First Reaction of Being Cheated
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (139938)
Philippines
April 11, 2016 7:45pm CST
I had seen some people how they handle the situation when a partner cheated on them. I thought I would never experience this. However, love works in different ways. I was cheated by my partner and that’s the reason why I had never tried to commit myself again. My first reaction was so in pain deep inside. The feeling of being struck by a dagger in my heart. It has been years but I was so afraid to find another person to love again. The cheating part of my relationship is a big factor for me to be traumatized. But I started to love myself and focus more on my family. I am still hurting deep inside but I need to face this fate of mine for loving someone faithfully. Unfaithful is a big word for being inconsiderate to the feeling of others. How about you, guys? What’s your first reaction of being cheated by a person whom you loved so dearly?
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
12 Apr 16
I would feel hurt and betrayed but I would fight for it if i believe it's worth fighting for. what's mine is mine and nobody can take that away from them. But if what is mine choose to be with someone else, then it's time to let go and celebrate...because it's an opportunity to find somebody new. 
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@Shavkat (139938)
• Philippines
12 Apr 16
@toniganzon Let us cross fingers for that.lol
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@carebear29 (31963)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
12 Apr 16
I have been cheated on several times before so I am used to it.
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@Shavkat (139938)
• Philippines
12 Apr 16
@carebear29 That's the thing I do. I don't show it to people the pain. I always go in this site and ask opinions of mylotters.
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@carebear29 (31963)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
12 Apr 16
@Shavkat I hide my emotions and talk to people on MyLot
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
18 Apr 16
Don't get mad. Get even!
Never forgive. Never forget.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
@Shavkat no one knows.
They say time heals all wounds. Right now, all I'm asking is for time to hurry up so I don't feel like this anymore.
@Shavkat (139938)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
@allen0187 Have you been cheated by someone?
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@AbbygailJ (20)
• Trinidad And Tobago
30 Sep 16
I learned that once you stay, the cheater feels that he has gained a victory and you lose your worth and dignity.
@shaggin (72136)
• United States
12 Mar 17
Being cheated on the one of the worst feelings in the world. It makes you feel absolutely worthless. I was sick to my stomach when I found out. He was the last person I ever thought would do that to me. It really has ruined my last bit of trust in people.
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@Shavkat (139938)
• Philippines
12 Mar 17
I can't agree more, my friend. I felt lost during that time. I believe in bad karma and now, she is asking help from me. OMG! After all said and done, she still has the guts to ask a favor. I pity her and luckily, I had moved on. Sometimes I can still remember what had happened. I know what you feel.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
12 Apr 16
I am sorry you had to go through such a heart break 
I have never been in this position so I do not know. But I warned my boyfriend if he ever does any such thing I will hurt him but most importantly just break up. There is no need to cheat and still think he can remain with me. But so far, we've been dating for over 9 years and it's going well. I hope one day you can commit again to a relationship - it'll take time though.
I have never been in this position so I do not know. But I warned my boyfriend if he ever does any such thing I will hurt him but most importantly just break up. There is no need to cheat and still think he can remain with me. But so far, we've been dating for over 9 years and it's going well. I hope one day you can commit again to a relationship - it'll take time though.1 person likes this
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
12 Apr 16
@Shavkat I cannot imagine your pain and situation. I hope you will get to fall in love again.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
12 Apr 16
My first reaction was to leave. And that I did my friend.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
17 Apr 16
That's really painful. I'm just lucky I have an honest and loving husband who never betrayed me.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
12 Apr 16
i will be hurt first, the n what i will do is think of how unfortunate he is for letting me go. hahaha!
i will concentrate into being serious with my work for now
i will concentrate into being serious with my work for now1 person likes this
@Shavkat (139938)
• Philippines
12 Apr 16
@ridingbet I also think that it is her lost for letting me go. As of now, I will focus more on my family and work. I will show how regretful she had done to me.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
12 Apr 16
@Shavkat yes, for she let you go. that is one of the good reasons that we should think of, and not get depressed due to our own inconsistencies in holding a relationship.it is good to cry, but it is better to get over the pain and take it as an experience
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@Wowtalk (592)
• Jamaica
23 Apr 16
To be cheated on is a horrible experience that no one should ever encounter. If he/she loves you he/she would think twice before cheating. This I would forgive if he/she was drunk and it was a one night stand. A mistake happens for me, it would have to occur once not twice, “drunk".
@marguicha (223028)
• Chile
12 Apr 16
I have never been cheated. But I would not have accepted it.
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@OreoBrownie (3755)
• Commerce, Georgia
15 Apr 16
I say to go for it. Take the risk of putting your heart out there. It's the only way to find love again. Give yourself time to grieve and then try again. You might get three or four rejections before you find the one, so I say try again.
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
12 Apr 16
I have not been cheated on but I know the feeling of betrayal. You should take some time for yourself. Reconnect with friends and family. Do the things you stopped doing due to that relationship. Because she did not like it. Not to get back at her but to get back the part of you that you lost during that period. Get busy and develop new interests. Do things you always wanted to do. It will help you move on and feel lighter.
Most importantly when you are ready get the closure for that ordeal and shut that door forever.
About falling in love again, you will when you are ready and when that special someone crosses path with you. Yes trust would be the issue at first. You will have to work with your partner to help you through that. In early period there would be some triggers that you should discuss with her. You will slowly learn to trust her.
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@lovebeingmummy2 (806)
• Aberdeen, Scotland
16 Apr 16
must be horrible for those who have been cheated on
