16
@Sherlymbejoy,I agree with you.They may be hungry of the love and respect they had expected from their spouse before marriage.When the expectation doesn't get fulfilled,they begin looking for it in extra marital relations.
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@Sherlymbejoy (111)
• Hyderabad, India
17 Mar 16
Yup yup, sometimes even friendship takes that place. There are times when friends stay with you while the spouse fails to understand.
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