~Nothing Else Matters~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
April 26, 2016 1:08pm CST
My sister and I are usually pretty close. But there is one thing about her that I truly cannot stand. When she is with her husband-nothing else in this world matters to her. I am not talking about in a good way here. When he's home from work she won't hang out with anyone else. When he's around she won't call anyone on the phone. It's like her whole world stops whenever he's around-and she doesn't care about anyone or anything else. It's not like they have been together for a short time either-they have been married for 5 years now!
My sister was in South Carolina with her husband this past weekend so she never called or messaged me for our anniversary. It's not a huge deal, but hear me out if I did the same to her-ALL H*ll would break loose-she would be ticked off at me for months! Lol. My son was in the hospital on her anniversary and I still called-just saying...
Do you know someone who when someone else is around you don't exist to them anymore??
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Apr 16
@marlina Yeah it gets on my last nerve, it really does.
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@DianneN (247184)
• United States
26 Apr 16
I'm sorry your sister behaves this way. To me, family is the most important thing in the world. I love mine dearly. Have you told here how you feel? My husband and I are very close and only have eyes for each other, but we know how to behave around friends and family.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Apr 16
@DianneN Yeah, we have had a talk about it in the past and it didn't go very well. We didn't speak for months because she got defensive about it...
My husband and I are very close as well but I can still enjoy other people's company-especially family. And I can still call someone even if he's with me. I don't get her way of thinking at all.
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@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
26 Apr 16
Shouldnt you point that out to her? Maybe she doesn´t realise that.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Apr 16
@marguicha I have in the past and that led to us not speaking for a long time, because she kind of thinks she can't do any wrong.
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@slund2041 (3314)
• United States
27 Apr 16
I think people get wrapped up in their own thoughts and feeling and forget the feelings of others.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Apr 16
@slund2041 You absolutely got it right here-she is very self absorbed. Even in our conversations-its all about her life.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
27 Apr 16
wow, I don't know if I know someone like that. I don't get alone well with two of my sister in laws but the other two I do.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Apr 16
@ShyBear88 Be glad that you don't know someone like this, it's hard to deal with. I'm sorry you don't get along with two of your sister in laws.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
27 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies they are drama queens so I try to avoid them if I can.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Apr 16
@JudyEv It is very immature. I hope one day she will grow up but I don't know. He loves her but he likes his own space too. He tells her to find a hobby...
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@JudyEv (342145)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies If she is that clingy, it is likely to really annoy him eventually.
@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
26 Apr 16
My brother is like that. When in a social event, he ignores evrything around, just enjoying the pleasures of coexistence. My mother sometimes feels sad and starts crying when he ignores us and just follows his basic impulses.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Apr 16
@quantum2020 That is really sad. I feel sorry for your mother and all of you-that's not the right way to be. It's not nice at all.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Apr 16
@sishy7 Wow sounds just like my sister! LOL. It gets on my nerves because she gets annoyed when I want to now and then spend time with my husband but its perfectly okay for her to ditch me for her husband. Blows my mind!
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
28 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies Exactly! My sister has 4 friends - the five of them girls have been friends since elementary school... And even that, she told me how those friends are getting tired of asking my sister to go out with them as they have to fit it around her husband's schedule so that he can come along. So girls' night out would be girls + one guy if they would ever want to see my sister...
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@41CombedaleRoad (5954)
• Greece
26 Apr 16
She must be a little insecure I guess. Hard on you though because you obviously like a variety of relationships rather than a one to one where one one else matters.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Apr 16
@41CombedaleRoad She is insecure. Yeah, I can be around a bunch of people at the same time and have no issues. I am able to leave my husband's side to spend time with other family members-she literally never does that.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Apr 16
@jstory07 Yes that is so annoying and sounds just like my sister.
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@Juliaacv (51393)
• Canada
26 Apr 16
I find that when my husband's 4 sisters are together, nobody else is in the room but them.
Although I love them all dearly, they are rude to the rest of us, even my husband will tell you that.
I tease him telling him that we should bring a cauldron for them when we get together because they can act like witches--and I know how that sounds, but its true!
I think that every family has its quirks that is for sure.
I don't have any sisters, so I don't know what that close female relationship is all about. And our daughter has passed, so I don't have it there either. I feel like that is something in my life that I'll never really understand. I do however, love, and have a great relationship with our son's better half, Klaudia. She texted me today, and I stopped and laughed because she will just randomly text me xoxoxo, for no reason at all. I feel so blessed that she is in our lives, and I'll focus on those feelings before the negative ones that I feel from some of my sister in laws.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Apr 16
@Juliaacv I'm sorry that your sister in law's are like that. To me that is really rude.
Oh yeah absolutely every family has their issues. I just had to vent about this one because it's been happening for years and it does get on my last nerve.
Yeah focusing on the positive is always a good thing, but talking about the not so good is also healthy which is why I felt the need to do that here. Now I will be able to move on from it.
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@Juliaacv (51393)
• Canada
26 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies That's right, we all have to get it off of our chest. I think that it helps that others will support and understand each other.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Apr 16
@jabouk Yeah, I just don't understand why she does that. But she wonders why she doesn't have friends-I know why she doesn't because she only wants to spend time with them when her husband isn't around...
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Apr 16
@Missmwngi I know no one is perfect, but some people are more thoughtful than others.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
26 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies That might be her imperfection.as a sister just learn how to deal with it lol
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Apr 16
@Brodiedo83 I have done that in the past and it led to us not speaking for a while. Not trying to go down that path again really.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Apr 16
@dodo19 I know, it is very hard dealing with it. It doesn't make sense to me either honestly.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
27 Apr 16
I couldn't think of any right now. I'm a bit afraid for your sister. I wonder how she'll live when suddenly her husband is taken away from her.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Apr 16
@toniganzon Yeah, she will be sorry if anything happened to him because she pushes people away with how she is... It's really sad.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Apr 16
@Leapea2417 Be very grateful that you don't. It gets very hard to deal with.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Apr 16
@SWAP0768 Yes that is how she is. She has pushed everyone away and out of her life which is why she has no friends.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Apr 16
@sgbrown I'm glad that you don't know anyone like that-it gets frustrating. I think she is just very self absorbed to be honest. If it doesn't affect her she doesn't really care.
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@sgbrown (1638)
• United States
28 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies That's sad, Jennifer. Maybe she will eventually "grow out of it".
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Apr 16
@miniam Yes they can. And I hate it. Nah, he isn't like that at all. Whatever she wants to do she does it. She just only cares about things if it involves her directly.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies
Talk to her and let her know how you feel.