How Would You React?
By jaishankar
@else34 (13515)
New Delhi, India
18 responses
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
23 Mar 16
There can be many reasons, including, of course, the obvious one that that person may have nothing to say or add to in your discussions. It may also have to do with that person's time constraints or any one of a number of other entirely personal reasons.
The last thing one should expect is that the person is ignoring your discussions because they dislike you, though it is all too easy to imagine that such is the case. Be very careful to guard against your own tendency to take something as a personal affront. That is very often a sign that you are thinking of yourself as being more worthy than you are ... in other words, that you are committing the sin of pride and, as we all know, "Pride goeth before a fall."
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
24 Mar 16
@owlwings Wow!! You have a point.Okay,now on I'll continue visiting their posts,but not as much as I have been doing so far.The time I have been dedicating to their posts will now be dedicated to reading,liking and commenting on the posts of responsive friends.Thanks a lot for this great guidance.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
24 Mar 16
@owlwings,Thanks,my friend.I like to assure you that I am not over estimating myself.It's not 'pride' either.It's a very simple,natural expectation.They and myself initiate discussions on our day to day experiences.They start two or three discussions everyday whereas I initiate just one,and that too in two or three days.I visit,read,like and comment on each and every discussion they start.And when I do so,they interact with me.Can't I expect them to interact with me on my posts,especially when I visit their each and every post?I will still continue visiting their posts as this is my 'duty' as a mylotter,but sometimes it hurts.I am not taking it as a personal affront.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
24 Mar 16
@LdeL0318,Of course,they are free to select discussions of their choice.But don't I have the right to expect them to visit my post at least once in a week?Their discussions,too,are about their day to day experiences,and so are mine.They start two or,sometimes,three discussions in a day,I start one,and that too in two or three days.Despite lack of time I visit all their discussions.Can't they visit at least one of mine?It's but a natural expectation.However I'll go on doing what I should and continue visit their posts.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
25 Mar 16
@Shavkat,No,there is no such rule for it.You are free to choose,read,like and comment on discussions of your choice.But think for a minute,if you have been respecting someone,won't you expect them to respect you in turn?If I visit each and every discussion they start,can't they visit mine at least once a week or a month?Hope,you got me.
@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
23 Mar 16
I still answer them as I can my friend.
I try to answer all discussions that are displayed to me regardless if they visit or not.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
24 Mar 16
@else34 I do notice it for sure, but it does not hurt me friend. I am sorry if it does you.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
24 Mar 16
@TiarasOceanView,So far I,too,have been doing so.And hopefully will go on responding on their discussions in future.But sometimes it hurts.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
23 Mar 16
that's on you though, not them, so you can either keep on doing so, or simply stop reading them
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
26 Mar 16
@Jessicalynnt Do only what you can enjoy.Otherwise it becomes a burden.If you enjoy reading others' discussions here,do read them,or else,leave them and do something else you enjoy.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
26 Mar 16
@else34 pretty much, as this isnt a job, money or not, it's meant to be fun
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
26 Mar 16
@else34 I have actually stopped reading some, others post so lovely I decided I didnt care, but I also wasn't going to spend tons of time crafting a super nice response
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Mar 16
Of course, you feel hurt but don't blame them, just ignore it. Just do your part, if you can make a comment to a certain discussion then comment, time comes, they will see you that you commented also to their discussion and they'll do the same.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
24 Mar 16
@ida123,Thanks,dear friend.I don't blame them for ignoring me.What I have shared here is just an expectation,a justified expectation,I think.Don't I have the right to expect from them the same gesture.I visit each and every discussion they start.And they start two or three discussions everyday whereas I initiate one,and that too not regularly.Despite lack of time I visit their posts.Can't they visit one of mine?Sometimes it hurts.However I'll go on visiting their posts in future,because Mylot is a site that expects us to interact.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
24 Mar 16
@ida123 Thanks.Like you,I too,will still,go on visiting their posts as I have been doing so far.Let me see when they think about it.They don't ask me to visit their posts,nor am I am asking them to visit mine.I visit their posts on my volition.Let me see when they visit my posts on their volition.What I have shared here is a natural expectation.Nothing more,nothing less.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Mar 16
@else34
That is true mylot is a site for interaction, so we have to interact each discussion if we think it is good and we can make a comment. I've experienced here many times, commenting other members discussion but like you observed, much of them won't reply, I just ignore it, maybe time comes, they'll see me always commenting them even without their response, they'll do the same.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
23 Mar 16
No on can read/comment/like on every single discussion, maybe Superman could!
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
24 Mar 16
@AbbyGreenhill,You are absolutely right.No one can visit hundreds of discussions initiated here everyday.But if I visit each and every discussion they start,then naturally I can expect them to visit at least one post of mine.They interact with others and that's good,but can't they sometimes interact with me on my discussions,at least once in a week?Am I expecting too much from them?
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
24 Mar 16
@else34 Just keep up what you have been doing and see how it goes. At my age I stopped 'expecting' people to do things, I just do my thing and don't worry.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
24 Mar 16
@AbbyGreenhill Right.I had once heard my father talking with his friend and saying that he[ his friend ] should not expect even his sons to do things for him.He was right.And now you say the same thing.I'll continue with what I have been doing so far.Thanks for guiding me.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
25 Mar 16
@gudhearts,Yes,it hurts.I know how discouraging it is.Imagine,how you feel when you appreciate someone,and they ignore you!!
@cacay1 (83614)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Mar 16
@else34, It can cause injury, unfairness. We are humans, so sensitive and our mind and heart always work to find answers as to why others do not care the way the care others despite sometimes not so worth to read posts they most likely prefer. Just be humble and be patient my dear.The payment here is also not worth to be sicked about.Relax for our heart is very much involved and affected.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
26 Mar 16
@paigea,Same here.So far I have been even visiting the discussions of those who ignore my posts.They have been my favourite writers.But gradually their indifference towards my discussions made be reconsider my strategy.Wasn't it a natural reaction?If I help them earn more,why can't they help me in turn?After all are here to express ourselves and earn a little in the process.Am I wrong?
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
25 Mar 16
@rina110383,Would you ignore them and stop visiting their post,or would you ignore their ignoring you and continue visiting their posts?I don't know what to do.Have decided to follow @owlwings' advice and start visiting their posts less often.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
26 Mar 16
@rina110383 That's exactly what I have been doing so far,but their indifference to my posts made me rethink and reconsider my strategy.I decided to divulge my heart here so that my friends like you may guide me what I should do.
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@rina110383 (24492)
•
25 Mar 16
@else34 I would ignore their act of ignoring me and continue visiting their posts.
The advice of owlwings is a good one. I've read it.
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@celticeagle (168856)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Mar 16
I would move on. You did your part. What more can you do? Send them a PM pleading with them to glance and comment? There are plenty of members. And, believe me this person is probably not the only Mylot member who does this same thing.
