How to deal with an annoying roommate? / myLot

Shanghai, China

April 21, 2016 10:22am CST

My roommate is keen on knowing every detail of my life. She kept asking me lots of questions from "What did you do today?" "Where did you go just now?" "What is your plan for tomorrow?" to questions like "Which university did your father graduate?" "How much did you spend last week?"... And more than once have I caught her on spot when she was standing quietly and secretly behind my back, staring at my screen when I was working on my laptop. I have told her directly but she never changed. I am fed up with all these. Switching is not available and now I am really trying hard to be friendly.

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11 responses

Yuki

@yukimori (10148)

• United States

21 Apr 16

"Roommate, that's a rude and intrusive question. Please stop asking such things. I won't be answering again." The next time she asks something along those lines, you say, "Asked and answered." I'd also make sure your laptop is passworded and all of your important documents and things are securely locked up in a safe, because it wouldn't surprise me if she'd gone and snooped through your things.

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rosyrose

@vickyrose (2235)

• Cooma, Australia

21 Apr 16

I guess some people are very curious but not aware that it can be annoying to some.

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joy

@MGjhaud (23240)

• Philippines

22 Apr 16

wear an earphone all the time and pretend that youre not hearing her. and face your monitor to a wall and put no space in between so she cant stand behind you.

Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

21 Apr 16

wish I could help b ut Im in the same situation only reversed my roo,mate will not talk to me but she watches every move i make and I w ish she sould just talk to me. you need to find some common ground between you and your rooomiie. odd she wants to know ever little tng abut you she seems to me to go too far. see if you two have any commnm ineress all I can suggest.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (140131)

• Philippines

21 Apr 16

Well, there are so many people like this. For me, I will directly confronted the person and let go of being friends if there is no changes.

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Wendy789

@Drosophila (16571)

• Ireland

21 Apr 16

try to spend more time away from the room? or get her interested in someone else for a change. she sounds kinda lonely and desperate?

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thatsjvl

@jvincent_129 (4994)

• Philippines

21 Apr 16

You should go ahead and get another roommate.

angel_smiles

@Lolaze (5093)

• St. Louis, Missouri

21 Apr 16

Sounds like this gal is nosey and has ZERO social skills. Start responding 'I'm not answering that" to the intrusive questions. As far as looking over your shoulder - yell at her! Let her see her behavior is not okay.

@Daljinder (23236)

• Bangalore, India

21 Apr 16

Talk to her and explain it. You have to live with her. Such thing will cause stress and animosity!

Avinash

@avi256 (8489)

• Pune, India

21 Apr 16

Tell her directly, you do not like this and if it continues, you will change the rooom. Dont give space to let it grow.

faisal ali

@faisal777 (77)

• Pakistan

21 Apr 16

Try to do everything what she don't like find weakness of her don't be friendly because u try to be friendly she do that.