I should be ashamed that I am secretly a bit happy
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50973)
Holiday, Florida
May 5, 2016 4:41am CST
I really do hurt for my daughter. She is devastated over the fact that yesterday her bf's mother moved him out to her house.
Needless to say that people here who have followed so many of my posts know this man mistreated her for years (7 to be frank).
Until recently , about 2 months, he hardly ever worked but 4 or 5 days out of 7 years. She has supported him, food, cigs, drove him around and she comes home and does everything I don't do, even on days he is home for weekend all day. In AZ he slept most of the day, then cussed her if she wouldn't run him some where when she came home.
About once every 2 months for a day or 2 he would do some work around the house, usually on pay day, her pay day that is.
here she has gotten him to work for 2 months, by getting him up while he screams and cusses her all the way and when they come home he would be cussing her. I have no idea why some one would put up with all that. but she is broken hearted. I just hope it doesn't hurt to long. so , yes I am ashamed that secretly I am very happy it may finally be time she can move on.
and also he is a drunk and pill addict that she has given him money for when he would cuss her enough to get it.
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17 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 May 16
I understand you being secretly happy and I hope she will be able to move on and not stick with him no matter where he is. I hope she learns to love herself first.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
5 May 16
I sure do also. have been wishing for this a long long time
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
10 May 16
problem is she can't do it right now. she is going to be getting over the heart break because she can't think straight right now
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@Shavkat (140102)
• Philippines
10 May 16
@bunnybon7 I know it is hard to go through this kind of situation. But she needs to herself too. 
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
5 May 16
Correct. When you love somebody, leave some for yourself.
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
5 May 16
As long as girlfriends and mothers will enable these type of men to act like this they will. they will. I hope that your daughter goes forward and stays away from him. For her own good. I fully understand why are happy and, being a mom and I understand. I hope your daughter is through with this guy.
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
6 May 16
@bunnybon7 ...Yes, and I hope you are out of it for the most part now. Although your daughter may try to come stay with you? How do you feel about that?
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
5 May 16
yes I am sure you might remember how many times I have posted about this mess.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
10 May 16
@celticeagle dear I have moved in with that daughter a couple months ago. she lived with me in AZ but came to florida , then I had to move out here with her.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 May 16
I dont think you should be ashamed of it Instead, as a mother you should be happy (as you are) that he is gone for now, and the daughter has time for her, it would be good in case she realizes that the lie she was in, is actually no life at all. i know, I should not be the one to say this, but definitely, out of experience, I have realized that initially, it sounds all good, I am looking after and caring for my man thing, but in the long run, it is only a set of pain that you are inflicting onto yourself.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
10 May 16
yes I wish she could see a future but I think she doesn't.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 May 16
@bunnybon7 Blame it on her age, and her understanding of love.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
12 May 16
yes they are always our babies no matter how old they get
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
5 May 16
I'm so sorry to know of the troubled life your daughter lived. It must be very painful for a mother to see her daughter go through all these hardship and suffering.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
12 May 16
@bunnybon7 I hope one day her BF will realize the suffering and reform himself.
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
13 May 16
@bunnybon7 It's really not easy. I've been there and you just don't see it the same when you're in the middle of it.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
12 May 16
some women have a hard time learning I guess. let their heart predict wrong for them
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@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
8 May 16
I know your daughter is broken hearted right now, but hopefully this is a "good" thing and I can totally understand why you would be happy about this. I remember how you have mentioned how this guy was . . . oh she doesn't need a man like this - no one should have to put up with all that negativity. Yes, with him being removed from the scene, hopefully she will see a better light and forget about him.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
9 May 16
I wish so but I am in fear he may want back and if he does she might take him back. lets hope not
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@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
12 May 16
@bunnybon7 Maybe she needs a new circle of friends . . . hopefully she can meet some other folks to make her realize "this" is not the kind of man she needs or should want. Sometimes people feel like there is no other choice and tend to just stick to what they are used to.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
10 May 16
yes but things are going a bit south now. she is thinking she may not be able to go on and maybe I should be in assisted living so she don't have to worry about me
@Tampa_girl7 (50580)
• United States
18 May 16
It must be hard to see him treat her so badly.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
18 May 16
it sure was and now it is hard seeing her go through the loss. don't know how someone can love one that useless and mean to them
@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
6 May 16
i wish she could've gotten his momma to take'im back 7 years 'go, 'fore so much damage'd been done :(
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
10 May 16
me to. it is such a mess now and I am in a pickle again it seems. not how I expected it to turn out
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
12 May 16
@crazyhorseladycx thanks. your kind words are much appreciated
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
10 May 16
@bunnybon7 oh dear, i'm much saddened to hear'f this, hon.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 May 16
yes and now he is likely coming back. that's what is the worst. who wants to suffer that over and over. dumb it is
@paigea (36316)
• Canada
27 May 16
@bunnybon7 I am sure it is hard to watch your daughter go through that. Take care.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
12 May 16
yes but easier said then done. hard to cheer her right now since I add to her responsibilities
@karjatwala (1120)
• Pune, India
13 May 16
I am sure your daughter will get over it, and will realize that what she has done is no wrong.
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14351)
• West Haven, Connecticut
5 May 16
That sounds like a tough situation to be in, hopefully she can move on fast and forget about that scum bag!
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