Sometimes I feel as if people think this place is a DIARY site
By AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
United States
April 16, 2016 6:17pm CST
WAIT!
Just wait before you start getting mad.
I've seen a lot of posts lately that do not invite any kind of interaction at all, atleast not anything that invites conversation.
I've seen A LOT of challenges, and yes I have my own mind about that, but I've also seen posts that basically say "I just ate."
Well Whoopty Friggin Doo! Good for you, but what do you expect us to say?
There's only so much we can say to that.
"Glad you ate." "Was it good?" "I've never had that." "I"m allergic to that."
None of these really invite too much conversation does it?
A lot of the posts I've seen lately are counter productive. What I mean is, they are coming from people who are HERE for the money and aren't shy to say it. Yet, instead of creating discussions that are well.. DISCUSS-ABLE they create just... status updates.
So if you've not seen me around lately? It's because I have nothing to say, either on my own discussions, or anyone else's.
Come on people. We are NOT any of those other writing sites. So STOP Treating us like we are.
We are human. Most of us are friends or even family of sorts. We aren't strangers shooting the breeze, so stop treating each other (AND THIS SITE) like we are.
That is all.
Tell me what you think, how you feel about my opinion, and what you think of the types of discussions I have mentioned in this discussion.
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34 responses
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
17 Apr 16
The best part of this site is you don't have to read, or comment on, or like discussion. There are many discussions that I don;t care to be part of, therefore, I don't. I move on. Since this is a social site and not a 'writing' sites it operated differently. Those who put out stuff no one reads or comments on lose out, they just don't realize it.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
18 Apr 16
@TheHorse driving people nuts is easy work
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@TheHorse (220229)
• Walnut Creek, California
17 Apr 16
Or maybe some realize it and post about other things. I love posting about my latest speaker project, but how many pictures of pretty walnut can people handle? I only do those occasionally, as I don't want to drive people nuts.
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@TheHorse (220229)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Apr 16
@AbbyGreenhill I'm making a list of those who will feel my wrath (in the form of driving them nuts).
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@Orson_Kart (6842)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 16
Yeah, JJ wrote a discussion very similar to this. It seems to annoy us old mylotters, particularly as it appears to be caused by the invasion of the Bubblers. It doesn't really bother me that much because I just ignore them.
Mind you, I am not much better because I tend to write crap.
I haven't been around much lately, so never noticed your absence. Sorry. However, you do write some interesting stuff, particularly about my history, which I try to read and respond to when I can.
As for those infidels, off with their heads I say!
I haven't been around much lately, so never noticed your absence. Sorry. However, you do write some interesting stuff, particularly about my history, which I try to read and respond to when I can.
As for those infidels, off with their heads I say!5 people like this
@Orson_Kart (6842)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 16
@MsTickle Well hello there. So you have also returned to the fold? I'd like to tell you it's like old times, but it;s not. At least not for me. Some of the old gang are here, but the banter isn't as it was. Maybe it's because I am older and more of a curmudgeon these days, or maybe I look back with rose tinted glasses. Anyway, it's good to see you here. I hope you are well. 
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
17 Apr 16
I had not seen you around for quite some time but I do remember you. I DO make some silly discussions from time to time but I guess I've tried to stay away from doing that myself. There isn't enough about things I want to read about here anymore. I wish they'd bring back categories, if only just a few, so that we could sort of better find discussions that would interest us.
I do love British History, and I still read up on things but haven't found anything that I want to discuss here yet.
@Juliaacv (51588)
• Canada
17 Apr 16
I hear you, and I agree. There are too many detailed discussions on going to the bathroom, with the door open or closed, and believe it or not, illness. I have read the word vomit on this site more often then anywhere else, and it IS disgusting. Its enough information to say that your child has the flu, or that they won't let you out of their site for a minute, never mind talking about going to the bathroom with the door open so that they don't cry or talking about their throwing up. Eww, and those discussions DID get comments. I cannot imagine how, as I was gagging.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
17 Apr 16
Now some of those are REALLY disturbing and disgusting. I've not come across any of those. I am not saying discussions about illness is bad, but do spare me the gory details. If you say "stomach upset" it implies the other stuff, without having to go into the gore of it all.
Of course, we do have several nurses / ex nurses on this site, so I can half expect that stuff from time to time.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
17 Apr 16
@Juliaacv there are online communities for those types of questions, or even just use the Mylot private messages methinks.
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@Juliaacv (51588)
• Canada
17 Apr 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum I agree, but these discussions were actually from young mothers who were so ignorant that I wouldn't expect them to be a nurse, or anything even remotely close. I feel that discussions like these show disrespect for the rest of us.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 16
I do agree with you - we've had that challenge about using the initials of your name for food, and another about what your favourite colour is - so boring. I never bother to even read them.
And the diary type ones - it used to be a joke on Bubblews that those 'what I had for breakfast' posts were really scraping the barrel. Yet here I've seen a lot of them, and what's worse, they get plenty of responses too.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
17 Apr 16
Those intitials of your name ones are so silly. Now some people write diary type posts but they make them interesting and worth responding to, while others just say the same boring thing day in and day out. I just can't abide by them.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Apr 16
This is where I feel that categories would be a good thing again. You can put your posts then in those types of categories and be more likely to find people to actually converse with. I'd love a history category myself.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Apr 16
@TheHorse Most of them were straight forward when we had them before. Of course "People" (category) through everyone for a loop.
