Babies, babies and more babies.

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In the almost 9 years that my other half and I have been together, we have had 4 pregnancies, 2 of which ended all too soon in miscarriage, and 2 of which with some medical help (having a cervical stitch) managed to make full term. Having 3 living children and an ex-foster child (he's 18 and moved out, but still comes to stay over for visits), I am now all done having babies, I don't even get broody any more, not even when around newborns (my sister in law had one on the 8th of March, and it has not stirred any feelings of wanting more). My sister in law on the other hand has already made the decision to try for another as soon as possible, a decision that was made while she was still pregnant! She already has 3 older boys, plus this new addition (a girl), while I take no issue with her decision on this matter, it does make me wonder whether she has an addiction to having babies or being pregnant, or whether it is a case of wanting a large family and knowing that she has a finite amount of time to do it in? My Nan was from a different time, when large families was the norm, my mum is the 12th child out of 14, and while it's unusual these days to go quite that far, it's not totally unheard of. Because of the large family my mum came from, she saw this as the norm for her and she too wanted a large family. Due to finances however, she only had 6 children, but given the opportunity, I know she would have had more. Not so much of addiction in my mums case as it was that she wanted for us, what she had had herself, a large and loving family. I myself actually wanted no children, but at 17 and in a relationship with a guy 6 years older, I was badgered into getting pregnant (suffice to say, once pregnant, he decided the relationship "wasn't for him" and that he didn't "want to be paying for a baby and all its needs"). So I kind of fell into motherhood and I actually quite like it, hence having a foster child and 2 little ones as well.