How much are you in control of your life?

Hello Do you call all the shots in your life? Not much these past days/months/years - i mean, I am not in 100% control of things. Much of it now depends on my ailments, health. But definitely the rest 60% of it I take my own decisions. I also exclude financial decisions because I know, I was born a spendthrift and now that I have a family and a baby, I cannot afford continuing that way. So it has been years now that I depend on Wifey for financial management. Though sometimes, I feel that money should have been spent on this or that, and sometimes I do break that rule Do you interfere in/control others’ lives? Everyone of us does that - knowingly or unknowingly. Your actions are not always going to be appreciated or even not always going to be disliked. But certainly, when you are in social life (more with family, some with friends, maybe a rare one but still when in society) your actions do have interference. In my case, whether I like it or not, my being sick and ill had definitely interfered and controlled others life's - they could have been leading better lives if they were not with me. No regrets. It was their choice too as I always have kept giving them options. When you give an inch there are the few to grab a yard. What has been your experience? Well, yes, there have been incidents where things went beyond control/expectations. Back when I was in college, I was quite rude and would cut down on anything once I felt that things were going wayward. Age? Now, that I am more mature, and have a better foresight, I prefer to lay down some excuse or the other to cut it down and if it does not work, I say quits. However, this does not work with some special people around. I am happy that times have changed for the better as during my childhood it was rather the norm for others to boss around. Are you sure? I believe it is somewhere to do with your age, experience, that people do not get into messing up with you.

All I can say, I am in control of myself. I am open to any suggestions but still I hold the final decision.

Everyday is a bonus for me too after that near fatal accident I had 10 years ago. I am fine and raring to go.

I used to be easily domitated. Then one day someone told me it is sin to allow anyone to control you as only God can have that kind of authority and to allow a person to do so means that you are putting them before God. Now I am very careful to be my own person.

I agree that we are lucky to be born in a more free world. I have experienced many times that if you give an inch there are some that grab a yard. Growing old we have learned many lessons.

I dont like to be controlled so I try my best not to be controlling. At work, since I am the business owner, I tell people what I expect but I do not stand over them With my thumb on their head. But I also work with the mentally handicap and they will try to control me.

I'd like to think I am in control of my life. I make decisions for myself though I listen to others as well. i try to be as open minded as i can but in the end, it's my call coz it's my life. But the good thing about me is, I know when i'm wrong and I always learn from my mistakes.

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"How much are you in control of your life?" Before I could answer this question, I would have to know who is the "you" being referred to here. Which part of me then makes the decisions? Most of us might think that we make it with our own brain, or with our own minds, I guess, but to me this is not really entirely the full picture. Many times our decisions are made rashly as a result of our not following our mind at all, but from our following one of our emotions instead, or perhaps it is a strong feeling of some sort. This feeling might even include an intuition that is coming to us from our higher self. If this higher self does really exist of course, is this then the real controller of our lives, controlling/ directing it from its own position, or does it leave it up to us to make our own decisions, and it is just happy to guide and to help us in our doing so by providing us with unique insights, and other positional views, that we might not have considered otherwise. At other times, I think we act reactively, following our unconscious promptings and programmings. Just now, for example when I was writing this, I wrote it all in capitals because I didn't realise the caps lock was on. I had to retype it all again. Who was to blame for that action? Who controlled it this action, in the sense of allowing this to take place, in its happening? Me, or my unaware operating conscious mind, which was slow to pick up on this, implying to me that I am not even just this conscious mind, because I can notice when it is not helping me, or seemingly working against me like this, that is if some higher part of me is not keeping it (my mind's, either subconscious or conscious, actions) in check with some type of higher awareness than even this conscious mind possesses. Who ultimately controls my life then? Ultimately I think that God must control all life, given that he exists, yours included too. The freedom that he grants you allows you to make directional decisions about your own life, but not all inclusively conductive ones, or ones that can alter any of God's own ultimate plans for his creation. Our own decisions then are all localised ones that are fitted into God's master plan, but they are often, almost forcibly, chipped around by other inputting factors to fit, or be fitted, into his plan, one way or the other, even when we originally plan not to follow his plan for us, at all, his plan always has its own way of becoming manifested for us, and then we are sort of pushed along it, taking his path for us after all. Some illness might be responsible for changing the course of our life in this way for example, and getting us back onto his path for us in our lives. I have heard it said that if Hitler hadn't come along, somebody else would have stepped up and fulfilled this role, for this too was a part of the master plan, in its own way it was allowed to happen, and was perhaps destined to happen, or was it? This is only my take, (a rather long one too) on this question. I might be entirely wrong about it all of course!