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@TheHorse (220229)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Apr 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum I'd probably be perpetually confused about what category to use.
@Margielynn (693)
• United States
17 Apr 16
I feel we are all unique in our own way, that is what make it fun to me. I jut pick and choose what interest me!
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Apr 16
I've always found that to be true here, unfortunately. Although I can also see that it's easy to run out of ideas of things to discuss without rehashing the same things repeatedly.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Apr 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum I've been spending a lot less time on this site due to all those tiny little things that annoy the heck out of me! Sure it means I'm not earning as much.. but I'm also not as frustrated when I do get to spend some time here.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
19 Apr 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum Well sadly the topics I enjoy the most are also the ones that cause me the most frustration.
I guess it just comes with the territory on sites like that. People like to complain about things that others find petty.. arguments arise.. things are said that wouldn't be said in face to face conversation... yada yada
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Apr 16
@katsmeow1213 I have noticed your absence. Perhaps we can drive the admin to make categories again, at the very least? This way we can avoid topics we loathe and not have the headache from it as well.
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
17 Apr 16
I will only respond to those discussions that I can give a response to. They also have to have meaning and substance or after reading them, they don't, then I just move on. Mine may not seen really interesting, but I am getting resspnses and comments, so I guess i did do something right. Sure, I know that people won't respond to any of my discussions, if they aren't interesting enough, and I wouldn't expect them to, either. I have seen the challenges too, but for the most prat, I don't do them either. I am just thankful, that I do get responses and comments to my discussions.
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@GardenGerty (160952)
• United States
17 Apr 16
I liked the occasional poetry challenge, but you know, I probably did not just write the poem and leave it at that. I am always talking, it seems.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Apr 16
@rosekiss I think a lot of my irritation comes from protection of this site, and missing some of the old ways of the site as well. I don't mine the creative writing (I'd be a hypocrite if I did) but sometimes these challenges get out of hand.
I agree, pick and choose, I've got several discussions noone took a liking to at all.
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@TheHorse (220229)
• Walnut Creek, California
17 Apr 16
@GardenGerty I like creative poetry challenges. But I mostly only write Haiku.
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@LadyDuck (472097)
• Switzerland
17 Apr 16
I have seen many users treating myLot like a common writing site. We are here to discuss. I have nothing to say to a post that mention a list of foods starting with the user name. Challenges are boring because you find dozens of posts about the same subject. I hope that Alex will add a line to the rules banning them.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
17 Apr 16
Too many sites like this people start in on the challenges. I agree with you that they are boring. Surely people have plenty of other things to write about without having to do those. I hope too that they will ban them.
I like to see what people are doing in a day--what they are making---how they are feeling---getting to know them.
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@IvySaysHi (4467)
• United States
17 Apr 16
I mean some people may not want to go too in depth in discussion perhaps not publicly. If you dont think someone is writing the way you prefer they do then tell them or just ignore it and do things the way you like. Just my opinion.
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@GardenGerty (160952)
• United States
17 Apr 16
@IvySaysHi I find it funny and sad about myself. I can talk all day here but I get really tongue tied and private in person.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
17 Apr 16
You don't have to go indepth to make a discussion feel inviting.
@IvySaysHi (4467)
• United States
17 Apr 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum I don't know maybe some people just arent great at starting a discussion
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@GardenGerty (160952)
• United States
17 Apr 16
That would be humorous. I often want to ask people, some of them in real live conversations "Why do you think I care?" or "Do you think I can do something about it?"1 person likes this
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Apr 16
I am glad that I Am not alone in the level of aggravation and irritation that I get from some of these so called "discussions."
Sometimes I am tempted to write a definition of what discussion means and ask them if they feel there post can be discussed.
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
17 Apr 16
I only comment on the posts I feel I can say something beside the elongated, wordy version of 'nice post'. I agree the status updates don't invite interaction. I tend to ignore most of them on Facebook as well. I see some interesting 'updates' that make we want to know more. The challenges that are merely lists are boring and probably won't even be read, let alone comments on.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
17 Apr 16
Yet these challenges get done and done over. They aren't commented on but another one does the challenge, just to have something to say.
When it comes to facebook, I only comment on a status if I have something to say, though I might "react" to it.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
17 Apr 16
@Morleyhunt I suppose I would just rather a discussion that invokes thought. If a challenge can do that? THen by all means I'd encourage it. Not alot of them I've seen lately have though.
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
17 Apr 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum I am working on a 30 day challenge. I've taken the list of topics/questions and am trying to give ea h a fresh and unique approach. If someone else wants to try the challenge, I welcome them. I think we can have several different approaches to almost each day's suggestion.
@Castlerock34 (2259)
• Minneapolis, Minnesota
17 Apr 16
It drives me bonkers when I see someones post that is just a couple words, I mean come on!! Isnt there a rule again that? People asking" what is a good topic to talk about?"and thats it. Do you have a brain of your own can you think for yourself, sorry I am just venting a little. I just stay clear of those posts
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
17 Apr 16
It's not just those posts though. It's all of these challenges and then just this "I did this AGAIN today." There's only so many times we can discuss the same topic.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
17 Apr 16
@Castlerock34 See this is where it gets sort of complicated for me to explain. I don't mind that kind of stuff from people who have been here awhile, who I've interacted with a lot, and whom have interacted with me a lot. It's when it's the newbies and I feel that they are only doing it for the money? That is when it gets to me.
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@Castlerock34 (2259)
• Minneapolis, Minnesota
17 Apr 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum True but some people feel good when they can talk about whatever even if it is a reoccurring problem
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@Mike197602 (15512)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 16
I think I'd agree with the majority of what you say.
The thing is this is different from the old site.
Admins are allowing these posts.
I suspect it is because they've no actual bigger picture view of what they want this site to be and they just want members here.
At the moment it is a mish mash...not a writing site but not a discussion site.
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@Mike197602 (15512)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 16
BUT...some posts that wouldn't have been allowed on the old site DO generate discussion...even the diary or food posts.
I think it does depend on the starter and the content.
We've picked up bubblews members and some stick to how it was there whereas I've seen a few who embrace discussion and make really great posts that I have very much enjoyed.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
17 Apr 16
@Mike197602 I get what you are saying... Mylot isnt' the same as what we were used to.. but this whole non quality crap has really gotten on my nerves.
It's like.. you wouldn't work for a big box store, get fired, then move to another big box store and expect the exact same everything... And yet that is what these bubblers are doing. It's driving me crazy.
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@Mike197602 (15512)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum I understand but the bottom line is admin has let these discussions stay up.
I don't like a lot of what I see on here but others do.
We need to attract members here so at the moment I think admin is letting a lot of things go...probably for business reasons.
I don't like a lot but I pass it by and respond where I like to.
I think you need to let a lot of things wash over you in a way and just do your own thing.
Until admin alters the rules we have to just make the best of it.
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@GardenGerty (160952)
• United States
17 Apr 16
First off, I do wonder about you if you are not here. I like the point you make about people who are here for the money but do not make discussions that engage us so that they will earn. Yes, some of these posts could be brushed up to be better discussions and some of them seem to be trying to revive other sites. Personally, I like some of the meal posts, they motivate me. I honestly skip lots of discussions though.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
19 Apr 16
I feel as if I've gone and backtracked a lot here as people make good points. I know you can see where I get aggravated, and even protective of this site. You could also say that I am a bit of, I'm trying to find the wording for this...
Picky I suppose. Playing Favorites is a better term. I don't mean to be, but I do find some posts that people present, even if it's on a topic I don't like, to be interesting all the same. Yet if someone else brings the same thing up, I might get more aggravated.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Apr 16
I give the benefit of the doubt for those whose first language isn't english. The posts I am talking about come from people whose first language is english, or whom have a very good grasp of the english language.
I know participating can be difficult, but I just get aggravated when I see people whom post things so ridiculous, when I"ve also seen them post really good things in the past.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Apr 16
Don't get me wrong, I like some of them, but when it's just a line or two saying this is what I ate... it's annoying.
Gardengerty will tell us what she ate, if seh got it from her garden, how she's had it before, what you can do to make your own, etc... It's more to work with, more to discuss.
Others just basically said "I had chinese." well good for you then? lol
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
17 Apr 16
I understand how you feel about those posts. I skip them ..
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Apr 16
I do too, but they run rampant now and I get annoyed. I suppose this is my "rant" post then haha.
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@akalinus (43372)
• United States
18 Apr 16
What exactly are we supposed to discuss on this site? No matter what we put on here, somebody does not like it. I am honestly getting so I am afraid to discuss anything. I have been discussing stuff that happens in daily life and I found some of them get the biggest number of responses.
For instance, I got a lot of answers for a post where I did something strange to my computer. I like to write funny stuff so I try to find the humor in things. I try to choose carefully and ask others if it happened to them, what they think about that, or whatever.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Apr 16
Bottom line, and this is my own opinion, if any writing does not invite discussion / interaction WITHIN that same post, it is a nuiscance / annoyance. If I see that someone is making an effort, I cut them some slack. if their first language is not English? I cut them some slack.
I don't mean to be a grinch, I really should leave that job to JJ
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@just4him (317242)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
17 Apr 16
I'm probably guilty of some of what you mentioned. I don't mean to write a diary, just what's going on around my neck of the woods. I have seen a lot of one sentence posts lately. They don't have anything to say and you're right, there isn't a lot you can write in response to them. As for my posts, I try to leave a question at the end to draw discussion, and it usually works.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Apr 16
Diary posts are okay if they draw in an audience, but if it's just rambles without anything to respond to? I just don't like those. I've seen a few diary like things and I like them, but then there are others where I just have nothing to say and the author of said posts doesn't seem to want to interact with people either.
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@just4him (317242)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
18 Apr 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum That's sad because this site is all about interaction.
